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Could you please help SpeakPp? She has just dicovered her H affair last week and the child he has. Her H is in the military and so is the OW. Any help or advice for her is greatly appreaciated.
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Greetings everyone. I really would be blessed if there is anyone out there who can give some advise on my situation. I'm blown away and a little lost in all of this and haven't the faintest idea what the right thing to do is. Please, if you have a moment. Thanks, Judi
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You have the option of going to her commander, of course this will involve a lengthy process and could get your husband in serious trouble as well as this woman.
at the very least if you pitch a big enough fit they will transfer you and your husband far away from where you are.
But if you have no plans to take this public, then you have to decide , what you want, and what your willing to do to get it.
If You want to stay married, Obviously it might be better to go to your husbands commander in private and ask for a transfer.
You can deal with the rest after you take care of you and yours. There is plenty of time, Dont make decisions based solely on how you feel at this moment. Your feelings wil change and things will get better.
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Sorry to push this to the top again, but I wanted to update and hopefully get some input. We went and saw a lawyer today and he told us to expect $450 to $500 in CS. He said we could put in a Paternity suit here, unless she has put one in where she is already. Is this something we should do, or are we better off trying to make an agreement, in writing, with her?
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Speakpp, I replied to both your previous posts; did you read them?
The amount you were told is similar to what we pay and very reasonable. I'd settle for that in writing, however I caution you again to get DNA testing done FIRST!!
Prayer and good luck,
J (also military wife)
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Thanks Jenny,
I did read your posts and thank you so much for your replies. Nice to hear from someone who's been through it and is also Navy. What a mess. How could he be so dumb? I feel like I don't even have time to be angry about the affair because we are so busy dealing with the issue of her trying to take us to the cleaners for CS. Oh what a tangled web we weave...
Judi
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Do not pay her one red cent until paternity is established.
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If you want privacy and a transfer, I would suggest going to the chaplain. They have a little more power than people think and can assist with transfers without having to disclose all the facts.
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