Lori, if you haven't seen a lawyer, it is time to do so now.
I don't know how our H can be so dumb as to believe that this won't come back to haunt them.
My H was paying child support and helped pay for the baby's delivery. He never did anything legally just sent her money on a semi-regular basis. He had a travel account which I never saw, he also took out a loan which I didn't learn about until a year later.
As we have all seen, the OW/OC situation always comes around to bite you. So the first thing to do when you learn of this situation is get a lawyer and go thru the legal channels, because it will come up later.
However, it seems to me if she was working at a hospital she should have received medical care and should have been covered. However, I don't know. If you know where she worked, you might call, say you are looking for employemnt and want to know how employees were covered medically esp regarding pregnancies.
But of all things now, I'd find a good lawyer, sounds to me she may be planning to sock it to you.

You might also want to do a divorce, but not really like some have done, to protect your finances. Texas is a common property state and you might get the judge to give you everything and then he has nothing for the OW to asses for her CS. Then after the CS is settled you can get back together.
(CATNIP, LYNNG where are you?)
Check in with these ladies, they are very helpful. Just post for them and they will respond. CD is a good source also.

Keeping you in my thoughts.
TG

Well, my h has consulted three different attorneys, first when she wouldn't go for the test and was claiming to want nothing, then when she filed for support. They all say the same thing....she will get 20% of his pay, medical for the baby and half of uncovered medical (comes to $450+ per month), the grey area is the back child support and pregnancy costs. He will have an attorney go with him to the negotiation, but beyond that, he hasn't done much else. When he had the first meeting, he was advised by all three attorneys to NOT take me with him, they thought it would be detrimental to the marriage and to the negotiation which I found interesting. I'm not sure divorcing will do anything...and it's moving too fast. They negotiate support on 2/27, in TX divorce takes at least 60 days. We don't have children of our own yet, and I moved half of our money into my own accounts the day after D-day when I was planning to divorce him. I haven't moved it back and each payday I take half of what would automatically go in our savings account and I move it to my own account to keep things even. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> My husband works as a Corrections Officer for one of the local counties, and he is a licensed peace officer, so they will find him and garnish his pay. Not that he would try to evade this, but not having assetts won't matter.

Good question. I believe, and it has been a long time, that if you don't give a fathers name, you don't get assistance. As it should be.

Why should tax payers be forced to foot the bill? What I wonder is why a woman is putting herself in a fiancial situation she can't afford?

They have no intentions of going it alone. If they can't get welfare without naming a father, why would they not name the father? I thought going it alone meant just that. Alone. No assistance. I would advise to to this legally from the get go. Nothing but trouble if you don't.

What I wonder, is why are the fathers being forced to pay 100% of medical bills?????? OW is 50% at fault here. Why on earth is a man forced to take 100% of the financial responsibilty for anything? That is wrong.

If she was going it alone, why would she even need assistance?

I agree Lynn...Also in the state in which I reside, if you don't reveal the identity of the father the women is not entitled to assistance but the children are entitled.

My question exactly...why would my h have to pay the full cost of insurance? Not fair if you ask me.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> why would my h have to pay the full cost of insurance? Not fair if you ask me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree. The OW should be responisable for 50% of the medical cost. My H has to provide insurance for OC and pay for what ever medicaid pays.