Catnip,
I was reading a post put up about contact with the OC. I was rather upset to hear you ask for the topic to be closed because it had been gone over, "a bazillion" times. Just because you may have been at this longer, does not mean that there may be others out there who are new to these situations and could use all the input they can get. Please don't cheat them out of any kind of help or understanding that they may get, just because YOU are tired of reading about a particular topic. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Have a nice day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

that's a good point, screwed. maybe it would be good for some to try to remember that not everyone has been here for the other bazillion times, and that the board should belong to all, no matter how short a time they've been here...

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I'd like to remind you of a portion of the Marriage Builders Policy & Agreement you signed when you registered on this site....

"we at this BB reserve the right to delete any message for any or no reason whatsoever"

Locking the thread was MY choice after several member's complaints, not just Catnips.

If you have any further complaints or questions, please feel free to email me...

TO SCR </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I was reading a post put up about contact with the OC. I was rather upset to hear you ask for the topic to be closed because it had been gone over, "a bazillion" times. Just because you may have been at this longer, does not mean that there may be others out there who are new to these situations and could use all the input they can get. Please don't cheat them out of any kind of help or understanding that they may get, just because YOU are tired of reading about a particular topic. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

I AGREE WITH YOU 100%

I believe that the point of contention for closing this thread was not what you may think it is. Having been around for quite a while, I've seen threads such as the one that was just locked turn pretty ugly. Now, if you really want to see or hear other's opinions on contact or no contact, from the MB pov, you can look at the threads like ktbunch's about what they are going through with their current visitation problems, or you can look at older posts about those who've been there, tried it, and either failed or succeeded. I agree that the newbies can learn from posts about contact, but not the ones where a lot of judgments are being past and comments being made to make those who've chosen no contact feel bad.

If you are truly curious, and need the advice, why not start a thread with your specific questions, and I know that many of the vetrans can assist you with those questions.