For those of you who are dealing with a pregnant ow. I have a very happy ending to share with you.

I have been helping a young woman, with a 2 year old daughter through a rough time. Her H had an affair and the ow was pregnant. And, she played all the ususal games that ow do. She would not ask for tons of cs if the Husband would be a father. Called their home, begged for him to see her. Actually had the nerve to expect his man at the birth??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Fool.

Anyway, our little sorority of older <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> (wiser?) women were there for her. She had a great attorney. Filed for legal separation, etc. Her H was panicing to say the least. He was desperate to keep his wife and daughter.

Well, the ow had her baby. The smug, self rightous ow, was proven to be a liar. The child was not his. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

By following the advice of their attorney, whom they hired early, they are now in the process of suing ow. She had sworn that she was not with anybody else etc. She had spent months begging and pleading this man to be a father to her child, wanted them to work this out. Sound familiar? She is now facing a mountain of legal charges, which include extortion, fraud and legal fees.

The OW and her family are in an uproar! They feel that this isn't right, since she just had a baby. I guess they think the whole world should revolve around them huh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> They had no problem with ow harrassing this family for months. And they say the BW lives in denial?

I am so excited for them. This just goes to prove that sometimes, these things work out. This fine young couple can spend their lives together without the inconvenience of an oc in their lives. Hopefully the husband learned a valuable lesson. I also hope she can truly forgive him.

Just thought you would want to know that things can change quickly.

While this couple still has to work through the infidelity, they at least don't have to deal with the whole oc situation.

Sweet <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good to know that there is still JUSTICE somewhere in the world!

I am so happy that another marriage will NOT be plagued by all the madness pg. OW can cause!!!

Praise the Lord!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Sincerely, KTbunch.

wow... wow.. thank GAWD!!!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> HAPPY, HAPPY, JOY, JOY. !!!! I could only hope that more turn out this way <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Gotta love the Get Out of Jail Free Card!!!
And a possible bonus to boot!

Sad that these situations have to come to this.
Its an emotionally costly situation for all sides.

Stacia

We have seen 3 or 4 turn out like this on this board alone. It just goes to show why DNA testing is so important.

We did our testing ourselves. Well, that is to say that we did the swabbing of cheeks ourselves. We have had visitation with OC. I just wanted to be certain and H agreed. When you do it yourself it is cheaper but not legally binding in court. If the first test had shown that my H wasn't possibly the father, we would have had to go through the courts, but so far, we have all managed to stay out of court, settle things between us and still keep us legally protected by contracts between us showing the payments as child support, not gifts.

The one aspect we have done is wills and a life-insurance policy. I don't want OC to be able to take what we have worked for together if my H should die, but we also don't want her left uncared for and unfed.

So, get your legal ducks in order.

MJ

So glad to hear a happy ending to Ow & OC story. I pray this couple can overcome the infidelity issue & have an even greater marriage.

Thank God!!

God Bless,
BG

Lynn,
Just wondering how can they sue? And what charges does OW face? I mean you said extoration.


Dawn

OW signed an affidavit stating that she had only been with mm. MM/BW attorney was hired early. He clearly had stated to OW that if she was not pregnant, or if oc turned out to NOT be MM's,and she knew it was possible that someone else was the father, that she would/could be facing legal charges. That the couple had expended funds for legal counsel and that she had better be sure. They were in the process of working with insurance companies in regards to medical expenses incurred and what their liability would be.


So, she signd the affidavit stating that she had not been with anyone else. And couple was had to assume oc was his, therfore purchasing an insurance, etc. When oc turned out to NOT be H. The couples attorney started filing paperwork for fraud, extortion, etc. What will happen is anyones guess at this point. However, since she knew that obviously he may not have been the father, all of her phone calls, and harrassment and trying to swing deals on medical bills, etc. appear to be theft by swindle. What the exact wording is, I do not know, as I haven't been privy to the papers.

This will probably not hit the courts for awhile. Obviously I have not read/seen the papers that are being drawn up. I can ask BW for more specific info. The last I heard was that she does know who the father is. That man is out of work, sg and she can't find him. She was trying to pin it on MM to get $$ from him. SHE was an ow who "didn't want all the coldness of laywers and courts involved" She wanted cs and was going to settle for a minimal amount and wanted it all to be done in an "adult, friendly manner". In other words, she was hoping that she could persuade this couple to pay her child support, and have all the details agreed upon without any of the hassle of legal aid and DNA tests. Had they gone that route, they would be paying for a child that isn't his.

I do know that ow has agreed to pay the legal fees to date, DNA test,and the cost of the insurance policy. She sold her car to do so. So at least she is taking responsibility for her actions. Her father has been trying to get the couple to drop everything and just move on. Probably good advice. Probably easier for everyone involved. But BW is still angry and wants to pursue this. Only time will tell how this all ends up. OW father has hired her an attorney and I guess the laywers will be meeting soon to hammer out some issues. I will keep you posted.

OW father has hired her an attorney and I guess the laywers will be meeting soon to hammer out some issues.

Gawd .... wouldn't you have loved to be a fly on the wall when OW Father learned his princess is a liar who signed legal papers fraudulently !!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> And on his nickel !!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I bet Ow Father's done a Google search for "chastity belts" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

How far does a parent go when dealing with an adult child's immoral-illegal decisions / behavior ??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Pep

And HE was so sure his little daughter was taken advantage of by the mean MM, as they all like to portray themselves <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> They were so innocent <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I will give ow a small amount of credit for selling her car and paying the couple for the insurance policy, and their legal bills to date. At least the light of reality is on in her head. The world does not revolve around her and her child.

Hmmm, I remember when I had my first baby. Husband at my side, grandparents in the waiting room. Flowers everywhere!!! Smiles and happy faces when baby was finally here, healthy. The little mini-bond with the women down the hall who gave birth on the same day. Sharing stories and looking at each others bounty of gifts!!! Greeting the new mothers arriving, in early labor as they look scared and excited. I remember all of this with such warmth and feeling. I just can't imagine the horror of delivering without the father nearby cause he is with his wife, only to have a laywer come in with legal papers in hand, stolling with the counsel from the hospital discussing the paternity of baby "oc" and that tests need to be done immediately. Then having ow father argue, in the hall "that this is not the time or place", only to be told "this is none of your concern, and the tests will be run today". Imagine the woman in the next room hearing all of this? You can bet late at night when the new moms are up, and talking that little snipet must have been quite the news!! Oh for sure, it was none of their business, and should not have been repeated. But come on. Reality is what it is!!!

Hello,
Just a question. Do you know when someone applies for CS with the child support agency, do they have to signed an affidavit stating that they were only with the person that they listed as the father? I mean I know it must say list the possible fathers. What if they fail to list all of them?


Dawn

Well, no man with a good attorney is going to let any dollar leave his hand unless a test is performed to establish paternity.

Here is where the ow open themselves up for lawsuits. If she signs ANTHING stating that there is no way, 100% postivie, etc. and then the couple are spending $$ on attorney fees, insurance for his 50% responsibility, etc. and that child turns out to be anothers? OW is in trouble.

Never navigate these waters without a laywer. I see where some men end up 100% responsible for the medical? HELLLLLOOO 50% is 50%. We have an insurance policy that specifically will only cover 50% of the bill. So if oc has a $1,000 medical bill. Our share is $500.00 OW has to cover the other $500.00 Why should we buy a policy that covers 100% THAT is where a good attorney will save you $$$.

As for the CS, each state is different. But even naming a man and having him not be the father can get you sued today.

Thans Lynn,
I know here the papers state list all possible father and then you have to sign at the end stating that what you put down is true.

Dawn