Hey I am a ordinary 26 year old women who found out that her hubby was cheating with a co worker when I was 2 months pregnant. He got me to a point when I confronted him and her that I believed them that nothing was true. But I kept investigating and found out that both of them lied to me. When I was 6 months pregnant everything blew out. The truth came out and my husband is in huge trouble because of that. I am hurt so bad that I thought about abortion, suicide and other stuff. This is our first child and I am currently 8 months pregnant.But I am still not over it. We do counseling and he is really trying hard to show me that he regred it. But the pain is so deep inside of me. I imagine them having sex almost daily and being pregnant while that happened is not making it better. I catch myself blaming the child sometimes. But now my only hope is my baby. Please I need some help on how to handle this issue. It is eating me alive each day. I cry each day. The women is still working with him. He tried to transfer (he is military) but at this moment they looking at getting him in trouble for infidelity in the military. Even I didn't asked for it. Now I am facing also financial problems since they are taking his rank away what means less money for my family. I am confused and burned out. I am not even sure if it is worthy to work it out. Can I trust him again? How do I know he will not do it again? Please help!

I'm really sorry that you are going thru this. But here you will find people who understand and help you put some kind of sence to it. You don't know if he will do it again. I don't know if my H will see the XOW again. All I know is God brought us together for a reason and I love him will all my heart. As long as I feel he is making a change and making a difference in my life, thats all I have to go on. Trust is a long process. And don't know if we will will ever completly get there. We are working on it everyday. We still have a long way to go and don't know what's going to happen once the OC arrives in September. But I am here and we are going thru it together. With God's help and lots of prayer I'm sure everything will come. I know its hard to not think about it, but I'm tring to think about how our future and making sure we never loose sight of each other's needs and wants. We have developed an attitude if it's important to you, than it's important to me. Even the little stuff, notes, cards, just a kiss because. If you truly love you H and feel God can help you thru this, than anything is possible.
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Sounds like you H is really being punsihed for this.

Did the OW get the same treatment? Pay cut ect?

Do they still work together in the same office or what?

I am sorry that you are going through this. I feel lame even saying it for what seems like the milionth time to someone but it's true. The pain is always real and so fresh. Add to that the already emotional rollercoaster of being pg and BAM!!!!

I know how devastating this is. You are not alone.

Although most here on this particular forum are dealing with a pg and OC from A & OW, you are always welcome anyway.

We can all understand your feelings and emotions in this.

Eat right, take care of yourself. This is too much stress for you to be dealing with right now, I know and with a baby on the way---it makes it all the more unbeleiveable.

God bless you.

I am sorry to hear about your issues. I pray that the Lord be with you always to comfort and guide you. I know what you mean by being depress. When I was 6mos pregnant I found out that my husband has been corresponding with other females online. That hurt me alot because I never thought he would do that to me. That does produce a question in my mind that he probably was cheating on me, I cant prove it but by his actions I'm sure he was.
I was very stressed out throughout my pregnancy and even had to go on bedrest my last month. My marriage fell apart before during and after my pregnancy.
It is very important that you stay healthy by eating right and trusting in God to help you. That was what I did. I moved out of my home and am staying with family. My husband and I are fighting custody issues and he has filed for a divorce.
This whole thing has only brought me more closer to God. I know He is helping me and I trust as long as you trust Him, He will help you too.