OW father, after review of all the legal mess his daughter (ow) is in, and facing what could be financial devastation, has pulled the attorney and is leaving his daughter to fight her own battles. Poor guy must have really been shocked at the depraved pathetic mess his daughter really is.

In anycase, the attorney he had hired, agreed to one meeting with ow along with the MM/BW and their attorney to discuss a settlement. If the couple choose not to accept, and want to continue on with the suit, she will be on her own.

They had the meeting and from what I have heard (2nd hand) the ow has offered $5,000 to end the legal proceedings. I spoke with a mutual friend and the couple said they will get back to her attorney today with an answer. Sounded like they are going to take it, but they want to make her squirm as long as they can.

So it may be over. It is quite a situation. OW was facing mountains of legal fees and time in courts, etc. She is on maternity leave and will be going back to work soon, and the baby is a new born. But she lost her car, her parents have pulled any financial support to her, she has bills for the birth, with no insurance. So, I guess we as tax payers will now be footing the bill for a woman who doesn't respect herself enough to either protect herself from pregnancy, or is unable to afford the children she bears. These women asssume that somebody else, or anybody else should contribute financially. The thought never enters their heads to actually take care of this on their own.

So, it appears that a couple can sue an ow and win. Interesting. I think this is a good thing. I think it is good that the OW is getting slapped by the reality of what she has done. OW spend so much time blaming MM or the BW or anyone but themselves for what has happened. Rarely ever looking at themselves and saying "boy did I hurt a lot of people with my actions, I guess I deserve this" Nope. They cocoon themselves in some veil of martyrdom. As if they are some how sheilded from the laws of society and decency. As if the world should not judge them, etc. Living in a dream world.

There are laws, defined and held up by courts. Then there is the law of nature. And what these women don't understand is that fair or not, the laws of nature view them harshly. Their reputations are tarnished. People do talk. OW may think if she walks around and pretends, it will go away is deluding herself. She basically wears the invisible, yet brightly seen scarlet letter. The laws of nature, hypocritical as they are still frown on loose women. They are still judged harshly. Yet we still suport the loose man. Not fair. But it is the laws of nature.

So as this ow is now facing the real and harsh fallout from her actions, she has a child. A child that no man wants. A child without a dad. She has created this for him. She can blame the MM, she can blame the other men/man in her life. Using the well worn "it took two". She can whine and cry about how much they are missing out on. But the bottom line is she created that life for that child. She CHOOSE to have a baby without a willing and commited man. In the case of many MM, they choose to walk away, preferring their families and their wives to a life with ow/oc.

Just another sad story. People hurt. Lives ripped apart. The couple will still have to deal with the pain and anger his affair caused. The ow will be facing night feedings alone. How sad.

Had everyone in this situation (and my own, and yours) lived with honor and integrity and MORALS, this wouldn't have happened. Had the husband not been a lying cheat, his wife wouldn't be hurt. Had the ow had a shred of decency,she would not be out having sex and making babies with men not committed to her. The COMMITTMENT is what matters. The MARRIAGE does matter. THAT is what creates and nutures happy, healthy secure children.

How sad.

Can you fill me in on why the couple had to sue OW ? What was she pulling on them?

Lynn, if you read an earlier post of today regarding OW/OC.. the Bible.... I am frustrated myself with this "Oh I'm so pure now and everyone must bow down to me cause I had a baby" crap.

We had babies too .. will you read my post? Wouldn't mind a good response to it from LYNN G! HAAA!

<small>[ March 09, 2004, 02:49 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

I will go and read your post.

They were able to sue her quite easily. She named a MM as the father of her baby. He had to tell his wife. He was sure she had been with others (as they usually have been) and their attorney advised them to get some legal ground work done. So OW swore that nobody else could be the father as she was only with MM. MM and BW look into their legal position and all along are paying an attorney to look out for their best interests. They purchase a insurance policy (covering 50% of the costs), etc. HOWEVER, the attorney also demanded that the ow contact his office either by her attorney, or whomever upon the immediate birth of said child. Child is born. Attorney shows up at hospital, with court orders for an immediate DNA test. OW and her family are infuriated. Test results come back. MM is not the daddy. MM/BW and attorney, now armed with her sworn statement, file charges. This couple had purchased insurance etc. all based on the affadavit. So, they cancelled policy, as child was not his. The company would not reimburse, so ow was forced to, insurance fraud is a biggie. She also had to pay their legal fees to date.

THEN they were clobbering her with a lawsuit for fraud, theft by swindle, etc. OW was willing to ask for far less CS then the courts would give. She didn't want the courts involved. Wanted to do it in a friendly and easy way.

So, her dad hires an attorney to fight the mean old MM and his BW. Only to learn that his daughter was in deep and that MM/BW had just cause to sue. He backed out. She wants to settle.

LOL.

I will go and read your post later.

I'm sorry but it is so sweet and enjoyable to read about justice being served. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

The offer was not $5,000.00 It was for $3,000.00 They are going to take it. But the laywers have to do the paper work. OW gets to pay the laywer fees too!!

I love this story. I am so happy that the child was not the husbands. It doesn't take away the infidelity, but it sure makes it better. I love that the ow was beaten at everyturn in her quest to get $$. I love that her obvious lack of character was so well highlighted! Such a great ending for the wife.

The saddest thing of all, as this was all unfolding, she kept up her irrational hatred and obsession with the wife. Bizzare thought process.

BW is going to piss the money away on a day of decadence with her friends!!!! Spa treatments for everyone!! Massage, facials, champagne lunch!!!! What a great way to blow the money. Guess who gets to go???????? ME <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh that's a great story and gives hope for us all. I think if these OW where more responsable finanually for their actions they might stop and think. I think that is why our OW doesn;t want attorney involved. (Nothing like stoneing in the old days) But if they would have to pay for the counceling, for the family, (they involved the family) And the stress that all of BW go thru. The docotor visits for the stress ect. I know in the state where our OW lives they have what is called allienation of effection? I'm checking into this. (But I think you H has to leave & go to OW) But if there was a law to protect the mothers & fathers who stay commited to their family, then the people involved in distroying it should be liable. I know that God will hold them accountable but it would be nice if a law in place to say ok if your guilty of distroying a marriage then you also should have to pay for all the pain you caused. Like I said stoneing was a good way to handle it, not too many people wanted to get caught.

That is jsut terrific! Good for her, and good for her that she had your "sorority" to turn to for help, advice, guidance and support. Really.

I hope you all really enjoy yourselves. She deserves it.