Well I should have known this was going to happen. H called and he is detained at work and can't make it to the attorney's office!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> This really makes me angry. I did reschulde for thursday and if he cancels this time, thats it. I go on the 22nd to my attorney for the seperation papers and they can be for real!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> I don't think he's serious about this as I am and I really don't know what else to do. I just told him fine. I'll tell him about thursday appointment when I get home. This really really hurts me ! Maybe he really couldn't leave work, but he knew an hour ago he couldn't get away why didn't he call me? I had to call him to make sure he was on his way, and then he told me. I might not be home when he gets home. I think I will call and tell him I'm going to eat w/ a girl friend and he can just go home and baby sit our D for a change. I'm just sick to my stomach. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
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<small>[ March 17, 2004, 01:46 PM: Message edited by: sunnydale ]</small>

I am so sorry. I would feel the same way. They really tend not to take things as seriously as we do and that is as annoying as heck. I wish I could say more.

Sunny,

I hope you did get out, it is a good thing to be "away" from it. Even if it is only a little while.

Your H sounds a little like mine (fogland) I hope he really couldn't be at the lawyers on time. He may not want to deal with it right now but he has too, think they all feel that way. They just want it to all go away, & let us worry about details, or not talk about it at all, forget it happened like OC will go away along with our pain, hurt, anger disappointment.

I pray he will make the appt. on Thurs. & more importantly I pray that OC is not H's. At least that would end part of the mess. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I went home to get my D. H had to work late and I spent enough time away from her today so my friend came over and we talked. She soo great she really doesn't take anyones side and she tries to make be see things from different angles. Love her to death! She can calm me down in most of my fits, even if it's just to hold me til I'm finished. My daughter went to spend the night w/a friend and H & I went to some friends house, they are having a fund raiser party for Make a Wish (Something they do every year) My H is on cooking Comm. We had a good time and came home late. I did however look at his phone and the OW number is on there. I'm angry again and tired of being disrespected. I've just about at the end of my rope. So I will think about what I'm going to do and say, before I say and do anything. Started writing a GOOD BYE YOU A/H letter. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I just don't know what to do. I so want this to work but I can't do the contact w/ OW like this. Calls me then 2 min later calls her? For what to tell her listen I'm going to p/u my W so don't be calling me tonight? Don't know. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Sunny

Sorry you have to go through this. Maybe you should go to the lawyer without him and file for seperation. Maybe this will scare him straight? It just might show him you mean business and won't put up with his crap any longer. You deserve better than him treating you like a doormat

I'm so sorry sunny. This is so frustrating for you.

What did H say about the call from his cell phone? How long did the call last (sometimes it will report "duration of call"). Interesting to say the least.

Was this call AFTER the one you called to tell him about the lawyer? Is he telling her about you guys hiring an attorney and the separation? If so......that is really low and information that she does not need nor deserve. But H shouldn't even be talking to her anyway!

I'm angry for you on that one! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I will be going to the attorney for her state thursday. H wants to wait and see what happens and get some of our stuff taken care of.? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I will find out then if I can sue OW. If I can I am. I'm so fed up, its unreal! Hes making excuses and said we have plenty of time before the OC gets here. Nope not going to wait my life away. He just doesn't want to end the contact. So I'm a big girl and I can. A friend told me to draw up the papers and state that the OW can't be around my child because I fear for her, hurting or being mean to her. Based on the crap she has pulled w/ me and not to mention my marriage. And tell him to sign it or I take everything! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> So was he working late or did he go see her? Don't know. If he will lie about something as small as a phone call, what will he lie about? I just think me and my D deserves someone who will respect us and be faithful to us. He not only cheats on me, but her also, in my book. I'm really praying that the job comes through and I can just leave. But then again I HAVE NO CAR!!! It was stolen monday. Maybe thats God way of telling me not to run? I think I'm giving up, I just can't live w/someone who I have to run and check up on all the time. Don't want to live that way. It takes two and he tells a good story but only shows it 2/3rds of the time. The other 1/3 is her and I think thats why he doesn't want to do the attorney thing. I think maybe hes waiting on me to get the seperation papers where everything is "nice and sweet" meaning 1/2 & 1/2 and then hes gone. He quilty and in our state that means YOU ARE SCREWED!!! And we do have alot to split. Not to mention he told my D that we where like the 3 musketeers? Always together no matter what? Now what am I going to tell her? Yep its all moms fault. maybe when he gets the papers he will straighten up or get out. Really he can have the house, motorcycle, camper. And pay for them too. I'm taking the cabin, and he can just pay out the ying yang for CS. My state does really well of CS!! It really is over what is needed but they fiqure you deserve it. And I do. He has no reason what so ever to see someone else I meet the emotional, sex, everything. And if he wants a preg LAZY heifer that wont get off her A** to clean the house then so be it. It will never work w/ them, when you destory someone elses life to be together like that it's nothing but trouble. And I think God will take care of that for me.