i am having a hard time understanding this. if the bs on tis site have such a hard time with ow why do you read on TOW board?

i am not trying to be insulting or belittleing in any way with this question but it seems to me that in your positions who cares what those people say or think. the 2 sides are never going to see eye to eye anyway.

i can't imagine reading consistantly on an om,s board. maybe once or twice to try and find out the why's of a man taking the risk of throwing his marriage and family away. but to continue just to fins out what the negative things they are saying this month are puzzles me.

personally i think that i know the why's from a mans standpoint.

pops, I do not think members of this board see eye to eye, let alone other boards.

The difference being, that I am a BW without contact, H's and my choice.

Even though we are holding on to our marriage, and rebuilding it, we do not agree on how it should be done.

You never mention OM's wife , or children , from the marriage.

Sometimes, I pick up vibes that you also resent OM's wife, even though she is inoccent.

There are too many differenent circumstances on this board to agree.

ember

I don't expect everyone here to agree. I rather like that we don't and I enjoy debating for one. I also respect others opinions and choices.

When I think I have something of value to add then I do, if not I don't.

I can't speak for anyone else but he reason, I would go to look, at first was just plain curiousity. i had never heard of anything like it but it kept being mentioned so....

I stayed away forever because I knew it would jsut be too much for me.

Eventually I thought it would bring some insight into our situation getting OW POV. I think that's mostly why BS read over there.

BUT I can never get OW POV because those women are not the OW in my life so really.......it wouldnt' matter. I secretly hope OW in my life finds that site so I can see into her thoughts and feelings and put some method to her madness.

I really would like to understand her wacky behaviour or else I just think she really is mentally unstable.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by pops:
[QB] i am having a hard time understanding this. if the bs on tis site have such a hard time with ow why do you read on TOW board?

=^^= I didn't even know a TOW board existed until two and a half years ago when we started getting several OW's hijacking our threads and harassing one of our gals. There were a lot of board wars back then. Then we got the little "monitor" showing who was lurking on our site and I noticed that we had a lot of "guests" that turned out to be regular lurkers from TOW. They were here constantly and reading our threads and posting the ugliest stuff. I was also alerted by a couple of members that our topics and discussions were being mocked and pulled apart over there. I was really curious to see what was being said aso I went over there to observe. The only time I got my panties twisted was when they were congratulating each other and chortling with glee about their success on inflicting even MORE pain onto a BS. They seemed so incredibly ugly and mean spirited that it pretty much reinforced my opinion of them.

Frankly, aside from being appalled, I was so grossed out and offended by their unlady-like behavior, I realized that as a whole, they weren't a very nice bunch of people and wished us all a lot of ill will. In short, they had/have no heart. So, I have enormous pity for them. Now that I know they are unreachable, I don't waste my time posting to them but will read every week to keep up for basic FYI. I also find it ironic how they go on and on about how they never read here (they doth protest too much) yet they know everything we talk about and bring it home to their board to discuss, even plageurizing some of our members. At least they aren't posting here anymore and showing that much respect anyway.

i am not trying to be insulting or belittleing in any way with this question but it seems to me that in your positions who cares what those people say or think. the 2 sides are never going to see eye to eye anyway.

=^^= That is soooo true. It ain't ever gonna change. And that's OK. I don't care about that anymore. I realize it is all defenses and perspective...and mostly immaturity I suppose. I find it hilarious how they get so outraged and so indignant over thoughtfully presented topics over here while they go screaming, shreiking and carrying on like a bunch of surprised clucking chickens as if WE are the perps. It gives me a great deal of satisfaction to know that they are so annoyed by our opinions that they spend enormous amount of time discussing MB on their site even if they are just hurling insults. There's that old adage about there is no such thing as bad publicity. So even if they are constantly lurking and bad-mouthing, at least they keep talking about us in their obsession.
I admit to tweaking and I shouldn't do it, but they are so easy. It's mean and reduces me to their level. But, hey, even I like to go slumming occasionally.

i can't imagine reading consistantly on an om,s board. maybe once or twice to try and find out the why's of a man taking the risk of throwing his marriage and family away. but to continue just to fins out what the negative things they are saying this month are puzzles me.

=^^= You're right. It sounds like we are all (on both boards) spoiling for a fight. It's like we want to hurl insults to each other from our own safe perch. It's stupid and childish and for you, Pops, because you are right, I'm going to stop lurking over their...even if I need a good laugh. It's human nature to counterattack, but it is divine to resist the urge and aspire to a loftier goal of removing yourself from the underbelly of social decline.

personally i think that i know the why's from a mans standpoint.

=^^= Well, men have it all over women in this regard. Bipolar might read some of this stuff on both boards occasionally, might even get fired up for a moment but then becomes immediately distracted by Spike TV or Chris Matthews and I've lost him for the next 30 minutes. He's not only over his momentary outrage, but he has moved onto
something else entirely. You are very wise, pops. From now on, every time I get the urge to lurk on TOW, I'll go for a run instead.

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Being an XOW, I first started posting on TOW last May. I was quickly labled the Reformed OW and most of the poster there can't stand me. I honestly do find their behavior repulsive. These days I stick to the children board and get ragged on there also. Not by all, but most