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#827995 04/15/04 11:42 AM
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Got back yesterday afternoon from an overnighter in Las Vegas.

My very hard-working H <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> earned last months bonus which was an overnighter to LV, including round trip airfare and accomodations and a banquet dinner plus some bonus spending cash!

So while the other guys were enjoying their time ALONE @ the strip clubs or whatever, MY H used his bonus $$$$$ to fly me up there and reserve me a room.

His room was very nice but was double occupancy so we got our own AND the most amazing thing happened........He found a really great rate online for a luxury suite, just about %50 off of the regular room rate. He met me @ the airport and we went straight to the hotel to check in. I was going to use the electronic check-in to expedite the process because there was a long line @ the desk.

The check-in said I was reserved for a SMOKING room and I specifically reserved a NON-smoking room so I had to go the desk any way to correct this.

Waited a bit in line..ugh!!! BUT when I got to the desk and explained the situation the guy, "Jason" said that they were totally booked (on a Tuesday?) so he just upgraded my room, didn't think I would mind.

THIS room was a penthouse suite!!!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Top floor, 1500 sq. ft!!!!!!! IT was the most luxurious thing I have ever stayed in or even seen. It was gorgeous!!!!! IT had 2 huge windows w/ a terrific view of the strip and 5 of the hotel's 7 pools. It had 2 restrooms, a bar, living room, huge bedroom. The master bath was sooooooooo HUGE. I think the double shower was as big as my bathroom @ home! There was a jacuzzi tub, big enough for 2, (yes I made good use of that! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

OMG! It was absolutely amazing and totally unbelieveable! The rate for this room is $800 a night!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I/We would NEVER have ever been able to afford that, much less wanted to spend that kind of $$$$$. I still can't believe what we ended up w/! It was soooo crazy! I felt like a queen or something.

We had a great time. I left early in the afternoon on Wed. to return to real life and my H was scheduled to arrive w/ the rest of the guys later in the evening. So he still got to hang out and play some cards and whatever w/ the guys. I know he wanted to play some games and splurge a bit. He's the one that earned the trip, how can I complain?

I had to bite my tongue when he came home w/ nothing ($$$$$) but he said he had fun. Some of the managers got $2500 bonuses and they gambled and spent the entire thing, so I can't really complain now can I?

I just can't believe this room! The hotel was so gorgeous. While H was @ his "awards dinner", enjoying delicacies and luxurious dishes he had never had before; fish that melted in your mouth, steak, lobster, soups, salads, (the food tab alone came to $6000), getting to sample great wines, I went to a museaum and got to enjoy some great artwork by masters such as Renoir, Monet, Van Gogh.

We are just average people, we eat @ home or Mc Donald's. Nothing ever like this. I was/am so proud of my H for working so hard and making this possible for himself and for me. Yes, I did tell him that myself too.

Even though it was just one night, it was sooo nice to enjoy each other w/o the ktbunch. I was able to actually miss them instead of trying to hide from them! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The best part was that it was free for H which made it inexpensive for me to join him. NO real $$$$ taken from the budget or anything like that.

I had one fleeting thought of OW, I don't know why. But I asked H if I could ask him a personal ???, he said yes, I asked, he answered then POOF! It was gone and our great time went on....(& on & on & on & on & on....... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )

See there IS life after the A AND OC. Maybe that should be the title of "the book" for all of us, "Life After the Affair"!

Thanks again so much for all of you that stick up for us and encourage all of us.

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KT,

So glad to hear something FUN!!!!! Sounds like you & H had a blast, I am so happy for you guys YOU especially deserve it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

#827997 04/15/04 02:41 PM
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I'm so glad for you--I hope to get to where you are one day too.

I've only been to Vegas once but would love to go back.

You really deserved that treat.
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#827998 04/15/04 03:54 PM
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Yahooo. Haven't I been telling you that oc will not ruin your life? LIVE WELL LAUGH AND LOVE, lots of lovin!!!!

This is exactly what you needed!! I am happy that you had a get away!! You marriage will be fine. The whole ow/oc drama does not need to control your life at all. So don't let it!! Forget about them and move on, move forward and enjoy the romantic time!! And there will be more too. So let him love you, let him woo you, let him hold you and win you back. Enjoy it!!

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KT I'm so glad you had a great time! You deserve every bit of it!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

#828000 04/15/04 06:24 PM
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I'm soooo jealous!!!!

Glad you had a great time and hope you have many more to come.

I think I read somewhere its your BD on Sat. Have a great one!!

God Bless,
Kris

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Yeah.... just, don't ever live here....... trust me.

#828002 04/15/04 10:17 PM
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Forget about them and move on </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Kind of difficult to just forget and move on, when they live with one of them 40% of the time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

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What a whirlwind KT!!!
Loved reading all about that fun!
Ah!!! A little R&R in a penthouse suite, what could be more fun?
Blessings.
love
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#828004 04/16/04 08:28 AM
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"forget them and move on" Means just that. Forget all about the drama and the crap and go and have fun. No sense in letting the deranged ow in her life control the good times.

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Hi KTbunch-

I hope to get to that point in the future. could you view the post that I posted under your response to me yesterday, or could you email me at sking98@hotmail.com Thanks
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#828006 04/16/04 09:34 AM
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When you said "forget them", I figured you meant ow/oc themselves. I thought if you were saying to forget the drama, you would have said, forget about "it" or at least only include the ow. I'm sorry, my mistake.

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no need to apologize! It was my writing that isn't clear.

I think it ok to forget ow AND oc, especially if you are having contact with the oc. No harm in spending a weekend alone as a couple, and then bringing your family home some presents. Afterall, there still is a nuclear family that the oc is not part of.

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KT, I'm glad you had a great time in my city! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I don't do the strip much (only when people come in from out of town or a good concert), but it is very pretty at night and the shows are great......good concerts too. When you live here you don't do the strip thing. To bad you could of not been here longer to share the beauty of Red Rock, Mt. Charleston or the lake. Next trip you guys should stay longer and see those sites.......they are nice. Glad you had such a great trip.


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