Hey everyone, missed everyone. Had a great time out of town w/ H. It was nice. We where with good friends and H kept telling everyone, he just didn't know what he would do w/o me. I was sooo great <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> And yes I told him to keep it up! LOL. But you would never guess what I had on my desk at work? I had a cute little blue bear, candy, all in a nice dish w/ a balloon that said I'ts a BOY,and a card saying congrats to me, H, & OW. TO MY WORK ! I haven't told anyone about this at work. So I got a number of questions. I guess she tried to embarrass me. Me and H jobs are closly related. People who know me know him, they are freaking. But OW still looks like a whoe dog (like she is) H looks like a bad person,(cause in this field everyone likes me and I am very well respected.) And I look like such a saint for making my M work. So how did this embarrass me? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I must admit I was pissed off for a while to bring people I work w/ into it. Called H when I told him what I had at work for me and he was p-o-ed. He called OW and of course she didn't do it, or have it done, and none of her friends would do that. WHATEVER B.! And she didn't need this kind of crap or stress. Like I said WHATEVER <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I did tell my attorney and I meet w/ her tomorrow. I am going to at least file something for no contact on me. Oh and Wed before I left, got mail w/ OW and MY last name, at MY address. Called the company and they said they head a call to mail information to that person ant that address. The attorney said to bring that too. Can you beleive this dumb w-dog. And then tries to call me at work, telling me she didn't send it. Told H she was going to come by my work to see the card. I told H to tell her to go ahead and I could call the police. H was upset and told me that she is just tring to get to me and he hoped that I wouldn't change my mind or leave. That he was w/ me and that's where he was staying! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> But in our business gossip travels fast and I told him all it did was make him look bad and people where going to look down on him now. I will tell them I support him, but they will still have their opions of him now. Oh got a discription of the person that left it and H knows it was one of her friends! So she is BUSTED! for being STUPID! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I have to go catch up on some of the other post. See ya <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

ROFL What a freakin' IDIOT, STOW!

That's a good one. She's slick, what a "keeper".

Whatever!

Take it all to your lawyer and let it go--she'll get hers! Just wait.
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Movin' on.......in your marriage, Good for you BOTH!!!!!! That's what it's all about. H knows he's lucky to have you, keep rolling in the compliments buddy! You can both get your needs met that way. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh yah, great fodder for the lawyer and the restraining order. She's not even that clever! hahahahahahahahahaahahahahahahah.

These STOW are such losers! I swear!

You keep focusing on you and H. Bring the candy home, if it's chocolate, melt it down and dip some fresh strawberries into it and make some good use out of it for you and H to have special dessert! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Bet STOW would love to hear how you put her little gift to good use. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

Enjoy your H, your daughter and your good friends.

Let people think what they want, H reputation gets a little tarnished, oh well, another consequence that they all have to face. I remember feeling bad for my H when some of our friends started to treat him bad but -----oh well----if you step in it, it's gonna smell!-----they'll get over it and no one matters but you 2 anyway.

You 2 are soooooo gonna make it.........all the way! I am sooooo happy for you right now!

PS: My DH says the same thing, he doesn't know where he would be w/o me either! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> DAMN RIGHT!!!!!!

Sunny,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Take it all to your lawyer and let it go--she'll get hers! Just wait. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree with KT, she gives new meaning to the word STUPID! How hateful & evil, isn't it enough that she is maybe carrying your H's OC but she has the nerve to try & embarass you on your job. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

It is enough to make you wanna hurt the b*!@h. But why stoop to her level use the legal system to your advantage & hurt her that way. Silly cow <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

She is definitely gonna get hers, remember God don't like ugly!

sunnydale your H has to quit CALLING ow...no matter what!
Attorneys make their fees doing the calling.

So sorry for your work flowers!
Hang tough girl! And have H quit calling for everything.

love
Debi

Such a typical OW thing to do.

So happy for you--as KT says I think you guys will make--so tell me how did you do it--I can't remember if you did plan a OR WHAT

I'm proud of you. Way to go--hope to follow in your footsteps.

AMEN! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> He's got the best thang and he knows it. And what they tried to so (OW & friend) didn't work. They are just trying to get me to give up. And showed H how stupid she can be. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> She's just pissed because hes not calling or taking her calls. So she does crap like this so he will call her. I didn't call and when she called me I told her I didn't have time for her.
So she can just bite the big one. Something this stupid will never undo the 5 day of nothing but fun we had. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hope you are doing well KT. Are they not all the same (OW) just like after your trip. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

You know I coined STOW to stand for Stereo-Typical OW but maybe it should just be STupid OW!!!!! bruhahahahahahahahahahahah!!!!

I agree w/ Gemini, don't even let H call her for anything. That is what she wanted, just to get another rise out of him, one way or another! (pun intended)

Just act like it all doesn't bother you and leave it all to the lawyer. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahah!

Let your lawyer slap her silly w/ a restraining order or at least one of those cease & desist things to stop the harrassment. Even if it wasn't "innocent" STOW that did it and it was her friend,....uh hello? HEr friend!

I hope you have tons more trips to your cabin and everywhere else and I would seriously rethink your cruise when "baby" is due, it's not like baby will know or remember you were there or not anyway!

Let her enjoy her one moment of blessing from this destruction she caused and you guys enjoy your blessings while cruising along the Pacific!

I'm serious, let her get support from her devious girlfriends, they apparently know how to send candy and flowers. That will come in handy when that baby is up all night crying and she is all alone in the real world dealing w/ it all by her self!!!!

This was not your choice so no reason for you to lose anymore sleep over it.(not that you were)

What state are you in again? Hey I got another way to use her gift........take all those flowers and pick off all of the petals and scatter them all over your bed tonight, then.......surprise honey w/ some fragrant "romance" on a flower petal covered bed!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Then call her or her friend and thank them for the romantic gesture and assure them that you put it all to good use!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Well, don't really call them but that's a good idea I think for the petals! Unless one gets squished in your behind. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> hahahahahahahahahahahahah!L-O-L

I am making myself laugh today. It's ok, just ignore my stupid humor, I won't be offended! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

KT you are a trip. We live in TN. I get to meet w/ attorney today and go over what I can do. I'm so sick of her already and I have the rest of my life to deal w/ it. She will never go away thats why she got preg. The more we ignore (?) her the more crap she pulls. It's really just showing H how much of a crazy bloom she is. He saw the note that was written and right off the bat said yep, her friend did this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I did take the ballons and candy & bear and save it, I have a baby shower next week and she is having a boy! LOL Something cute to set on the table. If my attorney doesn't need it. I should have just called her yesterday and not even told H till I got home. But she would have called him after I called her. Plus this way I didn't loose my kool or act like I was upset. Just told her I didn't have time for her. Well going to work good morning everyone! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

ahhhh yes, re-gift it ....my favorite thing to do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> It's frugal AND good for the environment. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I know, I'm getting quirky I think. Been spending too much time on www.themarraigebed.com. It's about time for some fun, love, and laughter in our lives.

I have been spending waaaaaay tooo much time wallowing in the misery. It still finds me sometimes but.....it doesn't last as long now. And I try to distract myself (& handsome H) w/ better things like looooooove! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I can think of all the negativity in my life and all my insecurities and focus on trying to figure out the why??? for years but for what.....???? It's over.

I get the man, the family and if I feel really evil I can focus on the fact that I even get 1/2 of OW child!!!! And when OC gets older, especially since she is a girl, I won't have to be her "mother" aka "enemy" but her 'friend'!! ahahahahahahahahah, If OW feels jealous now..........just wait! As it is now, OW says OC is still "emotionally unstable", I call it "behavior problem", whatever, the interesting thing is that OC only displays this wierd behavior w/ OW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> NEVER w/ us, always happy and normal w/ us! hahahahahahahahaahahahahahSTOW!!!

But I digress, I really don't want to focus on that right now.

So anyway, that's my "trip", to have fun and be more positive and live, love & laugh, my ol' self is coming back--------it's about time, I've missed her! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good morning to you and God bless.

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm sorry but I just read this and have to laugh at the stuff the OW and her "friends" will try to pull. It only makes THEM look even more desperate and pathetic. My brother's OW is a complete wack job and tries to get my family to side with her?? UM, HELLO!! She is nuts and refuses to let him go and is so jealous that he wants his M to work.
My OW tried to pull a few stunts (phone calls, drive by, bringing OC to places she knew they would be etc.) to get H's family to see her OC. NO GO! They realized on their own that she is selfish and immature and not a person they want in their lives or in their family and they don't care that she has their "biological" grandchild or niece. My M and my children were what they supported through ALL of this mess their son created. THANK GOD FOR THEM!
I think taking the gift to your friend sounds like a great idea. Don't call the OW anymore though, no matter stunts her or her stupid friends pull. SHE is NOT worthy of your time or any acknowledgement from you or your H. The OW doesn't matter and your H is showing you that by spending wonderful times with YOU while OW is suffering through a pregnancy alone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> That says alot about how much their relationship must have meant.

<small>[ April 28, 2004, 03:05 PM: Message edited by: Fairlady ]</small>

Hey did get to talk to my attorney and we are drawing up a letter for her to leave us alone so she is working on just a NICE letter to see if that works. And like I said our field of work my H gat a call this afternoon conserning his fatal attraction person. LOL She's sooo stupid, I would hate to know that I pulled that kind of stunt just to make people think I'm off my rocker. Does this woman HAVE NO PRIDE for herself. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I just really have to laugh now, but at first I was livid. From now on I will just give the [censored] to my attorney. Hey every one I hope all had a good day. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Does this woman HAVE NO PRIDE for herself. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No she doesn't she is a STOW like KT said. Good for you stop the b*&#h in her tracks, she has played games long enough, & hopefully that stunt will be her last!

I really don't think it will be her last stunt, but I will have the last laugh at her dumb whoe dog butt. I was thinking today God gives us children to love cherish and guide. He did not give us these children to use as pawns in some little sick game that OW play. Like one of the saying "I'll always have a pc of MM". Thats not why god wants these children here and not how he wants them to be treated. I was always told (My Mom) God gave them to use, they dont belong to us, they are loan to us. If he feels they are being used or treated wrong, he will take them away from us. Does anyone else feel that way. I could never use my D as a pawn, I would be to afraid that God would be disappointed in me and feel I was not worthy of such a prize possession. God didn't give us these children just so we can see how much CS we can squeeze out of a MM and his family. To have and use them to get revenge for THEIR (OW) sick twisted mistake. I'm rambling, should have started another tread. It just amazing to me that people have no remorse, no recourse, no nothing for what they have done? I guess if your lost and on your way to hell, what do you have to loose. I'm am so glad I have my Lord, savior and friends like yall to help me learn, teach, and learn to feel again, and even want to pray for my enemy. ( Pray for her, don't want to be her friend) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I just hate it for her when she dies and then relizes what her punishment is for her reactions. Ok I'll stop. GOOD NIGHT SLEEP TIGHT AND HOLD THAT H EVEN TIGHTER!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny over and out.

Update. The OW called and wanted a copy of the card I got w/ my gift. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> She wanted me to fax it to her. I just faxed I didn't have it. She called H a number of times even called SIL about card. H was very upset w/OW. Told me if I had it just to give her a copy so she would stop calling and shut up. Told him I would call her and I couldn't give her something I didn't have. So I called her back and told her that I didn't have it, it was a dead issue w/ me & H. She needed to quit calling about it and don't worry about something that w/ done to me. She said she didn't like people saying she did it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> WHATEVER ! I told her that I gave H the discription of the person that dropped it off, and that was that. We would never find out who did it, so it was over and done and WE where not worried about it. I was calm, to the point, and didn't get angry or upset. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I was so proud of myself! She knows what it said anyway and I will not play her games or let her get a rise out of me! Told SIL that H couldn't control what she did, don't blame him, we didn't fight over it or anything. Just like OW calling H tring to get him to MAKE me do something. NOT going to happen. H can't control what I do or don't do for her. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Told OW I don't know what happened to the card we had a party on Sunday and lots of people where there and could have been throwed away. Let her know we are going on w/ our lives having FUN w/ OUR friends, while she lays up by herself and gets fat! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Well just wanted to update yall and I was worried about calling her, psss. Whe didn't have much to say to me, I think she was shocked that I called. I can control myself!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny

Way to go! She's only calling to have an excuse to call! That is sooo highschool. I can see right through it.

That's right, she's nothing to you. She has been DISMISSED!

But you could let her know what you did w/ the flower petal! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> J/K LOL

Continue to take care of yourself sunny and live and love your H! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Trying to make H that she had NOTHING TO do w/ it. NOT! He knows and is tired of all of the crap. Maybe he's moving from London? (fog thing) Ya think? We are moving on, its hard but we are getting closer by the day, still don't know where we will be in a year, but we will see.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny

London (fog thing) I like that!

This time next year you two and all your family will be fine! I truly believe that & who knows that OC might not be your H'S!!!!!!!

Sunnydale--

Way to go <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Maybe he is coming out of the fog.

Have an excellent weekend with the boat and a great Mother's Day.

Keep us posted.