This is an update of sorts related to my story about the OW who was claiming to have gotten pregnant by husband, had an abortion, yet claimed it was an ectopic pregnancy that was moved to her uterus and demanded payment of $5000. Sorry for the very long run-on sentence.

My husband was talking to the OW's former boss and found out some very interesting information. Apparently, the OW was "seeing" another man while she was having the affair with my husband. This man is married also. She was also sleeping with him, and her live-in/ex-husband at the same time. I guess one man isn't enough for her????

When my husband indicated that he wanted to end their affair, this man started calling her at work more frequently. I guess when she figured that my husband, aka "the meal ticket" wasn't going to pay her the money for her abortion/ectopic pregnancy that's now viable, she invited this man to move in with her. She didn't waste any time, did she? I guess her ex-husband has moved out? I also wonder about this man's wife...are they separated, or getting a divorce? Who knows.

Everyone has kept telling me that she was never pregnant to begin with. Even though I don't have concrete proof of this, I really doubt that she was ever pregnant. Sorry for doubting all of you who told me this...I simply wanted to be sure of it.

The last harassing email that we had received from her was on April 30th. After we contacted the police and asked the phone company to trace all of the harassing phone calls that we were receiving....she stopped. Period. I'm enjoying the peace and quiet and am starting to get my life back.

Yes, I still have to go to court next week to defend myself against her charge of "abusive phone calls" that she claims that I made. But, I think that with all the evidence I have, the case will be dismissed. I hope that the DA will pursue the matter and give her a ticket for wasting their time.

So, my husband and I will pray about this and see what we want to do. Do we take her to court and sue her for all the damage that she's done, or simply let it go? The money isn't the issue...it's the principle. In a way, I want her to get the message that you can't expect to manipulate someone and destroy a family in the process without paying the consequences.

I believe that she singled my husband out from the beginning and thought that he'd be an easy target. She never had any feelings for him whatsoever. Not that I'm excusing my husband's decision to get involved with her, but she strung him along and convinced him that she was the woman for him.

All for the bargain price of $5000.

And no....we never paid her a nickel. Thank God for that!!

A big fat YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

YES as in hooray!
YES as in yes you should sue her sorry @$$!
YES as in hooray again!

I think you should also call this OMM wife and let her know what she is up against! maybe OW is telling THAT MM the same things as you guys! Maybe all those emails were never from her family but from her pretending to be her family! How could they take her so seriously when she is living w/ yet ANOTHER man and married too!!!!!

It is MORE than just principle--------it is a CRIME that she committed! She tried to exhort $$$$$$$$ from you, major $$$$$$$, thousands!!!!! Who knows how much more she would have kept trying to ask for if you would have given her anything!!!!! And don't forget the SS#! Doesn't that make it a federal crime?

DO NOT LET THIS GO!

She will only continue to commit these crimes on other unsuspecitng men and the families they belong too! Yes, your H made this choice but you and your kids didn't and she involved you and your kids! That made it much more than just a H betrayal, she made it into a CRIME!!!!!!

Talk about Fatal Attraction, fatal attraction for a new millenium!

I'm so glad for you. I'm with KT on this--take this women all the and stop her from terrorizing both men and women--I can't believe what people will do--and this OW truly is a disgrace to all women.

It is revolting that people find it okay to do this and to control other people's lives by supposedly being pregnant--a child was never meant to be used in this way-thank goodness she isn't with child because I'm sure she wouldn't teach it any morals. Women like her shouldn't be able to reproduce.

You win--you got her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I had this feeling that she couldn't keep away from my husband for long, because she sent him a message yesterday. We also found out that she had set up another email account, using his AND my personal information. She sent an email from this account to her other account, trying to make it appear that it was from my husband. What she failed to realize was that the originating AND receiving IP address were the same!! Can we say DUH??? She's also not too smart when it comes to changing passwords, because my husband got into her accounts using her old passwords. That's how he found this email account that she had created.

I've now nicknamed her "ol' relentless". It's definitely a better name than what I was calling her. Besides, she's caused me to take up cussing lately, and that's a habit I'd rather not get used to.

Nope, she's definitely not finished with us yet.

Arabesque,

I would be careful with using her passwords and such! Just to be sure that she can't counter file on you and H for harrassment, or try to change her own stuff, but try to make it seem as if you or H did the changes! I would, however, get the info on the "new" email account(s) and the IP addys and add that to your growing pile of info to use in your claim against this "woman"!

I know that you have notified the credit agencies and such of her having the SS# and such, but is there anything else you can do to protect yourselves? I can't wait for the s#!+ to hit the fan with her claims and harrassment!

Good luck!

Tigger

Well, I went to court (the pre-trial) today for the "abusive phone calls" ticket that the OW charged me with. The city attorney is keeping the case open, pending an investigation into whether or not the OW filed a false police report. If he is satisfied that the charges were false, the OW will be issued a citation. If we have any contact with the OW at all, we could be arrested. Why do I have this fear that she's going to try to set us up?

So, we're going to speak to the officer who wrote up the ticket, and file a restraining order against the OW.

I was really praying/hoping that the case would be dismissed, but I have to go back in another month. I guess the fact that the asst. city attorney is wanting to investigate this, is good news? I don't know...I'm completely ignorant of law matters, but I seem to be getting a crash course on them.

We also received an email from her today, posing as a lawyer. This situation is becoming more bizaar with each day that passes.

What part of "Please leave us alone!!" doesn't she understand? She's like the Energizer bunny...she keeps going, and going, and going.........

Blunt Pepper talk...

She is crazy.

And thus dangerously unpredictable.

Like a wasp nest in your tree... you want to avoid poking her with any sharp objects.

Hire a professional a mean pitbull attorney who is in charge of all things waspy.

When dealing with a crazy person... stop asking "Why is she doing this to us?" ... She's crazy, there is no "why" that makes sense. Hire a professional exterminator to deal with her.

Pep

<small>[ May 18, 2004, 03:14 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

good to hear. I hope you saved that email..what a STOW.

DId you ask the asst. whoever---what you are supposed to do if SHE contacts you?

My husband is filing a restraining order against her at this very moment. If the city commissioner decides that it's valid and puts it into force, any contact made by her will result in her being arrested.

She can't contact me by email because I had to change my email address because of this. My husband left his as is, just so that anything that she sends us we could save as evidence against her.

The police officer that wrote up the report from the OW will be be coming by our house today to see the evidence that we have against her, including her statement saying that the charges were false. We had filed a police report a couple of weeks ago, and the asst. city attorney has the case number and will investigate the whole situation. He stated that since this matter is a result of retaliation from my changing my husband's cell phone # to stop her voice mails, he wants to dig a bit deeper into this.

So.....here we go!!!

I hope you & your H can nail her butt to the WALL!!!

What a digusting excuse for a human being. She needs to be stopped before she ruins anymore M's.

Well, it's been pretty quiet for the past couple of days since I went to court. My husband has hired an attorney to defend me in court and to help us make a strong case for a restraining order. The attorney is going to subpoena all of the phone records for each phone line that is relevant to my citation.

So, I'm going to spend over $1000 to defend myself over a $300 ticket that wouldn't even go on my record anyway. Am I nuts? No...it's the principle. I refuse to admit guilt and pay a fine for something that I didn't do.

Besides, if I can convince the city attorney that these charges were false and she gets cited, then perhaps she may learn a lesson from this? I'd love to see the look on her face when she gets a visit from a police officer!!

We kind of found out some good news, I hope....the OW has not had any blood work or labratory tests in the past two years at the hospital that her doctor is located in. She had told my husband that she went to this particular hospital for a pregnancy test, but there's no record of the test being performed. She could have seen a doctor in a different hospital, who knows? So, as usual, I still don't have concrete proof of whether or not she's pregnant.

She likes to send my husband emails when she knows he has a day off. We'll see what she sends tomorrow. I can hardly wait (sarcasm).

Good for you!
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If OW SAID she went to that particular hospital and there is NO record.......I'd say that's pretty concrete proof.

Your giving her more credit than I think she's worth.

We won't give her any credit. She has never told me the truth about anything else. She may have lied to me about what hospital she used also, thinking it would be immpossible for me to ever check.

Many of our friends and relatives have now joined us in our quest for knowledge (including a criminal attorney). There is a plan in the works to provide the concrete proof that we seek. However, we will refrain from posting the details of that until after it is done (nothing illegal).
Yesterday I discovered a covert keylogger installed on my system, which I promptly removed. Under the circumstances, we feel we should just be careful. We arn't dealing with someone who is a rational thinker.

Kinther