The OW went to the hospital because her water broke. She's 6 1/2 months along. They said she'd have to be on complete bed rest for the rest of her pregnancy. Does anyone know the odds of her having the baby? She's had several misscarriages before. How much does stress play a factor?

I don't know much but I am almost positive if your water breaks you must deliver, if not infection can set in or something. If she is at 32 weeks the chance of survial is very good. If less than 32 weeks, it drops but I don't know by what %. Check out http://www.webmd.com/ to see if you can find anything.

Hi Cynthia,

I am with you. My hope is with you whatever happens. I do not know the answer to your question but I hope that whatever is best for you is what happens.

I would not normally post on this board, but I do know alittle about this.

My water broke at 33 weeks. I delivered within a week. A broken water will not heal itself, and bedrest is required and constant blood work to ascertain if infection has set in.

A 6 1/2 month premature baby has a fairly good chance of survival, but in most circumstances will be in the hospital until the actual predicted delivery date, or learns how to suck from a certain grade nipple. I think one of the greatest dangers with premature babies is lung development.

A premature baby will have many obstacles against them which will sometimes affect them their entire life or cause them to be slow, catching up sometime around 5 years of age or so.

I am not a nurse, but I've shared with you my story and knowledge of giving birth at 33 weeks. My premie is a big strapping 6'2 14 year old today and is in advance studies.

Thanks for the information. OW is supposed to be on complete bed rest but doesn't listen. She thinks she knows everything.

Cyn

I was wondering, is she on bed rest at home? Or is she in the hospital?

I would not think she would be on bed rest at home with her water broken. Seems like she would be in the hospital where she would be monitored for infection and immeninent delivery.

And yes stress does play a factor.

She is on bed rest at home. I guess she has a small tear. Left the hospital when she wasn't supposed to. Now I guess she's taking it easy. Who knows. Said she will wait for WS no matter what and the baby and her kids would never leave him. I certainly didn't need to know that. Part of me wishes she'd misscarry. It hurts so bad sometimes.

Oh Cyn, I can only imagine the pain, hurt and humilation that you must be feeling. I'm so sorry for you.

I was thinking about you yesterday, knowing that I would feel the same way as you do. So please don't let those feelings you have regarding her miscarrying affect you adversly. Don't feel bad about having those feelings,(Yes I know all about the innocent child hoopla and blah blah blah), I really think it is a natural human thought process when one has been betrayed and hurt so badly.

She sounds like a neglectful mother already if she has a small tear and has left the hospital against doctors orders.

As far as her waiting for WS no matter what....I really wouldn't bank on it. We as women are fickle and change our minds on a regular basis. One week he'll be the love of her life and she'll wait for him no matter what. The next week he's done something she didn't like and he has now be assigned the rank of a**hole.

As Lynn G. would say you need to protect yourself and yours. Stop thinking about her and stop letting her put a damper on your life. I think she has already proven that she's a mess, don't let her drag you down to that level.

Good luck Sweetie.

She may be a mess but WS is supposedly so in love. It makes me want to throw up. I'll put everything I have on odds that this kid isn't even his. Even if it is, all the drugs she did the first couple of months can't help. WS is a fool.

Hi Cyn,

I have those same thoughts too about wishing other woman would lose her baby. Husband lately threatened to leave me for other woman even though she has nothing financially, and I am working two jobs to support my husband. He said he could get a small trailer. He said he is not in love with other woman but that he could fall in love with her and be with his daughter every day. He also said if he decides to leave me for other woman that he is not coming back even if it don't work out. I have helped this man out a lot and love him a lot and he does not appreciate it. He even threatened to take my rims off my car. To take the car I bought him for himself. To take a car he bought planning to give his son and give to the other woman. That really hurt because we have been together three years and he has never gave me a large gift.

Genia,
I am so sorry for your situation. WS is in a fog now and can't see the forest for the trees. I believe one day they will see what they have done and be so ashamed.
OW has done so many drugs. If she has this baby I doubt it will be healthy. WS is in jail now due to his recent car accident. I honestly believe before it is all over OW will ultimately be out of the picture, baby or no baby. The s*** will only be able to go so long without a man, anyone's man.
Right now you can't believe anything WS says or does as he is addicted to OW just like a drug addict is to drugs.
My only hope is that baby is not WS's. And there is a very good chance of that.
Hang in there.

Hi Cyn,

Maybe you will get lucky and husband will get out of jail and find OW with another man. That would be great and he could taste some of his medicine. My Man recently threatened to go to other woman when I did not beleive that she is out of town like he said. I told him if he went to her that I do not beleive it would last since it was a relationship created on lies and deceit. He said he thought it would last. I do not know why he is with me and says such painful things to me and then later wants to act like nothing happened. Anyhow if he ever leaves I wish the worst possible luck on them.

Haven't heard anymore on how OW is doing. I guess even if she delivers now the baby has a good chance. I don't know if I even want to know that.
Genia, I think WS's know they messed up and the only way to make them feel better about what they have done is to blame us for everything. WS said so many unkind things about me I couldn't believe it. I know they weren't true and ultimately so did he. Shows you just how much of a lie everything is.

Hi Cyn,

I am so sorry your man is treating you so bad. You deserve much better. You have stood by him and he has done nothing but crap on you. The thing that hurts me so much is when my man threatens to leave and take stuff from me and give to other woman when I have done nothing but give to this man. Sometimes I wonder if he loves her more than me but stays with me because I have a soft heart and I work two jobs so I can help him. He is going to school because he could not get a job. I feel so heartbroken. I just want somebody to love me more than they love anybody.

WS's seem so insensitive. I don't know if they really believe the garbage they are feeding us or if it is easier for them to blame us because then they don't have to admit they made a mistake. OW uses her pregnancy and her other children to hold on to WS. God forgive me but I wish she'd lose that baby and get out of our lives forever. The pain is too great.

Cyn,

Hang in there. I know how you feel and don't feel bad about it. There is still a chance the it's not his. I hope that happens for you and me.

I know what you mean about her saying that she will wait for H. However, if he want's her so bad, why is she waiting? Why isn't he there now? I may have missed something in your posts.

I feel the same. I am almost 99% sure that if I leave H, he will be in OW's arms in no time flat. It could be out of love or just financial reasons for him. Not sure.

Some day the fog will lift and hopefully all us BS's will be in a happy place in our lives and tell them all to go pound salt.