What is going on with you? Last I heard you hired a good attorney to straighten this mess up. Is it working?

Let me know. I do care about you and worry about you.

Thanks for asking------missed you.

Haven't hired the attorney officially yet, still debating on whether I really want to spend all that $$$$$ on this or something like renewing our vows for our anniversary in Oct. Sometimes it's more worth it to let OW do/have what she wants. You know what I mean? Thinking of renewing our vows in Vegas on a romantic gondola where we spent our mini-get-away couple months ago OR do some nice planting and having it in the back yard. October is gorgeous in CA. My mom votes for Vegas and even volunteered to keep the ktbunch w/ her! (now that's something that doesn't happen everyday! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )LOL!!!

OW says OC is still having emotional problems----still none w/ us. Therapist appointment Tues. ------just adults. Was very anxious over this....probably over-reacting.

H & I both think it's stupid but I spoke to the therapist today (it's the same one from last summer) and let her know how uncomfortable I was w/ this especially since it is supposed to be FOR OC & OC will not even be there. I told her that I want to be clear that this is only to be about OC & that it stay focused on OC since we have had problems w/ that in the past.

She said that was fair and would make sure it stays on track. I think that she knows EXACTLY what is up and knows that OW respects her opinion so she can basically repeat everything we have already told OW about OC and OW will listen.
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I'm livin' & lovin'---just like you always suggest. My life is moving right along and I'm "preachin" the same tune to the rest around here. I'm making plans to spend the majority of summer camping w/ the ktbunch. We don't own any property, vacation home or cabins but we got a really big tent, plenty of sleeping bags and a comfy air-mattress! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

And I just dyed my hair red yesterday! Looks pretty sassy!

Sounds like you are on the right track, kudos to you.

I feel that you are amazing to go and share a therapist appointment with ow, all for oc. Amaxing. Simply amazing.

I love to camp too. Something about the night air, campfires and camp clothes soothe me. I love it. I love to eat outside, cook all meals on a grill and relax too. We camped one week in the rain. It ended up being the ultimate vacation. We too had a huge tent. It withstood the constant downpour. We had trenches dug to keep water away from the tent and it worked great. We had a tarp hanging on an angle to keep the rain off the never ending camp fire. We thought it would be a disaster. It wasn't. It was truly magical. Quiet. Romantic.
Take care.

We camped one year @ the beach & it rained too! It was summer & because the ground was so dry the rain made it into mud the consistency of dog poop! lol We had a pop-up-trailer back then so we were nice & dry, above all the puddles. It was one of the most memorable. Actually, I think it was right after I first found out about all of this mess and it was H & I's first start @ real recovery & reconciliation.

It has taken me much stress and unnecessary anxiousness to get to this point of "acceptance" & I still have not fully arrived BUT I really believe one of the key things was YOU. Helping me to realize that I DID/DO have a CHOICE in this made it easier to accept instead of that trapped feeling that I had no choice & was being forced into this.

IRL my friends would tell me to just go NC but it was never because MY feelings mattered but only because it would be too hard. So I felt like that was not a good enough or justifyable reason. Maybe I just wasn't listening to them BUT either way, I am very appreciative of your support both ways.

AND your encouragement to LIVE & LOVE and enjoy ourselves, has helped me change my attitude tremendously. I have a tendency to be depressed very easily (totally runs in my family, mom, aunt & grandma) but I have more control over my attitude now which helps me to overcome the depression better.

It's all a process and I like to think that what I have learned here, and have encouraged others to do the same has helped others to heal a bit faster by not wasting so much time like I have, just being miserable and overlooking all the potential to keep on living & loving.

I am not even angry about A anymore, (well hardly ever <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ) mostly don't feel anything about it now. I am rarely angry @ OW as much as just annoyed, but I know I will get past that someday too. Other's around here do not believe me and think I am still way too over-anxious, but that's ok. I know me IRL so I can see how far I have come & I know how much more I have to go but I am clearly on the farther end of the spectrum now than before, and you have played a part in that.

So this was just a very long-winded way to say thank you, & I bet you get that a lot! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I really do mean my byline of living happily ever after! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />