Dear Husband,

I am writing this to clarify last night's argument rather than have another argument. I think you over reacted in light of all that happened. As you know I love you very much no matter what. I think my request is very reasonable for absolute honesty in light of that you were with other woman a few weeks ago when you claimed to be with your Mom. You are intelligent but you play dumb when you are trapped. It is not what you did that concerns me , but rather your openess and honesty in our relationship that I desire. I am sure if I had done the same to you, you would have expected the same consideration from me. Your reaction to my simple question as to The other woman's whereabouts of threats to leave are very painful towards my love for you. You say I am insecure. It does not help when you threaten to go to her because I backed you into a corner. Yes she does poise a threat to me. Her threat would be a whole lot more painless if you would be honest and stand beside me and let her know we are together through this all and that is just how this is going to be. Don't make it feel like a triangle but a team, me and you for the baby.
Love,
Genia

Background: I planned to discuss closer to pregnancy and give LuvMyFamily Thread to him titled: To Stacy and others Questions I need help with. That did not happen, nor was this planned. We had a nice dinner before this happened. We lay in bed talking. He picked on me because I have bad breath. Then I cannot remember how it came up but he said something about how honest he was.
That threw me for a loop. I just had to jump in.
Happened a few weeks ago: We've been unable to discuss without arguing.
When I found out he wasn't at his Mom's he took his baby's mother ( the other woman) home to her parents. Supposedly in Mayberry,NC. I looked up on internet. Mayberry is in Mount Aries. I told him I had looked at cell phone bill which he has now destroyed and although I had seen her name in his cell phone but did not have time to catch the number there were no calls to Mount Aries. There was only one unfamiliar out of town number to another town. He further refuses to give me her full name or phone number. He claims I will try and look her up on internet. I can't with no social security number can I? Phone number, he claims I will call her. I never tried to contact her after initial contact because husband would not tell truth till I got her story. I could have. I knew where she worked.

He did say he plans to involve me with child, but something we had not communicated about. Still have not communicated about delivery room.

<small>[ May 21, 2004, 10:27 AM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>

Did you give him the letter? Or get another chance to talk to him?

I did give him the letter and he did like it. However, he still will not apologize for hurting my feelings. He will not tell me other woman's full name or her phone number to verify her whereabouts.