I can feel your pain in this difficult situation you are going through. Please let me know if you are OK. I am concerned about you.
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Thanks so much for caring. It's so hard right now. I don't get to see WS anymore because he is in jail. He does write but now he is more concerned about OW and how she's doing. At least if she does have this baby he won't be able to be in the delivery room. I still pray every day OC is not his. I would rather have been beaten than have to go through this. How are you? My thoughts are with you.

I understand what you are going through. My husband was in jail for 6 months. Every week seemed like an eternity. For him to focus more on other woman than you is very cruel to you. I wish she would do something really stupid so he would wake up. I hate seeing you have to go through this. My pregnant other woman ran away from her parents house according to wayward spouse. She is on crack. Husband is planning on going to her town to look for her to ease his conscience. I am thinking of calling her parents house and ask for her to see if she is indeed not there. I will not tell them who I am. That way I can be sure that it is the truth that she did run away. After all the lies I want to be sure he is not just makeing up a story so he can go see her. I beleived him when he told me but when I talked to husbands stepmom she planted doubt in my head. You can read full story under my update. What do you think?

Cyn,

Do you know how long H will be in jail? What do you plan to do while he is there?

I can't imagine how hard this is for you, you are in my prayers. {{{{{{{{{{{Cyn}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Thanks, I pray for everyone here and hope they are able to find strenght and comfort.
WS may be gone for up to 2 yrs.. I will be just fine as I have always been very independent. I hope now that his time is limited with OW he will finally see her for what she is and the fog will lift. I only wish the baby would not be his.

Hi Cyn,

I have been keeping up with you and I feel so bad for you hurting inside. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I know OW will not be a good mother. She can't take care of the 2 kids she has. Leaves them home alone while she goes to the bar. Brings home strangers to be with. Does drugs in front of them. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Wow sounds like my other woman. She lost her other two kids. She is only 23. She is pregnant and getting high as we speak.

Maybe you could call social services on her. How old are these kids. Nothing to wake up husband like a little dose of reality. You can remain anonamous. If asked if you called, deny. Nobody has to know who called. Social Service was called on me once because a heater fell on my sons foot and he had to go to the hospital. Husband was abusive and threatened to hurt me if anything happened to his son. They called social services. I told them I was with son the whole time but not in the same room. They came to our home and checked us out. I personally know a woman on drugs and seen children taken away from her. Her mother got the kids. Others even tried to help her by putting groceries in her house but it was too late.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If it is born healthy I will be surprised. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I looked up. It will more than likely be a premie. If she is drinking alcohol that is the worse thing she can do.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> The A is still ongoing and this is probably why it is so hard for me. I might have had some compassion for OW had she not been so vindictive and hateful. She has always thrown it in my face about her baby and how she was able to get pregnant, also never misses an opportunity to bring up the child WS & I lost. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She sounds very cruel like my other woman. She would always try and rub it in my face that she had sex with my husband more than I did. I am so sorry your husband is in the fog and does not see her for what she is. Maybe he feels so guilty he is ashamed around you. He is more comfortable around her because he does not feel guilt feelings so strong. My husband does not like to talk to me or be around me when I am sad. I think it is because he feels guilty for hurting me so much. I try and share my pain with other people and share my happy good side with him now. It works.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> She destroys my life and then blames me. I truly don't know if I could ever forgive her. I still haven't forgiven WS either. The OC just makes these feelings more intense. Sometimes I want to die the pain is so bad.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">These feelings are understandable with the pain you are going through. Have you seen a doctor. Some people can take medication and some people cannot. I tried zoloft once. It made me worse. I am trying to get through this without medication.Maybe I should try other medication, if it gets worse I will. Sometimes I just want to die to. My husband abuses me emotionally sometimes. I just cannot understand why he says such hurtful things to me sometimes. What you are going through is worse because you are dealing with a long distance relationship that is not healthy. Are you getting counseling. You probably should so a counselor can help you feel better about yourself. Try and not let her destroy you. If she destroys you she won. Go out and have some fun. Take care of yourself. I really do care for you. If you were close, I would drive to where you are and just give you a big hug.

My husband accused me of being jealous of her.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Jealous of that. Get real. I told him I was jealous when I thought she was competition. Now that it is over I am secure in myself.

Genia,
Thanks for your support. I don't know how I'd get through all this without everyone's kindness.
I haven't heard from WS in almost 2 weeks now. He seems so concerned about OC.
I have asked about Social services and it is so hard to prove anything & she always people sticking up for her. She has her own PO snowed (I talked to her) and gets away with whatever. Her kids are 11 and 3. She gave away her first 2 kids because they were too much for her. Real great don't you think. She is so cruel.