I heard this study the other day & it raised some interesting points.

It was about Elkanah, his wife Hannah & his other wife Penninah. (you can read about them in the very first chapter of 1 Samuel)

Penninah had many children from Elkanah, while Hannah had none. But Elkanah LOVED Hannah and always showed his favoritism to her publicly.(vs. 5)

Penninah was her 'rival' & provoked Hannah to no end, so much so that she wept & lost her appetite. Her H, seeing her pain tried to comfort her, knowing that he treated her very well & showed his love to her. (vs.8)

Hannah cries out to the Lord & He grants her petition & eventually she gives birth to Samuel who Hannah had promised to dedicate to the temple of the Lord.
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The commentator was talking about the Lord's graciousness to us. He said that wives find security in their H love. Hannah had that security. Penninah did not but in HIS graciousness God blessed her w/ many children so that she would find security in their love that she lacked from Elkinah (her H).

Hannah had security in her H love so did not need children to fulfill her but the Lord knew that she was hurting & eventually blessed her w/ her heart's desire. The commentator also pointed out how her H was sensitive to her and her feelings and tried to offer her comfort.
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I just thought it was an interesting notion of the security part & it kind of related to OW w/ OC. Us wives (mostly) have the security of our H love that OW will never have. But God is gracious to each & every one of us. So HE gives them security in their children's love because they do not have the security of our H's love.
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I know this might offend someone (I hope not though)but I thought it was another interesting way to look @ it.

What do you think?

<small>[ June 10, 2004, 11:33 PM: Message edited by: ktbunch ]</small>

Thanks. I thought it was very intersting too. It's nice to have another way of looking at our situations.

I have not posted on this board in sometime. I visit at least once a week. I am off work today for the national day of mourning and thought I would visit the boards to see what is going on. Well when I read this thread it just struck me funny. I am a christian and read the bible daily. When I first found about OC I naturally went to the bible for some comfort. I read about sarah and how her servant had given abraham a son and she began to tunt sarah because she had not given abraham any children, But the story of Hannah seemed to comfort me the most. H and I have 5 ds, and after 5th ds, I decided to have my tubes tied(before I became a christian). Well OC is a girl. H expressed to OW that I was very disappointed when 5 child was another ds. She just will not let me live it down. Every chance she gets she reminds me that she has dd. Well you may be right H has decided N/C until OC is older(too many problems), funny thing about it is 13 year ago OW older child's father decided N/C for the same reason. So OW has her ds and her dd, but no man. Hey you may have something there. This response is only in relation to my own situation and I hope no one gets offended.

Well I hope noone get offended too, but I am inspired by the verse. I know that
God has a plan for all of us and despite what we may want he has reason for everything. KT you are such an inspiration to me that you could never really know how much you have helped me through your thoughts and devotions you have given us to note and read.

They help me everytime and I am so grateful for that. It has helped me gain strength when I thought that I had none to gain. It has helped me get out of bed some mornings. They have helped me get through so may things that I never thought I could. But I am here today trying to forgive a H who has angered me and disappointed me through this entire situation. " Love is patient, Love is Kind ,It is not puffed up"

Thanks very much,

JT

If WS had been kind through all of this I might feel better, or differently. When WS & I lost our child he never acted once like it mattered to him. In fact I think he was sort of releived about it. Now that OW is pregnant he is so happy and cares so much for her health. What about "our" baby? No one seemed to give a ****, not even my family. But now that OW is in the picture everyone is so concerned about her. It's hard to trust in a God who would rather give a child to a crack w****. And a married one at that.

KT thats so funny. See my post on sunny's updates. I didnt read the scripture or your post until after my post. I was thinking and feeling the same thing this weekend. The look in H eyes and the way he holds me. H loves me and I feel it. I wondered for sometime when it started if he truely loved me for me. And if he was sorry for what he did. Now I know. He shows me and I know in my heart. I still have my fears and rightly so. But I know they will never have the love, friendship, and understanding or closness that we share. Yes me and the OW are very different. I don't feel I am "winning the prize" with having my H stay with me and our family. I won long before this happened, the heart of a man who loves me and he won the same. "Soulmates" as so many OW refer to when talking about WS are not anywhere close to the "true Love" that a wife and husband feel when God has put them together! Nothing is perfect and christians are not either. I'm glad we are forgiven and guided by the one who joined us together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> P/S i saw an artical on "soulmates" do you know you can be soulmates w/your dog? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Now thats the kind of relationship I want to have with someone.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

ROTFLMAO Sunny!

No wonder I love Rufus so much and he adores me like no other person - he's just the perfect DOG for me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

- Kimmy

KT,

That was a very inspiring scripture, my H does not love & support me like that though, but I do believe that God has a plan thru all that happens in our life & that what some mean for evil he will turn it into good.

I often refer to H's DD as his "Ishmael baby" since H was too impatient to wait for the Lord to allow my to conceive a child with him, even though God would bless my womb with a miracle baby, tube tied & all. I am over that now. But I can see where a BW could find comfort in knowing even though OW has OC her love will be found ONLY in OC & not WH - that is inspiring!