Things are not well this side of the world. Seems the judge didn't sign the order. We are now in a "legal limbo". H is not going to get to see her this weekend after all.
She called about 2 days ago and we taped the conversation. Seems she blames me for everything!! Quote,"I blame J for all of this. It is her fault. Blame your wife."
I wanted so bad to call her and yell at her. But H (wisely) turned my attention to him. I yelled at him instead. It was a VERY rough night.
I am not used to letting people talk trash about me and me not say something.
So the next morning I prayed and told God I could not handle this on my own. I asked him to pick up my burden and have felt so much better since. In fact....everytime I started to dwell and agonize, I made myself do the crab thing from "Finding Nemo". The "hey...hey....hey" thing. (make sense?)
The H and I have a standing date every Friday night. This is going to be one night where OW doesn't dominate our conversation. YEAH!!
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on advice from our lawyer when we were originally all in the beginning of this mess. Be VERY careful taping a phone conversation in most states it is illegal without the other person's consent and it can be prosecuted. Just be careul and don't use it in court or anything unless she is aware you are taping.

I know in my state (TN) that as long as one party (thats you) knows they are being taped then you can use it. Also a answering machine is good they know they are being taped so let her talk to the machine! But you do need to call and ask someone. And yes it is all of our fault that someone dropped their pants and we still remain the ladies we where and always have been. We (WS) have so much more to offer our H than they do and yes thats our fault! We cant help being sooo good! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> LOL Just remember the OW have minds of their own, however distorted they may be, but your H can not control her!!! He can't make her do anything or stop doing anything. So just talk about it with him, dont blame him for her stupid stuff. Thats what the OW wants is for you two to fight because of her and drag up all the pain and hurt and give up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> So if you don't intend on giving up on your M, just try and just forget about it and work on making your M stonger and happier and that will get to her more than anything. It will just confirm the fact the OW ment nothing and never will, compared to you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> They (OW) need to get a clue on our H being sorry for them and sorry they lied to us, not them, and are making up to us! SO enjoy your H and don't let her mess up your night w/ your H. I kind of look at it, last night could have been our last night together, and I will be darned if I'm going to spend it worried or fighting about OW! I'm going to spend it lovin, laughin, and enjoying each other. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I hope your date went well!
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