OW had her baby last night. It's a girl. WS always wanted a daughter so I guess now he has his wish. I hate them all so much. They can all rot in hell together - WS, his Crack w****, and now his child. OW finally won! Our child was a piece of garbage and some crack w****'s baby is everything.

Hi Cyn,

I do not know what to say except I know you are hurting. I am so sorry. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Cyn, I'm deeply sorry. But look at it this away. She's not the drop everything for me girl anymore. Real life will be setting in real soon!!! A relationship made in the sand will sink! Just wait and see. You can't ever be truly happy knowing that you caused such pain to someone else. God works he does, and he is a gentle god, but he will also punish those who need to be. I know that doesn't give you much satisfaction, but it will happen and don't let her (ow) see you suffering! If he has chosen to be there w/ her and the OC then you need to make your life all that it can be!!! Start today ! Go look in the mirror and look at the most wonderful person he could have ever had and been happy with!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Cyn,


I am so sorry for the pain you are in right now, I pray that you will let the Lord give you some peace in this situation & that you can release some of your hatred & bitterness, if you are not careful it will consume you.

Have you talked to H, at all? What do you plan to do now?

Take care of YOURSELF sweetie, that is all you can control right now.

I know things look very bleak right now but this too shall pass.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{CYN}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

All WS cares about is OW and OC. He doesn't care about me at all. At least he wasn't in the delivery room (he's in jail for 2 yrs. or so). It only took 3 days for my life to be destroyed, (the time it took WS and OW to "fall in love"). I guess I was nothing to WS and never will be.

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear this!!! I don't know what to say, but I'm hurting right along with you. You're in my prayers. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Hi Cyn,

I understand your pain and your loss. I have loved and lost. It hurts. You have many years invested in this man and I understand. But you were something to this man for him to stay as long as he did. Most shallow relationships usually do not last more than 6 months. I think when reality hits your husband his love will fade for OW. I doubt it is a deep love. It is more likely a very shallow love he feels for her. Your love for your husband is deep and he may still come back to you. You are giveing up hope. Please do not put all your hope in your husband. Invest in you Cyn. Love yourself. Work on you and make yourself the best you that you can be. You should focus now on having fun, maybe a hobby or something. Please Cyn do not let WH and OW destroy you. You are a woman of values and apparently they have thrown values to the wind. Cyn be the best person you can be and you will attract positive people in your life. If you are bitter you will be lonely and withdrawn. Please Cyn you got to take care of yourself because nobody else will. Have your good crys then find a good church and get some support. Is there something you always wanted to do with your life, is there something you can focus on for two years like maybe education or something that will take your mind somewhat off your husband. I found when I greived it was easier if I kept myself busy.

Is there something you always wanted to do with your life, is there something you can focus on for two years like maybe education or something that will take your mind somewhat off your husband. I found when I greived it was easier if I kept myself busy.

Not only keeping yourself busy but making a change. I am moving into a bigger home, and doing it all alone w/ the 2 girls Cyn. I needed to get out of the place that reflected all my teary moments..of fear and loneliness...ect..ect...

It may cause behavior problems w/ the girls for a little while b/c they have memories of daddy there playing w/ them...family room whatever..BUT I NEEDED IT FOR ME and I needed to know I can survive without him. A fresh start.

Now I'm thinking of going tanning again and working out more often. My bedroom won't have kids dressers and stuff in it like all the others so I'm thinking of getting some work out equipment TO INCREASE MY SELF ESTEEM.

I'm curious..is there something you've always wanted..wanted to do with your life...anything? Just think sweetie you don't have to answer to your H ..his opionion is only respected if you allow it...IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU NOW...take advantage of that pleeeeeeaaaaaassssseee <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

god bless you...hope to hear back from you soon..

(((HUGS)))))
Dawn

Cyn,

I am so sorry. I don't know what to say.

I agree with others, do something for you. Try to put OW/OC out of your mind for awhile. Try to find some peace for your own health.

Remember-OW did not win anything. Things can take a turn. I know things were looking very bad for me but they seemed to have taken a turn. You never know.

However, just take care of you and if they turn in your favor great, if they don't you will be healthy and doing things that make you happy.

My prayers are with you.

You are in my prayers <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> .
you are a wonderful person, , and Remember:God LOVES YOU!!!!!
I agree find a good church, my H and I did and it not only helped me it help H and our Kids too.
Also try christain counsuling , tryed the othe kind , and was no help. Christain counsuling has helped me sooooo much!! So has my church and my church family.
Hang in there <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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oc due 6-25-00
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Saw a picture of OC. I don't think it looks like WS and neither does his brother or a friend of mine. WS's mother on the other hand thinks it looks exactly like WS's sister when she was born. Well, they named it after her so maybe it's just wishful thinking? Not anyone who has met OW thinks much of her. It's so hard because now WS doesn't want to see me. He's so excited about OC. My world has been ripped to pieces.

Hi Cyn,

I am so sorry. A lot can change in two years. Please work on you. Look for a large church. Ask for counseling. At the church I went to it is free. You can go for you. It will help so much. They can help you fill the void you are feeling. I think I like you was making my husband my God. The counselor said when you do that and your husband commits adultery that you will be devasted. We need God to fill that void. My prayers are with you Cyn. I feel so bad for you. But if you work on yourself to make yourself better it is more likely your husband could be attracted to you when he gets out. In your present state of depression your husband would not find you pretty. I hope you can rise above the awful things that are happening to you and make a new life for yourself. Please Cyn love yourself. I am worried about you.

She's won nothing. She has stolen. No good can come to her. The child is innocent and she will have to tell that child how she came about someday. I am sorry for the baby and for you, the two innocents. She's really not won Cyn. She has to look in the mirror and face herself and God.

The baby is here for a reason. Maybe it's not really his-you never know, but even if it is, God will reward you for your pain. Hang in there, something good is right around the corner. I am SO sorry for your pain.

If OC is here for a reason it's to remind me that the man I love with all my heart left me for a disgusting crack w****. That he'd rather have her for the mother of his child than me. OC will also be a reminder of the children I will never have now. I don't know what good could ever come of this for me. OW has won! She has my life! Our child was a piece of garbage to WS but her child is everything!

Hi Cyn,

I am really worried about you. You are not getting better. I cannot say that I would handle it any better. I hope you are getting help.

Hugs and more hugs. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Genia,
Thanks for caring.
I hate even knowing about OC. I feel nothing for that little girl but contempt. I know it sounds awful but that's how I feel. OW had children. What gave her or WS the right to take that away from me?
What do I do with the baby clothes in my closet?

Cyn,

Please don't do anything to the baby clothes in your closet. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT GOD HAS PLANNED FOR YOU! If they seem to be in there and are too hard to look at, fold them up and put them away. But don't get rid of them yet!

I'm so sorry you're hurting!

- Kimmy

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> What gave her or WS the right to take that away from me? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">They didn't have any rights to do what they did to u. They were totally & completely wrong & there is NO excuse for what has happened to u or any of us, we didn't ask 4 or deserve to be living our lives this way but it has happened & we have no choice but to deal with it.

Cyn u need to be in counseling, I am concerned about u, also. U have so much hatred & bitterness in u & it will eat u alive if u don't get help & try to concentrate on something other than this, what r u doing 4 yourself to move on?

Not sure what to do. WS has been so nasty through all of this. Had the nerve to tell me he was so happy. It made me hurt all that much more!
Yeah, happy with a married crack w**** with kids.

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