Niosgirl's update site

Figured you needed your own update site so we could keep up with your story and progress.

Love Ya

JT

<small>[ June 29, 2004, 02:12 PM: Message edited by: JT2 ]</small>

Way cool! Is there a secret handshake I need to learn????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Lessee - here's the stories I was threatening to post on the "happy" thread:

As some of you already know, Leo and Bekah are at my sister in law's house this week. I've got a couple of stories from her about my little Prince. I swear, I'm gonna change his nickname from Scooter to lil'sh*t - and I mean that with all the love in my heart.

1. My sil took the kids to church Sunday. In typical, can't-sit-still-for-more-than-two-minutes-fashion, my boy begins to torment my neice Emily. In exasperation, Tia Pauline tells Leo to cut it out or he's not gonna get any ice cream later. (insert motherly snort here - WE know what's coming) The kid doesn't stop. Later, as she is dishing up the ice cream, Leo comes up to her and says, "Aunt Pauline, can I tell you something?" (pronounced sombthing). She leans down and he says, "I really didn't want ice cream anyway." OMGoodness!

2. Prince Charming, aka: Scooter, aka: Little Leo, soon to be dubbed 'lil sh*t, says to my sister in law, "Aunt Pauline, c'mere, I wanna give you a kiss." So she goes over and he gives her a big ole smackaroonie. "That was for," says my baby boy, "teaching me to swim....You're a genius!"

(side note here: at least he didn't say effing genius, like his father does - relieved sigh)

Can I keep him?

Hmmmm....Last night I drove the big boys (my oldest and his friend that are visiting) over to my mom's to spend the night. She lives in Port A, and the waves are so much better for boogie boarding there than at our beach. When I got home, I noticed my key to the house wasn't on my keyring, so had to go to the SO (sheriff's office) to tell dh he locked me out - he'd given the key of my ring to the boys when they'd gone for a walk earlier. Later, he calls me and asks me if I wanted to go to dinner with him. He pulls up in the squad car, and we go out to eat. I end up riding patrol with him for awhile (after dropping by the SO to sign the appropriate release forms). That was fun.

Tomorrow, we're going to go see Spider Man2 WITHOUT KIDS. Woohoo buckaroo!

- Kimmy

Tonight I get to see Spidey in his tights - yeah, BOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (giggle)

Last night was dh's b-day so we went out to eat...he chose a new bbq place in town. It was set up awesomely - the owner's obviously took great pains and thought in the decorating. The menu - omgoodness. There was only like, 4 meats on the menu and 4 sides to choose from. So not what we're used to. I was thinking it wasn't gonna be that good....UM, HELLO! My pulled pork sandwich was so good it'd make you stand up and slap yo'momma! They give you 3 "hogwashes" (bbq sauce) to slap on and after tasting the 3 I choose the Chipotle sauce (with smoke jalapenos in it) - the other was a mild bbq sauce, and the third was apty named "Firewater" (I told dh it'd eat the [censored] out of a goat - giggle). I had THE MOST AWESOME TATER SALAD EVER - and you know, as a Southern Woman, my momma's tater salad comes first - poor momma I dunno how she's gonna take this one. I asked our waitress when she dropped off our cheque if she'd ever heard of Rudy's in San Antonio. It's been on the Food Network and the Travel Channel. I told her the bbq we had last night beats Rudy's hands down. I'm gonna write the travel channel just so! Holy Moly. I could've eaten that sandwich till I popped (and I almost did, I think). I told her that when they offer homemade creamed corn they would put Rudy's off the map! She was tickled.

Then we went to the grocery, then home. Oy, was I ever tired. I curled up beside dh with my head in his lap. I love being beside him.

That was our big b-day. The real celebratin' will be tonight (evil grin) cause the house will be empty of ALL kids.......

- Kimmy

Sounds awesome Nios! So glad you had a wonderful evening-I think if I lived in Texas I would be a fatty. Have a co-worker who use to live in Houston and she said the food was the best--they have lived a lot of places and are big food people (gourmet cooking)and she said best food they have ever had.

My H's B-day is 7/9--last year of his 20's.

Hi Kimmy,

Sounds like you had a blast. My mom makes the best potatoe salad too. She learned from her Dad.

<small>[ June 30, 2004, 11:09 AM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>

Nios~my co-worker who use to live in Houston wants to know if you have ever had "Hell on the Red" salsa. What town is Rudy's BBQ in?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I think if I lived in Texas I would be a fatty. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nah. There's A LOT to do here. The great food is just a bonus!

Thanks Genia! D'ya know that this weekend I have to help my mom make, like, a bagillion pounds of potato salad? OY VEY! My cousin is getting married Sunday, and my mom offered to help....um, mom, YOU offered to help, how the heck did I get roped into the deal - lol!

OTS: Opinions my friends...Okay. Does it totally make me a bad person that I didn't offer to help? I told my mom this, I've been through so much this past year and a half, and I've got the stress related maladies to show for it. Is it uber selfish of me to just want to be a guest as opposed to a "helper?" The bride is SUPER stressed right now, and has taken it out on just about anyone within hearing range (and we all know how hard it is, so I do understand her stress) - it's just that I'm just now getting to a place in my life where I'm not panicking or feeling like I'm gonna hurl after I eat. Is it wrong of me to "step back" from the hoopla a little?

Dh said I've been thru too much to stress about someone else's stuff...but then, it was in the small print on our marriage license that he say stuff like that....

- Kimmy

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> my co-worker who use to live in Houston wants to know if you have ever had "Hell on the Red" salsa. What town is Rudy's BBQ in?
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I've seen it at the grocery...I must confess that I am leery of trying ANY salsa that claims to be hell on anything...lmao!

Rudy's is in San Antonio. Their smoked turky is TO DIE FOR! I'm not overly fond of their sauce, but it is good 'que.

- Kimmy

Today's the day, my friends. I'm not maudlin, gloom and doom down, but I am def. not perky today. Maybe I'll get better after lunch???? But I told you - I'll cheer for you, but sometime I might need you to cheer for me. Hugs to you all, my sisters through the test of fire. I need them today.

Tum hurts today - but you know, dh is going to SAT to pick up my youn'uns from my sil. Looking forward to snuggling them tonight. So you know I'm thinking that the "opportunity" is there to swing by the tart's house....... I honestly don't think he will...............but you all know trust is a hard thing to glue back together. I know that sil will tell me when he picks up the kids - & I am great at time math....he knows it, too. It's just so.......tiring. I don't wanna be a female .007 - not unless I get a groovy car out of it (KIDDING).

We went to see Spider Man 2 last night....um....buff Toby McGuire in spandex....there's a happy thought. While we were waiting for the movie to begin, I lay my head on dh's shoulder. He reaches up and presses me close kisses me and whispers in my hair, "I LOVE you SO much....I am SO sorry for all I've done." I pulled back and told him he doesn't have to say it anymore....not unless it's cathardic for him, because I know how he aches over it. I asked him if he'd been thinking about it a lot, and he said he had. I asked if he was ever gonna let himself forgive himself and he said no. I told him he needs to move on from it. I also said that if he gets depressed again about it (the last depression resulted in the re-kindling of the A) that I was haulin' his butt into the doc's office and they could give us bulk family discounts on zoloft. He laughed at me.

I cried during the movie. The Auntie in the movie was missing her dh so bad - he'd passed in the first movie. I buried my face in dh's shoulder and sobbed as quietly as I could - don't these guys know how much we love them - how big our love is, how we'd miss them so, I wonder? When I looked up, the kid next to me told me it was okay, it's only a movie. Sweetheart. Out of the mouths of babes.

After the movie we went to the $100 store (aka WalMart) and I bought a thank you card and a 14k gold toe ring with a dolphin on it for my sil. She's the bestest! I love her so much! I wrote in the card to wear her dol-phish (that's the way my kids pronounce it) toe ring and know that there are people at the coast that love the heck out of her.

We were filling up with gas when dh's partner drove up with is wife. We ended up in a lively debate on human nature at their house (fueled by beers, of course). I love a good debate, and Raul is vehement in his beliefs. We all had fun.

That's the update. Pray God keeps Nio close to him and His loving hands protect him on his journey.

- Kimmy

(((((kimmy)))))

First, is there any way you can go w/ H to p/u children, or is it while you're still at work? Can H meet up w/ SIL half way? Also, how about just come right out and ask H if he has any plans to go see OCs/ow? Express your concerns.

Secondly, NO, it doesn't make you a bad person for not volunteering to help w/ your cousin's wedding. Good Lord girl, your H is right, it's not like you don't have enough going on. Don't give it another thought. Anyway, you're assisting Mom w/ the potato salad fixin'...so you ARE helping.

Hope you get to feeling better real soon.

Kimmi (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) I hope u r feeling better. One word "pop rocks" ? Maybe that will make you smile. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Enjoy them babies this weekend and you are an inspiration to many.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Hi,

Kimmy,

So sorry you are feeling bad. Hope you feel better soon.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> When I looked up, the kid next to me told me it was okay, it's only a movie. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is priceless

I was not feeling so good this morning. I got issues. Husband did some serious lovebusting last night and I lovebusted right back. I had no strengh to hold back. I felt rage and anger. The kind that just makes you wanna kill somebody. But before you take me seriously, I do not think I could ever really kill anybody. I just do not have it in me.

I am so glad your husband feels true remorse for his actions. I hope he can forgive himself. And about the insecurity issue with the opportunity for him to visit, I completely understand. I do not think he will though from the way he acted last night. But if you can work things out so you feel safer that would be great.

Oops sorry it was two works. See where my brain is! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Yep, Sunny, two words.....but don't try to say it with your mouth full (LMAO).

Lunch is helping. BTW: Subway will make your fav sandwich into a salad (for any who count carbs - I don't but I don't load on them either) - try the chipotle steak as a salad sometime - WITH the sauce. OY! Num. Am I ever gonna pay for this.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> First, is there any way you can go w/ H to p/u children, or is it while you're still at work? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm at work. It'd take forever to do it after. I really don't think he'll go by....it's just the devil whispering sweet nothings in my ear. Nio dropped me at work this am and is making the round trip in record time to get back to pick me up at quittin' time.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Secondly, NO, it doesn't make you a bad person for not volunteering to help w/ your cousin's wedding </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank goodness. As a woman type critter I know I'm hardwired to please - sometimes at my own expense. It's a hard thing to re-wire in oneself, also.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> And about the insecurity issue with the opportunity for him to visit, I completely understand. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It kinda sounds like your dh is going through the same issues (only Nio is further along in the healing than your dh). Please try not to forget your own good advice (hugs).

Just wanted to give you a big ((((HUG)))).

Take a moment and re-count the pop rocks conversation and you are sure to have a smile cross your face. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Donkey-shun everyone.

Is it totally normal to just get exhausted by the whole damn thing? Cause, I'm beat today.

I feel like I've been rode hard and hung up wet - and not in any kind of good way!

- Kimmy

Hi Kimmy,

I feel you girl. I just can't find adequate words to describe the feeling. I guess we just got to take it one day at a time. We are allowed to have days when we feel exhausted.

Hugs

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I feel like I've been rode hard and hung up wet - and not in any kind of good way!</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Kimmy girl don't u start today, my boss is here & I can't be cracking up like yesterday!

Seriously though, I can understand your aniexty about dh being around OW, but remember U know he is remorseful & trying 2 make it up 2 u & work on your M. I pray he can forgive himself 2 that is a terrible burden to keep carrying, he has to let it go. I am thinking mabye in some ways this will never go away, whether there is contact or not, but all we can do is do the best we can.

Hugs to u sweetie, hope you pull out of that funk, we will all certainly help u as much as we can.

Here is a visual for u - picture my poor clueless H laying in a dark rm. w/ me & some pop rocks!

Hope that puts a snort on your face!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Here is a visual for u - picture my poor clueless H laying in a dark rm. w/ me & some pop rocks!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">TMI! TMI! TMI! OY VEY!

Of course when he's able to focus his eyes again, and asks you where you found out about your new skill, let him know all expressions of gratitude should be sent to me in the form of flowers or jewelry....hehehe.

Look! I can be like that lady on Oxygen with the Sunday Night Sex Show....lmao!