With the way they act on issues do you really and truly think they want the fathers of these children to have contact or just to interfere in your life? Really? How come WS have to be SOOOO adult about everything and they get to act like complete fools! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I just don't get why they cant just except the fact that are stupid have the child and get 50% of the parenting time. Hell they got 50 % of the booty time and had no problem with it. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH had to scream. SO what do yall think?
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Do you mean OWs in general, or your OW?

Duh, just read your other post. I guess I read them in the wrong order, sorry.

I'm sorry you had a bad day. What is ow doing to yank your chain?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I just don't get why they cant just except the fact that are stupid have the child and get 50% of the parenting time. Hell they got 50 % of the booty time and had no problem with it. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I agree w/ you at least in MY case. I think they only want one on one contact w/ the father, NOT the step mother or BC's - that would 2 much like right. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Like u said they didn't mind sharing the man so y not the OC. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Well she is mad cause H nots going to be there at the birth. OMG its cause Im a B and making him not do it. I'm going to leave a take his crap dah dah dah. WE want contact and she doesn't want me to? Duh? Hello B I'm his wife!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> She wanted to be apart of it sleeping w/ him, but now oh no. I'm going to hurt this child. Hell mine has gotten 2 spanking her whole life !!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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Hi Sunny,

OW are just selfish people. They cannot help it. They want everything their way. They throw a temper tantrum when they do not get their way. You two stick together and she will have to fall in place. I remember when my OW called me complaining because my WH stood her up. I wonder what my OW has up her sleeve when she delivers in Sept 04? OW are like big babies <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Sweetie. One day she's gonna have to get it thru her thick skull that her ploy didn't work. Right now, she's LBing (hehehehehe - and thank goodness for that) and whining because in the back of that dank mind she thinks that she can manipulate your dh again. It's probably pissing her off that she can't....so she's gonna blame you. BTDT. Kooze (her, not you). She's gonna say that you can't have contact, but in reality THE LAW IS ON DH's SIDE on this one. If you both want contact, then she has really no say as to who is there when the baby is in DH's custody (at least in MY state) - as long as it's a responsible adult.

Our kooze tried the same thing - and also said, "wah, wah, I dunno what she'd do to the baby when you weren't there." Um, play with her, love her, dress her in cute outfits and take her shopping, take her to the beach, get down on the floor and let her crawl all over me. Yep. Sounds like abuse to me. The idiot.

Do NOT let her get your panties wadded. She is trying to drive a wedge between you and dh - you are WAY too smart to fall for her inept manipulations.

- Kimmy

The tougher you are in the beginning of all of this, the sooner she will crawl back into her hole.

Your ow is the ultimate moron. Why would she think he would want to, or would be at the birth is actually funny. Think about how stupid and delusional that is? She is not playing with a full deck at all.

As for leaving you alone? Eventually, when they get beat a few times in court, when the judge sneers from the bench that he knows what she is up to and then levels her with your attorney costs, court cost, etc. When she tries and fails repeatedly, she will eventually give up. A few years may seem like a long time, but in the course of a life time it is nothing. Our ow rears her ugly head perodically and we have beaten her at every turn. She has leins against her home, has been held in contempt and is in debt up to her eyeballs due to her stupidity. She learned the hardway, LEAVE US ALONE. But, to her credit, she did not harrass us for 16 straight years. She went on and lived her life. Sure, she would get ticked off at god knows what and come after us for this or that, but we were always prepared and once the early fights were over (cs, insurance, etc) we have won virtually every ruling since oc was 2 years old. She, overall, leaves us alone, to the point of leaving restaurants if we come in.

Funny story. She was at some type of shower event held at a local restaurant. My H and I came in and were seated at a table, quite close to the big table of women, of which she was one. She became so unglued that we were there, she left! Her face was bright red, and she was getting all sweaty and stuff. I thought it was hilarious. Then it dawned on me. She was probably scared to death that I was going to say something nasty to her and that her group of lady friends were not aware that she was an ow, with an oc.

So, yes, things will settle down and be normal for you. You will go on with your life and live, love and laugh with your family. Contact or not, you will survive and thrive. Life goes on and while you may have an oc out there, it is entirely up to you and your husband how you deal with it. She has no control whatsoever on what decisions you two make. She can throw tantrums all she wants, she has no control. If you and your husband want contact, she can't say no. The courts will not allow her to dictate his time with his child. If you and he decide no contact, she can't harrass you and your family about it. Think about it. She really has very little power over what the outcome will be. It is a given she will have a child. If it is your husbands, she will get cs. But as far as how you and he want to deal with it, she has no say so whatsoever. This must be driving the woman crazy. If you have contact, done legally of course, she can't say "BW can't this, can't that" She has no right to do so. She may be the mother, but if your H is the father, he has just as much say as she. If he wants his child at his home, with his family, she can't say no.

So, go ahead and plan your life the way you see fit. These little tantrums are speedbumps, nothing more, nothing less. Enjoy your family and your friends. Let this husband of yours seduce you and love you up, let him show you how sorry he is and how he loves you. ENJOY HIM. The rest will fall into place.

Interesting. First of all could someone PLEASE tell me what STOW stands for. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I am finding this observation to be true in my situation. See "OW showing her true colors ."

I agree with BG, they only want the father to have C with OC so they can have contact with our H's. Like my OW said to my H, "Oh I thought you would just keep coming here to see her." Did she expect that for the next 18 years?!!!

Sunny I like your comment about the booty, I think I should use that one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> WE want contact and she doesn't want me to? Duh? Hello B I'm his wife!!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Just like my OW! She does not seem to see that I am his WIFE and that contact with me is inevtiable. Her comment about her not being around my kids clearly shows that she has no clue as to the difference in the situations.

They are all total selfish idiots.

STOW Sterio-typical Other Woman / or STUPID TYPE Other woman!!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Well after all her crying yesterday, I got a very nice dinner out, and some really great SF! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> And guess what she got? At home alone again, and getting fatter! She can rub her belly all she wants I get to rub his at night while hes rubbing my back and telling me how much he loves me! H was kinda upset and I guilty about the you were the first to hold you D when she came, plea. But WE ARE MARRIED! He was surpose to be there. He wanted OUR D !!! He didn't ask me to have an abortion! What is up w/ these folks. I did talk to the attorney yesterday and she said to keep up with everything and maybe we can prove her unstable. Shouldn't be too hard at the rate she is going! Ya think? But me and H had a nice calm, productive talk and we are fine. He is with me and is NOT going anywhere and is NOT going to the delivery room. He doesn't want to be w/ her. But does want to get to see his child. Thats what the attorney is for and we will just log all of her crazy stuff and live our lives being with each other and happy! And Lynn you are right. She cant control us and we WILL get our far share of the parenting time and there is NOTHING she can do about it. I'm a great mother, and great friend and I will be the greatest step mom! We will show this child what it is to be in love and to be loves and part of a family and make him feel like he is part of something good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> This will be her punishment from God, she will have her child 1/2 of the time and if she keeps up w/ the crazy stuff less than that, and to not know the kind of love we have for each other. We will be off again to the cabin with OUR friends and having a great time enjoying each other. While she will be W/O someone who loves her like H loves me and getting fatter! I'm praying that she will find peace with what she has done and forgive herself as well. That will be the only time she is going to be able to go on with her life. Thanks for all the support and I hope everyone has a great day!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
Delighted I have one more day before 12 days off!
Delighted God made this day for rejoysing
Delighted I got to tell my H this morning how much I loved him!
Delighted to have friends like you ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Don't feel bad I had to ask too.

Here is Sunny's reply to me.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">STOW Stereo-typical other woman Mean's there are some other woman who are going on with their lives and gets out of the MM's and BS's life and moves on. The ones that DONT are STOW's. The ones who continually interfere with these people's lives because they cant except the fact that they where OW and not Wives. And expect EVERYTHING to be about the other child and them. Don't care about you and yours just hers. No remorse for her actions and always interfering. These STOW's help the attorney you have to hire get rich.
(My feelings on a STOW)
Sunny D
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