Which is the very best way to put it. I've got a couple of weekend stories, so please bear with my multiple posts.
The first one begins Saturday morning. I was supposed to get up, get the kids ready and out the door and to the grocery by 8:30. Why 8:30, you ask. Because that's when I told the bakery I'd pick up the gagillion loaves of pan francis bread for the wedding. I KNEW the ferry line would be a b*tch since it was the 4th weekend and everyone and their dog in Texas came to Port A to celebrate, so I wanted on early in order to miss at least half of the unwashed masses and their respective mutts.
6:55 IN THE FRIGGIN morning, the phone rings and I pick up - it's OW needing to talk to dh. Since we had mija for the weekend, but mijo was with her, I assumed anyone calling that early would have a pretty darn good reason for it - specially with a baby that young. I'm an idiot sometimes, I'll admit it. My dh gets frusterated with her and hangs up on her (he'd just gotten in from work, and fallen into bed - well, not really fallen into bed - more like fell on me, and the tart better be glad she hadn't called about 10 min. earlier, because I'd have chewed her a new one for interupting THAT - where's that wicked grin smiley????). She rings back. I talk to her & tell her he's asleep now (it's 6:57 - I checked the clock). Okie dokie. Should've let the phone ring.
The gist of our 2.5 hr. conversation (YES TWO AND A HALF FRIGGIN HOURS) was:
1. She doesn't want dh to take the kids from her
2. She APOLOGIZED for effing up my life
little more info inserted here: NEVER thought I'd get that from her. I almost cried about that one - told her so. I told her that one of the hardest things for me to understand through this was that there was someone out there that had so little regard for me that she didn't care if she hurt me or not (because, I'm just not that kind of person - I am usually able to see the bigger picture and how my actions/decisions affect others, and make my decisions based on ALL the info). I also told her it wasn't just MY life that got effed up - it was HER life, my Dh's life, my kid's lives and her kid's lives that were affected by
their decisions. I was very calm about it, and attempted to word it in a way to show that I am stronger than she on this issue.
3. She doesn't want my dh to take the kids (you'll begin to see a theme in a moment)
4. She wanted me to know from her that it's over between dh and her
more additional info: Not that I give a rip - I mean, I do and I don't. Just by dh's actions I know it's over. But even if it weren't, I'm not sweatin' it anymore. I've found my happiness and I'll be damned if ANYONE will have control over it but me. Not my dh, not her, not my kids, not my 'rents - no one. It's mine and anyone who even considers bursting my bubble better be set and ready for a helluva a$$ chewing, cause ain't no one taking it away from me again. That's not to say I won't get down or sad from time to time, but I'm the one who had to hitch her britches up, and I'm the one in charge of them forever - well, me and my captin - God.
5. She doesn't want dh to take the kids
And that is the biggie. She wanted me to defend HER to my dh about the kids. She kept asking me to help make him see that she's a good mother and just wants to get on with her life. What-effing-ever. She asked me to tell her that I wasn't going to help dh take the babies - in an effort to NOT lie, I would word my response like, "Vanessa, what Nio and I want for you is to for you to take care of yourself and make GOOD decisions for your family." That would stave off her requests, usually. Oy.
Now, my question here is: Does any of her apologies or whatever count because she was still drunk from the night before, and hadn't yet gone to bed? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
- Kimmy
PS - Oh, yeah. Didn't get off the ferry till noon. Was over 45 min. in line. It was hotter than Hades in July - because it IS July - and I was the one sittin in the sun. At least I had a kick a$$ CD to listen to. I swear the kooze needs to get on anti-Ds - at least for MY sanity.
