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Check this out! I knew it was only a matter of time..
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,125579,00.html
The ramifications are huge..

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Oh Thank God that there is JUSTICE out there for @ least ONE man!

This is so sick that the county would do this to a man that they KNEW was NOT the father.

And yah, like he'll ever get his $$$$$$ back! Yah right!

I hope many more men are exonerated & TRULY fight to get a HUGE apology & their lives back---if that's possible!

Imagine all the credit scores ruined by such madness!

Arghhh! Well, thank God for this one guy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Yeah KT,
What I am also wondering if this verdict will result in exonerating Fathers that have assumed CS long after the fact. The system is in need of some serious overhaul. I suspect he will sue to get his $ back from the county. Once the county starts losing some serious gidas fighting in court plus judgements, they will be forced to review the current practices. Thanks for your .02!

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Well from what I have read here and the "other" site. Its better to get pg by a M man, they pay more than the gov pays!!!! Just think find you a MM and get PG, MOST of the time you don't have to share this child, or make their lives hell if they do want contact and get 1000.00 a month. I don't think the OW are stupid enough to find a "poor" MM to screw around with! ANd just think if you do it TWICE with two different men, well looks like to couch and bon bon's for them! I just had to blow that off my chest, sorry.
But it just seems that people today are using children as money pawns and God must be crying! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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I agree SD,
In my case I assumed the father role initially under a presumption that the twins were possible concieved by me due to her OB/GYN dates at the ultrasounds. Whatever... kinda late for me know as I love the kids as my own and would help support them whether or not I stayed married. Interestingly enough though, what if shortly after they were born, the Mrs. decided to go be with the OM and force me to pay for the next 16 to 18 years, denying visitation at every turn?..What recourse would I have had? None according to my state, I AM the father since they were born while I was married to her.
I mean say in my case I gave it my all to save the family intact, even with the OM children on the way, then later she flip flops and decides the grass is greener on the other side of the fence? Not many option for lil ol me. The system needs to protect all of the parties, even the children, but with DNA available and highly accurate , find the responsible parties and make them financially obligated. You wanna play you gotta pay! Sorry , this article got me going as me and the Mrs are having difficulty lately.
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Wouldn't it be nice if DNA tests were mandatory. It really sucks when all a woman has to do is name someone as the father and he has to pay. There was a case in Georgia where this man had paid $40,000 for a child that was later proved not to be his. She knew this all along but neither the state or anyone did a thing about it. There should be serious consequences for her lies. OW in my case is still legally married to her H but still was able to put WS's name on the birth certificate. And then what happens when it later gets proved he's not the father? Probably nothing and that's sad. This lying, cheating w**** can do whatever she wants and others have to suffer. When will people wake up and do something about it! Yes a man should support his children but they shouldn't have to support someone else's just because of lies and deciet.

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Wow, a perfect example of why you should not make a single move and NEVER trust the word of the mother, until DNA is established by honest to goodness legal DNA test.

I can't believe the courts would charge CS based solely on who the mother lists as father on BC, with only 30 days after receiving notice for said father to refute. Then the notice isn't served in person to said father? It doesn't even sound like the notice was sent via certified mail. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Laws definitely need to be changed. This case should go a long way toward that. I hope so.

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Yes there need to be laws for alot of this. OW tells H "I'm on the pill" or No I cant get pg. Then all of the sudden when they want to stop the relationship (cant call it that ) Booty call, shes preg. Ok what makes that any different in traping someone or it being fraud? WOW you get back at MM for going back to his wife (in my case) and lets get pg. Ok I'll get a check for the next 21 years and get to be a living hell in their lives and when the BS cant take all the [censored] everyday she will leave and this man will not be able to pay c/s for their children plus OC and be able to live. Except in a cardboard box. And he'll come back to me (OW)I agree the C/S laws in TN are STIFF!!! When I filed and got C/S for just my one child, H was in everyway getting the raw end on the deal. The judge also looks at why, and how you handled everything in the beginning. Lawyers tell you "don't pay a dime til we go to court", And judge looks at that as tring to get out of paying? You (mostly men) are screwed no matter which way you go. My deal is if you tell someone you are on the pill and then you get off of them and don't tell that person that what you are doing could create another human life, then it should be fraud! Who is to say she didn't do it just for the money issue? Her XH is not paying for his kid? Its really just not fair. I think C/S should be set to meet the needs of the children and also the man/woman should have a chance to live on their own also. Mind you when we did go to court I asked for 2/3's of what the judge set. But he looked bad by the advice of his attorney, don't giver her anything, deal. Thats why I tell everyone the day those OC are born, find out what the CS will be and start putting in back. That wasy when you do go to court you can say your honor, I have what my child needs, and since it has been proven now that the child is mine then here is the money. That way it just looks better on the father. But you don't want to give it the the OW before you know the child is yours. If you help create a life yes you should support it, but you also should have been given the chance to say ok your not on the pill and can get pg? I don't think alot of these WS would have done it! MAybe I'm wrong, but just IMO
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JMO, but I think anyone involved in A should be considered a liar and a cheat, because that's what they are. One should never assume their A partner is telling the truth about anything, no matter what. Problem is, most people in an A don't think clearly, if at all.

<small>[ July 15, 2004, 02:29 PM: Message edited by: autumnday ]</small>

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I'm with you Autumn! I love dh dearly - but I'll be darned if I'll blindly trust anyone ever again.

It's a priviledge to be earned, not taken for granted.

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You are so right about WS and OP being liers and cheats! Yet I don't get it, WS would rather believe that a person that would cheat with them to be trustworthy enough to not lie about the paternity of a child. We should trust them because they would never lie about a thing like that. What a joke. I think sometimes the reason WS doesn't want a DNA test is because they will look like a fool. Yeah, I'd rather pay CS for 18 yrs. than admit I was wrong. Any woman who falsly accuses a man of being the father should have to serve jail time and or prison time. I bet they'd think twice. And if DNA tests were mandatory it would avoid so much pain and heartache!

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Cyn, I agree these OW should be punished to the full extent of the law, after all it was/is a form of fraud.

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Hello,
I think that the women need to be punished for falsey naming people who they know may not be the father. If they start punishing them than there is less liking for women to lie who the father is.


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