I haven't posted much lately because I felt like I was "whining" too much. I know this is the place to whine...but just too much for me lately.

Well....yesterday we were in the city where the OW/OC reside. We were doing research for our upcoming court date. Just on a lark, I suggested to H to call the bar assoc. to see if they could recommend someone. It turns out they attorney they recommended, their secretary is an old friend of H's!! The attorney is a gun nut so he accepted a rifle my H had as payment!!! GOD is GREAT!!!
So do you think the good things stopped there?! Nope, I called OW to see if we could stop by and see the baby. She said yes. This is the first time H and I have seen her in person. She is beautiful.(the baby) We were there for only about 10 minutes but it wasn't uneasy for me at all. I could tell H and OW were VERY uneasy. But God blessed me and I felt nothing but joy at seeing this child.
I asked if we could stop by later and bring our daughter to meet her sister. She also agreed. I think she was hoping we would leave town and avoided a few phone calls. But another family friend called her and explained she should let this happen now. It would only make things worse for her in court. So my dearest daughter met her sister. It was touching.
All I focused on was my daughter and new step-daughter. We weren't there long. When we left I gave both OW and OW's H a hug and thanked them for allowing us into their home.
I feel so good about this. The attorney thinks our requests are reasonable and should be able to have them granted.
Thanks for listening.....(reading)lol

Wow,

That is great news. Maybe I need to start praying hard. I hugged OW in the beginning because I thought she just did not know I was in the picture. I thought we made an agreement to let husband choose between us. It turned out I was the only one who made the agreement. She wanted my husband even though he choose me. I am so glad your OW went back to her husband. Yeah! Please pray for me. I am still in a nightmare.

That is such great news ent!Praise the Lord!

I am so happy for you that you have an attorney & how great that the attorney was willing to work w/ you guys payment wise (a gun? that is incredible!).

Keep us updated. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> But God blessed me and I felt nothing but joy at seeing this child. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is great news, I know exactly how u felt.

God is good All the Time, and All the Time God is good! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I am so happy 4 U, hopefully this will be the beginning of OW cooperating with u both.

I forgot to tell y'all. We even have pics. I had to go make copies for my daughter.
My H keeps telling me how much she looks like my daughter when she was born. Yes...there is a similarity..but that's it. I know he is trying to make me feel better but it is not important to me.

I know this is just the beginning. There will be problems but I know with the Lord ALL things are possible.

Ent. I happy for you that the baby is healthy and the OW is working with ya'll. I think that is great. How is her attitude? Was your H at the Hospital when she was born. And you will have to put pix up so we can see. I wish you the best of luck and hope that the OW continues to work w/yall so this child has a chance to know them both in a good atmosphere (sp). Keep in touch
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

SunnyD,
I don't want you to think that this has been a bed of roses for us. Quite the contrary.
OW has been a real pain in the ***.
We didn't find out about OC until she was 2 mos. old. By an anonymous letter and when we were already separated.
We were standing in airport security line (me, H, and D)getting ready to send H and D off to Las Vegas for a soccer tourney. Guess who calls on my cell phone? OW! She asks for H and I hand him the phone. After he hangs up he pulls me aside and tells me about the OC and the letter he received the night before. Next thing you know, he has to go.
So, on my way back to work, OW calls me to talk to me. I am of course a mess by the time I get to work.
Since then she has done everything she could to as difficult as possible. (by the way, she is married)
As our family counselour has said, she is living in a fantasy world hoping that H will go to her.
My personal belief is that she only allowed us to see OC because her attorney advised her that would look good for her in court next week.
Your question about H being at the hospital. Even if we had known before OC was born, H would NOT have been anywhere near the OW giving birth. Not because I would have said so...but because he realizes what he has done to our family.
OW hates the fact I am going to be involved in OC's life. She has told my H how much she still loves him and always will.

Seems like you and H have come a long way since the OC birth. I'm just waiting to see what happens and in the mean time I am LIVIN, LOVIN, & Laughin as much as I can. H is doing quiet well but there is still calls from the OW and we are dealing with it. Time is getting close and it should all come to a head in about 8 weeks. So I keep the faith and keep praying for God to do his will and just to give me strenght with whatever I have to do. I just hope that God fills my heart with joy when I see our OC. And I hope that the OW will realize that we are making our M work and we do want to be apart of this childs life. So we shall see and keep praying that we will make it there and get on with our lives.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D