Hi Heartfailure,

I am so sorry for your misfortune. I am glad it was something cureable. I just do not know where they get off blaming us for something they did. It is like they do something wrong but they cannot take the blame for it.

Genia,
Chin up and legs crossed.

My WW has no desire to even hold hands let alone any type of SF. We men may play the 'gotta have it' line, but any person that is a few steps past Monkey can control themselves. You know your H better than me, so stick with the 'lets fix this so we do not keeping getting sick' until it is fixed. The physics line was a great one.

Some people have been allow to not face concequenses for their actions. Those people should not be allowed into your life at the level he is.

BTW, I have not looked into your situation to deeply (sorry 'bout that) but NC can be done, even with the P. You posted a while back that was out of the question do to the P. At least, I think it can, me and the WW are going to try it.

Good luck, and as a tip, I always try to think of what I am gonna learn from this. This should be the LAST time it ever happens to me, do not except anything less than that for you.

Hi CanthisHelp,

I know I posted to your thread and I feel for you. I would like NC however my husband wanted a baby girl really bad and he insists on contact. When I talk to him it results in argument. He is very selfish. I do intend on kicking him out if he insists on visitation at OW's house.

Forgive my ignorance, but are you guys going to MC?

Maybe there could be some rules?

Just a thought and trying to help.

My husband does not want to go to counseling. He agreed to counseling at church but not to revealing our situation to counselor.

Husband refuses to wear a condom.
Then simply refuse to have sex with him.
Tell him no nookie until he has a complete set of STD tests ran and is given a clean bill of health. (you too should get a complete set of tests ran).

My husband does not want to go to counseling. He agreed to counseling at church but not to revealing our situation to counselor.
So what are you going to tell the counselor?
That he seems like a nice person and you both just wanted to talk with him?

Hi Chris,

It already is too late. I tried to refrain but was too hot for my husband. In my heat I beleived his lies but the more I think of it, the more I think he had sex with OW. I had full set of test done about 15 days after my suspicions Of Husbands SF with OW. I am gonna get another set of tests done probably Friday. That will be One and a half months after my Suspicions of activity. I will get last set done the middle of September.

Hi,

I just wanted to give you all an update on my situation as far as health concerns. Husband decided to go to health dept. I said why. He said because I was tired of hearing your mouth. Not that I said that much about it. He exaggerates. Anyhow, I went also. I had a yeast infection. He has a yeast infection or something like Jock itch for men. They said he might have diabetes. I feel bad for him if he has that. I took HIV test. Lab tech said I can know in as little as 6 weeks from exposure to risk. She said they take all negative test in which they tested for antibodies and retest for the HIV protien. So in one week I can lay all fears to rest. But at least I know where Yeast is coming from. No sex for me or husband for a while. Fine with me since I don't want to have sex with his sorry butt no way.

Did your H have any symptoms--how did they know he had a yeast infection? What did they do to diagnose him?

He was itching. He also had a rash. They looked at it and said it was yeast. He has to use the same cream that people use for athlete's foot. He also has athlete's foot. But he never told me that he was itching.

Genia,

I am praying that all turns out well w/ your test & that H does not have any serious diseases either.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Genia}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Hi Babygirl,

I cannot beleive how insensitive nurse is at Doctor's office. I have no money. So I go to doctor and ask them to write me a prescription for yeast. I told her I went to health dept because I have no money. I tell her I am not sure over the counter will work for me. I serve at a restaurant so I tell her I was going to work tonight so I have money to pay for medication. She says she don't know if Doctor will write prescription without seeing me. I say what if a person have HIV, would yeast ever go away. She just says, "No they have to live with the Disease." Is that not insensitive? Why are institutions so mean if they find out you have no money. If I had just called up and told them I needed a prescription like I did last time, they would have called it in. But because I told her I went to the health dept she says I don't know if Doctor will call it in.

PS: Babygirl thanks for your concern

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People are really ignorant, she should realized it may be her or a loved one who has to "just live with the disease" one day, bet her tune would change then.

All you can do is pray for people like that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Hi Babygirl,

That is exactly what I thought. What if it were her or somebody special to her. Not that I have the disease, but just the thought if I had it. I guess that is just a taste of what HIV people go through. I feel bad for them and it could be me. I will know for sure in a week. I hope it is not me, because I know I would want to hurt some people who do not know how to act.