Sorry, I haven't posted sooner. This has been a wild past few days. We went to court on Thursday and had our first weekend of visitation with OC. She was a doll.....The visitation has to take place in a certain county for now and MIL has no computer. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> (not used to that) lol
So here is a copy of what I had already posted elsewhere..
"H had hearing at 3:00 yesterday. Both sides had attorneys. H tried through his attorney to negotiate something workable for all before the hearing started but to no avail.
There were 3 items on the agenda.
1) Name change- The original master judge had given OC her step-dad's last name as a middle name. H wanted to use a traditional hispanic middle name. The OC would have mom's maiden name as middle name then H's last name. Judge granted that request and dropped stepdad's name and original middle name.
2) Visitation- OW wanted 6 mos of supervised visitation. She was to supervise. No other parties would be allowed other than H, OW, and OC. And these visits would only be 2 hours a month. We live over 300 miles away. With H's job there would be ,in essence, no visitation. The judge granted 1st, 3rd, 5th weekend of every month from 6 Fri. to 6 Sunday with the stipulation, H was not to leave the county or surrounding counties where OC resides for the first 6 mos. After 6 mos. the OC would be driven at a halfway point determined by court and the parties would exchange OC. Then she would be able to come to our home.
3) Child support- OW wanted back child support from the time she was born. Under testimony from OW, she admitted she had NO intention of ever telling H about the baby. But she had a friend send an anonymous letter. (?) The judge ruled no back child support because of her admittance of passing this child as her husbands.
So, that was that. It did start getting kind of nasty, which about made me cry. H and I had not wanted anything like that to happen. But the judge, wisely, shut down THAT line of questioning from both attornies.
We finished at 5:05 and the judge ordered the first visitation for 6:00 that evening. Only H, OW, OC, and myself were to be present. The first 30 minutes would be with OC. The last hour she would have to leave and family could come in and interact with OC. (by the way...i stayed outside while H and OW resolved what happened in court. I didn't come in until 6:30)
OC was sooo beautiful. I got to change my first poopy diaper within the first 5 minutes!!! LOL! I have not done one in about 10 years! We are going to pick her up at 10 tomorrow morning and have her until 6 on Sunday.
H,daughter, son, and I are so thrilled to have her in our family. Yes...things were tense after court. But I hugged her when she left and said I would always treat her as one of my own.
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<small>[ August 08, 2004, 11:29 PM: Message edited by: Entwife ]</small>
