Swimming Alone,

Only you have to decide what it is that you want, and then work towards it. Be absolutely certain about your decision.
I feel for you, as I'm in a very similar situation. I know full well what the emotions you are going through are like. It's not a fun place to be. I'm sorry I don't have more advice for you, but just wanted you to know that you are not swimming alone here. Take care.

This guy wants my wife to move in with him and be introduced to the children. My wife knows better than that. I did tell her that if she married him that anything that we have between us is lost and we will only have 2 children between us. If she married someone else I would wish her well but not a former friend of mine being the step father to my children. No Way will just keep it strickly business with her when dealing with the children

Sorry to threadjack. It is now over a week later, but I wanted to answer K's reply to my post on this thread.

I know that a divorce and Plan B are two wholly separate entities. I don’t confuse the two. It all happened to me long before MB was around and no one knew anything about Plan A or Plan B. In my case, the divorce did work like a Plan B. I write to illustrate that even though one might get divorced, it all might not be over, reconciliation is still possible.

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I agree there is the possiblity of us getting back together. It depends a great deal on how we get through this and trying to preserve anything we have left for each other. I have a lot of anger toward her that we need to be dealt with along with having complete forgiveness for what she has done

well we told the children we are getting a divorce. My daughter cried alot and my little boy said if mommy and daddy will be happier this way then I am ok with that. I know they will have harder days when all this seeks in. My wife is going to tell them about the baby in a few weeks. MY counselor said that the kids will probably prefer to live with me full time because they will resent their mother. I am ok with that ,, that's what she gets for what she has done.. I do not wish her ill will in her life as long as she does not end up with that guy.. it won't last anyway. I really do have some serious anger issues about all this. I have realized that I do deserve better.. anyone does.... she does not want to even try to work things out she says it is hopeless.. well let her go with that guy and I will be the best father I can be.. When I am ready to start dating I will not bring this person around my children unless I have dated for a while and think I would marry because I know it would confuse my kids..My wife has done enough of that

GOOD for you swimmer I agree with not bringing every tom [censored] and harry or in your case jane around the kids befor you know FOR SURE it will be a long term lasting relationship.

STAY Strong.