Genia

I know this is not maybe owhat you want to hear but 1st just pray.

2nd whats the old saying if its your and you set it free & comes back to you than it was always yours, if he doesn come back then he's just F'D up in the head <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Had to say something to make you smile.

honey we are hear for you. I have to run Can we talk 7am tomorrow?

Hi Lonely,

Sorry for what you are going through. I feel really down that I have to let him go because I love husband and she has won nothing because he does not love her. He admitted to getting in arguments with her during the affair. I know, one night I walked in when I heard him argueing with her on the phone from outside. If the affair is not sweet how would they make it in real life. Why he is letting her manipulate her I do not know? I do got let him go, and I said the same thing. If he loves me he will beg to come back.

I know you dont want to let him go but maybe he will see that there is nothing there between him and her and when he he realizes it then it will be smack in the head. I know finding out your h has had an A is bad enough but hthen for him to leave you, dman homey i am sorry i dont know that feeling but i can simpthaize with you. If you need to cry or talk I am here for you.

Just keep praying.

Hi,

He has not left. I was thinking of kicking him out. If you read, does OW have a conscience you will see that stuff is starting to happen. I am not gonna kick him out yet. I will wait this out since stuff happening so soon to see if his actions concerning birth and contact with OC warrent him to be able to stay with me.

sorry posted before I read that.

Hi,

Just with OW getting ready to give birth to OC, I thought would be bad timeing to kick husband out at this emotional time for us all. I will wait and see how OW/OC/WH situation unfolds. OW/WH will show their true colors at this time I know. He will have to chose sides.

<small>[ August 20, 2004, 12:09 PM: Message edited by: Genia ]</small>

Yes he will and he will realize that you arent going any whre and as long as you stand by his side it will make his head open up to see the truth.

Just remeber everything happens for a reason. The TRUTH will come out. and he will see that you are his ONE and ONLY LOVE <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

K - I totally understand how you are feeling. I too found out about the A after the OC was born and was told in a cowardly way (over email while at work!!). I feel so confused. My H and I never seperated and sometimes I wonder if that was a mistake. Should we have taken time apart to determine if we really wanted to make it work. Most days I am okay, I try not to think about it...but I may be avoiding it. Today is our anniversary and all week I told him what my expectations were (for me to feel like I am special). Well guess what! Nothing...that's what! We were suppose to go to dinner and a movie and instead I am online while he is sleep because I put too much pressure on him (his words). What does that mean? I just communicated what I wanted him what I expected and how I wanted him to comfort me. Sometimes he acts like he doesn't even know who I am and how to take care of me. I don't know what he is going through but he acts like any little extra attention I need is too much (that's what he said...that this was too much). Like what I am going through is not too much! What about me and how I feel! I am the injured party, he needs to be a MAN and step up to the situation he created!! I guess I really needed to vent.