OK emailing buddy, your vacation should be OVER by now! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> Give us a line. Did you get that BB boy taken care of. So proud he's in college! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Hey Sunny D!

Missed you guys, yes unfortunately the vac. is over, going up to TO tomorrow to see the campus, set up living arr. for the baby boy!

Trying to keep it together, have cried once this week already, after he gave notice to his job - I ain't called baby girl for nothing! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I must say I have missed your emails this week! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> We still have not seen any pix up on sis by fire! I guess you going to have to mail them to me and I will get them up. Since bb boy is off to school! God I know that was hard! Well I'm home for a min to p/u D and go back out to the race track. But I thought I would check on you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> How the old H doing? Any word on the v ! I think and pray for you daily! So I hope everything is going good. Oh me and H had our talk! FINALLY! Man you would think two people living together would have time to sit and talk! But everyhting is going good. I feel better and h & I are loving each other more everyday! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> You know don't you feel better when you give all of this crap-ola to God. Man I tell you what. What goes around comes around. Oh BTW XH dropped his support case! Man god is good. Well he wasn't going to win,but any how It felt good for hinm to call and say he dropped the case and I won! Whatever. God is good ALL THE TIME! Had a good time at the track and H was so clingy! Man you would think we just got M! Well good night and I'm glad u r back and I will check in tommorrow.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
Delighted to have God in my life!
Delighted to have my friends here and at home!
Delighted that I have someone to have and hold
Delighted that I have the faith and the strength to go on & on & on (you get the pix)

Hey Sunny!

I am back from my vac. & well rested if nothing else. My son is not leaving until Oct. we just saw the school & looked at housing for him on Saturday. I am happy but sad at the same time. Expect to be a wreck by the time he leaves.

I am glad that u & H talked & things seem to be on track, that is so great!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> The power of prayer is awesome isn't it!!

My H is still dragging his feet about V, but I am not stressing, not gonna ask again, may have to go the route JT & Luv r going soon. Only time will tell, I am ok not sad at all, I know I am doing what I should be to make this M work, that is all I can do.

My son still says he will scan the pics for me, soon????????

I emailed u.

Hopefully we will get to chat tonight you guys but I'm not sure--H is off work and may be lurking and he is suppose to bring over ShrekII for us to watch--son and I and I don't know when he is going to bring it over--also gotta do some laundry--but hopefully I will get chance to chat online while doing laundry. We will see.

Hi Babygirl,

Sorry you are having problems. I have a problem too I am not discussing on this board because it is irrevalent but is a big wedge in my marriage. I do not think people will understand so I am leaving it in God's hands and I hope he will work it out. If only I could jump into husbands mind for a minute to read it, it would be great.

Hey Genia,

My problem is very relevant, as you said though trying to let God handle it for now.

I can say this much though, I have given H a deadline to have V set up thru the courts & to have DNA done, he has agreed to both but he agres to lots of things. I am sure deadlines & ultimatums is not the MB way but someone has to stop the madness, guess that would be ME! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I pray things get better for you at home soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

BBYG,

you will know when it is time for you to take a stand and do what you have to do. Remember when everyone was suggesting plan B to me and I refused to do so to speak ( out of fear that he would not return). Well when I got to that point I did it I made the move for me and my kids. You will do the same and only you will be able to tell when that time is right.

don't get me wrong I am not saying you girls were pushing me ( in the end you were right ), but I had to know for sure and I did. I felt it, it was right so that's where I am now.

You will be fine your faith will lead you through whatever is to come. I know you know this I just wanted to remind you that you are beautiful and precious in his sight!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />


JT

Hi Babygirl,

I beleive you are doing the right thing. We all need boundaries and respect. You have created yours. I have set mine also. Somehow I beleive husband is gonna test me by stepping over the boundary. If and when he does, I will be ready to enforce my boundary. Although enforcing it, will be just as painful to me as it is to him.

JT -

You are do right on, only ME, MYSELF & I will know when it is time, just like I did two years ago when I put H out. It is not about being right though when it come to trying to help someone else, in your case we all told you what we thought was right, same as we have done w/ Luv, Albany & others or least I have, but you of course, just like them know way more than we ever will about what has gone on or is going on in your home & in your M, so the final decision rest with you & no one else.

To me plan B is a great alternative to filing for a D, as I have said before if I had known about Plan B I would have done it instead of the dating crap I did w/ H for 8 months while he lived w/ OW, every situation is different though, you had to do what is best for JT & JT's babies & I back you 110% in your decision to file for D. Life is too short to play games. These men to grow up & do what is best for their families & their M & if they don't want to do that then they should say so & act accordingly, I guess that is too much like right though. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Genia - I wouldn't want to enter my H's mind, it is a very scary place right now, he has bit off more than he can chew & has no clue as to how to handle the mess he has made, so if it takes losing me for him to see the light, oh well. Time for me to do what I have to do for me & let God handle him. What else can I do, that I haven't already?

Babygirl,

I beleive you have fought a good fight and God will reward your pain and suffering. God has a purpose for everything and sometimes we are put through the fire so that we might be a stronger person. There was something God wanted us to learn from this. One thing I learned is that I need to set boundaries and to respect myself.

Genia,

I totally agree that EVERYTHING happens for a reason & God does have a purpose for this trial I have endured, he also never wastes a hurt.

I used to believe that HIS purpose in all this was for me to stay w/ H & use this test to one day become my testimony, & for the restoration of my M to glorify God & my H & I would one day help other struggling couples, I now believe I have gone thru this "fire" to build MY character & that God is preparing me for a greater blessing in the future.

I made many mistakes thru this trial also & did not always conduct myself in a "christ like" manner, but I have learned so much & become so much stronger in the last two years. My faith has increased also but not enough to keep up the fight.

I know now beyond the shadow of a doubt that I can let H go & my M go & have no regrets. I pray that H will one day return to his first love & walk the path that the Lord has for him, even though it won't be with me. I also pray that his daughter has a blessed life & is one day raised in a christian home, & that her mother grows up & stops using sex & babies to try to get a husband. I pray for myself that I will no longer hate her.

So yes I have no bitterness & no confusion about where I am right now, I am truly at peace with the decision before me and I know God will reward my faithfulness. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Babygirl,

I feel the same way. I have set my boundary and I am at peace with my decision. I know I will miss my husbands love but realize now I am paying a high price to keep his love. Pray for my daughter Babygirl. She is 19. She has cut herself off from family. She does not answer her cell phone no more. Her last call to me she told me she moved in with a guy. I have no details or name of the guy. I have not heard from her since last Thursday. And she quit college. Everybody in the family is upset and worried about her.

Genia,

So sorry to hear about your D, she won't talk to you either?

I will pray a hedge of protection around her & that she will at least start talking to you & your family soon.

You really don't need this added stress right now, I know. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Genia}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Hi Babygirl,

Thanks. I prayed for her this morning and put her in God's hands. I need all the prayer I can get.

we all do ladies. We all need prayer and guidance from God. we must take care of ourselves and leave the rest to him. He will deal with our H's in his time. and If it was menat to be it will be. That is what I keep telling myself evey morning.

I too am having withdrawls from my H. I am used to talking to him and seeing him daily even if it is not pleasant all the time; however I know that i must do this for me and the kids. He would not make a choice so I had to. I had to stand up for me and you all will reach a point in your lives where you can do it too with a clear consience.

But wait until then or until the Lord puts it on your heart to do so.
BBYG, I thank you for your support and you are a very strong woman and will make it through this. I know you will.


Keep praying,

JT

JT,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">BBYG, I thank you for your support and you are a very strong woman and will make it through this. I know you will. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks, I feel the same about you, I feel the same about all of us actually. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Check out my post on SBF if you get a chance.

Hi,

What is SBF? Am I missing out?

sister by fire--Genia

BBYG~I just read your update and my heart goes out to you--thinking of you too--actually all of you I say a prayer for each night.

Genia,

It is our Sisters By Fire website.