O.K. so OW keeps saying she is leaving with OC. Now, its not this month, its next month, I truly dont think she is leaving.

Now, OW wants H to go take Pic with the baby so "she can know who her father is". I told H i DO NOT want him going to take pics with OC byhimself. I said to tell OW to give us teh baby and we will take her to go get pics. I DO not want him and her together and taking pics. I told him I am o.k. with him taking pic of JUST HIM AND OC but NOT HIM, OC, AND OW. ITs not to happen. He says OW does not want to take pics with him. I told hhim i dont know her froma a whole in the wall so how am i suppose to know that. I explained taht I am just stressign my opinion. and that is i want to be there when they got to take pictures. I just dont trust this woman for some rason (maybe its becuase she slept with my H.) Thats a good enough reason for me.

I asked my H to find out what what size clothes the baby wheres so I can buy her smething before she leaves. I am trying to show everyone that I am making a effort to accept this child.

What do you guys think.

Hi lonely,

OW is playing games. Saying she is leaving is a ploy to get you to back off. Even if she leaves it is not all better. My OW is 3 hours away and husband would like to visit OC without me 3 hours away. I do not think so. Also do not agree for him to go with OW to take pictures. This is an attempt on her part to play family. You and husband can take baby to get pictures. Please check into getting visitation legal. Call your court to find number of legal aide. Maybe you can get some help. Can you afford a lawyer?

You are getting your chaing jerked left and right by this ow. What is the legal standing of this situation? It is vital that you and your husband be proactive on the legal side. Get things moving. She is harrassing you. Get this noted. By setting things up legally, she can get into legal hot water for frivolous calls (such as this) and she can be forced by law to back off.

As for the photos, no way. Actually, you can have photos taken with him and the oc, and you don't even have to give them to her. When oc is old enough, you can give oc the photos. If you are having any kind of contact, the photos can stay at your home. OC can see them there. Afterall, your husband,you and oc are a unit apart from ow. If you are going no contact, then there truly is no point in the photos in the first place. This is another standard ow ploy. Ours tried to send photos of oc to us and grandparents, etc. She was fined for the contact as we wanted none. She must have been livid when the photos went back to her, and then she was hauled into court for harrassment.

If you are going no contact, it means NO CONTACT.

Please get yourself some legal help. This kind of manipulation and harrassment will continue as long as she keeps getting away with it. I have said it before, slap em hard with the law early and they learn to leave you alone. She needs to learn that the relationship between the father and his wife with the oc is out of her control. She has to learn to accept that. Her behavior could be construed by the courts as harrassment and you can get an OFP against her.

WE do want CONTact

Lonely,

Yes, I agree w/ LynnG...OW really thinks she is slick....u & H can take the OC to take pictures, and keep them in your home, so when the child grows up, she can see them there...sounds like OW is probably snapping photos of H holding OC if he goes over there alone...I wouldn't trust her at all...just from what u have stated...she is probably not even going anywhere...just wants to see if your H will beg her to stay...it is kind of like a threat almost....unbelievable, then again, why shouldn't we believe it...this is the OW we are talking about...sorry to the sensible OW's out there, if any.

lonely,

I admit I don't know your story, so I have one question... Has DNA been established?

That being asked, here is my opinion..

IF DNA has NOT been established there should not be ANY contact until it has been proven that your H is the bio-father.

IF DNA has been established, and you want contact(which I read in this thread that you do), then get it set LEGALLY that your H can have visitation BEFORE the OW moves and takes the child. SHOULD she truly leave and take her, it can be considered kidnapping if she denys him his legal right to visit the child in a timely manner.

AND IF DNA has been established then you and your H should have pictures taken w/o OW.

Stacia

<small>[ August 24, 2004, 08:15 AM: Message edited by: Stacia_Lee ]</small>

Thank youo guys.


you are so right. She does want pics. of my H holding the baby. As i said its so she can keep them and giive them to the baby when she gets older (so she'll know who her father is).

My thing is if she wouldnn't leave then she would know who her father is. But, I hope andpryas that she leaves at least for a while so that I can get my life and family together before she decides to come back. Only time will tell.

Stacia, Yes, DNA was determined. He is the father. We do want to do things legally right now its a little hard because it is very expensive for a lawyer.

Sometimes this woman makes me soo confused.. but i guess thats what OW do right? OW are soo uuuhhh words cant say. I am sorry if i offended any OW. She wants to play family with my H and sometimes i think she forgets he has a W, **** she doesnt forget she doesn't care. I am trying soo hard to make my H see taht she is F---ing with his head and the more he stops giving in to her the more she will leave us alone. She f's with his by 1.) saying I cant see the baby right we have established that. But she will call him and say I'm in the neighbordhood you can see the baby but then she will only let him see her for like 10 min. in her car. and of course I cant go, because if she sees me she will pull off. So my H says when she calls sometimes now he tells her No, he doens't want to see her, because 10 minutes does not do anything for him or for the baby. He says why dont you just let me take her home. and of course she says NO!!!!!!!! So, i guess now she does not call as much anymroe for him to see her. I thnk maybe now she undestands that he is NOT going to come running everytime she calls him. I am sorry to be rambling she just makes me sick sometimes, i want to tell her to just be a woman and let my H handle his resonsibility like he wants and is trying to. **** she should be glad he wants to have contact with the baby, you know there are a lot of men that dont want anytning to do with OC. She should be ahppy he wants to get to know his daughter.

Sorry just rambling today, getting some stuff off my chest.