Hi Pep~

Just wanted to let you know, "NewHere37" is a BH, not a WW. Here's his first post from a month ago today,

http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=35;t=004486;p=1#000000

Not to nit-pick, or anything! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

*edited, because I STILL can't figure out how to abbreviate a link!!!*

<small>[ August 29, 2004, 04:33 PM: Message edited by: autumnday ]</small>

OHHHH!! lemme help,, autumnday,,PLEASE!!

This is one of the FEW things I do know how to do!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Copy whatever link you plan on adding,,,
Bring up your reply format,,type your message til you get to the needed link,,,
click on the little rectangular box that says URL..paste your copied link in that box,,,click OK,,another box that says Script Prompt will come up,,Type in there the name of your link,,click OK,,and WALLA!!!,,It's added!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well I think some of us have been accused of cat fighting on another thread! LOL!

Joshmom- you said you deleted my post cause you thought it was a double post- it was innocent. Chud got a kick of it! But following you put the laughing icon. Not "sorry PB- accident". Cause there I'm not a "real" person I'm some a** who we'll make a joke of deleting the post she just spent time on. And further, was not evil or mean or whatever. In the past I do remember that you and NTMO/Marysway were very fair. Others were EXTREMELY rude. I even got nasty pm's and was called names and ridiculed. Imagine that- name calling???? From grown, educated women/mothers? Nuts Joshsmom- sorry. No one is like that here, nothing near that. HOWEVER, it did not bother me, just challenged me to show my side of the fence.

(OKAY CAT FIGHT OVER) ha! ITS- ALL - GOOD.
WE CAN ALL RESUME THE DANG MARRIAGEBUILDING! LOL.

Though no one here is fighting- just doing the natural thing that happens in ALL long discussions- getting across your opinions and feelings. Some of that is disagreements.

<small>[ August 29, 2004, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by giovanna123:
<strong> Well I think some of us have been accused of cat fighting on another thread! LOL!

Joshmom- you said you deleted my post cause you thought it was a double post- it was innocent. Chud got a kick of it! But following you put the laughing icon. Not "sorry PB- accident". Nuts Joshsmom- sorry. No one is like that here, nothing near that. HOWEVER, it did not bother me, just challenged me to show my side of the fence.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, it was an accident. If it wasn't I would have just left the laughing icon and that was it. I did feel bad, because it was a long post. Mea culpa. I missed what happened after that, but from what I understand it wasn't pleasant.

And c'mon - we ALL have our resident nuts. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Joshmom wrote: But I have to just add that NEVER has anyone that has come to the Childrens & Affairs board (that came in peace, so to speak) and offered a piece of advice to someone and been torn up one side and down the other like NTMO has.

Ok I gotta laugh @ this! Maybe you have been gone too long jm. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Their are cats on every board! I've seen them, read them & just about heard the rrrrrooowww come right through my screen.

I realize it is most likely someone 'new' to the situation & emotions are still hot & bothered, but don't deny that it is there.

I don't mind-----I can take it, but some can't. It doesn't matter.
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I get you Pep!

I wish I could think more clearly like you & be more straight-forward. Hopefully by the time I've got a b-day cake full of candles huh? Is that the secret?

I was right there w/ ya on your post on emotions vs. making ethical/moral decisions. I was having the same conversation w/ a friend the other day 'bout the same exact subject--you summed it up pretty well....to get MY point across. LOL

Do you mind if I copy that?

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Originally posted by ktbunch:
Hopefully by the time I've got a b-day cake full of candles huh? Is that the secret?

Shaddap ya little whippersnapper! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ~LOL~


Do you mind if I copy that?

Copy me anytime, young grasshopper. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Pep( the wrinkled but still cute)

NTMO - I apologize for getting my back up...and I know you didn't say that I am some kind of babysitter...I will refute that in MY house and in dh's custody, my h designates me as a responsible party in care of the oc. In those instances I DO have rights under the law to care for, render aid to, and have a say in their upbringing. Again, that is in our custody/house. Our cs/custody papers say so. Black and white, signed by ow and dh and made legal by the judge.

As for attacking anyone as an OW, I did not mean for it to come off that way...and I do believe I even said that I've learned much from those I've talked to (some good, some bad...not anyone here, tho, the bad part, I mean). We are all here to learn and become better humans, I think.

Again, NTMO, I apologize for getting pissy with that one thing you said and going off on my own tangent. I DO value your input. Honestly....and I CAN see your point...no matter what, I think, it is about the children, and what's best for them...that's something we both agree on.

- Kimmy

Thankya very much Nerly...you're a doll!! Would you believe I've even, (as recently as yesterday), looked for a URL option, and looked right past it or some darn thing <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ? It would appear, the older I get, the more brainfarts I have. Here's hoping this works...Nerly rocks!

Nios thank you and it's not as if I've never gone off on a well you know <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
What I must say and this not putting anyone else down is I respect the fact that you do take such an interest in all the kids. I can tell in your post that you love them all as if they were your own. I could imagine how hard that would be for someone in your shoes and all that has happend so I commend you on that. I wish (I mean this sincerly) that my daughter could know her extended family and have her father and stepmother to love her as they love there children of the marriage. NO amount of money could make that up. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I could imagine how hard that would be for someone in your shoes </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's not nearly as hard as most think. Have YOU ever held a baby you didn't give birth to and just wanted to sit and sniff their hair and nuzzle their soft little cheeks? Imagine getting to do that A LOT - even if they aren't yours by birth....I don't look at them and think, "hmmmm, it's not mine...." I look at them and think, "OMG! Thank you for these blessings! They've helped a hard time be ever so much easier. You truly do know what You're doing, don't You?"

I'm sorry your darling daughter's bio-dad doesn't want a connection. It's their loss, really. Your dd is BLESSED to have such a fiercly protecting and loving momma to help make up for his failings!

- Kimmy

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Niosgirl:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I could imagine how hard that would be for someone in your shoes </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">It's not nearly as hard as most think. Have YOU ever held a baby you didn't give birth to and just wanted to sit and sniff their hair and nuzzle their soft little cheeks?

Oh yeah........I totally know what you mean.

Imagine getting to do that A LOT - even if they aren't yours by birth....I don't look at them and think, "hmmmm, it's not mine...." I look at them and think, "OMG! Thank you for these blessings! They've helped a hard time be ever so much easier. You truly do know what You're doing, don't You?"

I'm sorry your darling daughter's bio-dad doesn't want a connection. It's their loss, really. Your dd is BLESSED to have such a fiercly protecting and loving momma to help make up for his failings!

- Kimmy </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thank You. I am very protective over her but she is worth every moment of anything. I can't imagine my life without her. IT's amazing......she has got this charm about her. My twins were charming, but oh Taylor is CHARMING. Thank You Nios