How was the weekend and what is new in your world.

Hey Albany,

Nothing new to really report. I have been reading all of you girls' updates. My H is still calling my grandmother swearing that he wants his family back. Apparently everything is not going good on the homefront. Her 3 other children according to my grandmother do not listen to him at all and she does not back him up i guess. He told my grandmother that he is not use to living the way that he is now.

He ans OW had an arguement where he must have told her that she was the cause of all this. She then in turn told him that she had nothing to do with him and his wife. "He then told her yes hell you did! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> You had everything to do with it." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

so get this now I am not to blame, but SHE is to blame! (partially true) When is he going to see that he is the one to BLAME! He was M to me not her. This is his fault, she only did what he allowed her to or what he wanted to happen. I don't think he'll ever realize that this is his doing ONLY!!

They both made stupid choices and now the kids will pay the price for their mistakes. I still don't think that he'll ever get it and have stop trying to figure it out. I just want to be loved solely and purely 100%!! I want to be the apple of my H's eye, I want to be everything to him and vise versa. I want to be loved and taken care of like a princess.

I don't really think my H can do that, plus I can not be second and I don't want to live with any C with OC/OW. I don't think he is really sincere about doing that. Why would he he hasn't before now!! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />


JT

BUT I AM STRONG AND MOVING ON!!

Well don't right him off yet--but he has farther to and IMO he would have to MC.

You seem well. Like I said not a ton new with me--just find H's behavior and comments yesterday interesting. I will let you know what tonight brings--I will to post an update--what time do you usually get on the sisters by fire chat?

Hi JT,

You are doing so good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

JT--just checking in and wanted to tell you I hope you are having a great day.

JT how goes it with the storm? Worried about you. Let us all know.

Ok check in JT! We are making sure you didn't get blown away! But reading yours, albany, and luvs post and updates, can you see how they are so much alike? You know why do they go crying now I love you and want my family? Why did you girls have to go out and spend the money and NOW they want to talk? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Men are so alike I swear. But you three girls are doing great. I read on another post that said this is the PLAN ME plan. I hate that all of you are there, but being stong never felt so good did it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I think they are in their "WHAT IN THE HELL HAVE I DONE PLAN! And all of you are doing fine. Keep up the good work and the working on ME & my kids being happy plan! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> And the less time yall send bickering w/ these guys the better off you will be. Less communacation the better, let them see how it is w/o you and their family.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Hi Girls,

I am doing just fine! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> The winds have been crazy, flodding and trees and power is down all over the state. I am so glad that God is looking out for me, because me and the kids have had power and water all day long. Aside of the very strong winds plumiting the house it has been likve being on vacation. The stormy weather did not really kick in until the kids were alseep, Thank GOD!

So today is very gloomy outside, but laughing cheerfully inside our humble abode! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Guess who called this morning? YES, you are so right. I answered the phone before I looked at the caller ID. It was my H. He called to see if everything was okay over here and that we were doing fine. I said Yes, and pssed the phone to my son to talk. I went on in the kitchen to finish breakfast. My little boy talked to him for about 20 minutes then he tried to get the baby girl to say hello, but she would not just kept saying daddy!!

He did get to see them last night though on his visit at my grandma's. I copied that post that Angelia wrote to luv and sent it to him with his mail. My grandma said he read it while sitting there with her. He then told her that I was right and that the article/post was right.

So what has he learned from any of this? I don't know am not sure if he'll ever learn anything, just praying for the best and whatever God has in store for me now. I must really and totally release it. I have been trying to fix it as if God needs any assistance from me. I have gotten nowhere as you all know, but the ball is in his court and his alone now.

I also sent with his mail a magazine that I got in the mail called Marriage Partnerships. Has anyone ever heard of it? I don't know how I got it I did not subscribe to it or anything, but I am grateful for it The articles were great in it. I hope he at least reads it with an open mind and heart. I don't know if he'll ever make it back to us, but oh well.

He also left my CS with my grandmother, I was glad about that!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Well ladies I feel the wind just a blowing against the windows, while I sit and watch DVD's all day on our big screen ( thanks to H). I feel like I am at the movies. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> ( HA HA )

Keep me in your prayers that this weather doesn't turn around on us and I'll stay on and chat while I still have power and the kiddis are napping!!

Love Ya,

JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sunny

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And the less time yall send bickering w/ these guys the better off you will be. Less communacation the better, let them see how it is w/o you and their family.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That is why I am doing this no phone calling thing besides him asking for that and why I'm making sure he takes our son overnight by himself to apt.--he had only done that twice since end of Jan until I made him take him one night last weekend.

Very good JT--you guys are well and H is having to think--I posted a brief current situation of mine on SunnyD thread and a little blimp about Sunny's post to us on this thread and you posted your update at the same time.

Praying for you.

Hey Albany,

Everytime I go on SBF I never get anyone. I checked last night to see if anyone was on especially since the storm had not made it's way to me yet. No one was on, so I got off and posted on MB.

How goes it?

JT

Hey, guys.

Sunny is right, less talk is best and I have been violating that one BIG time lately.

Albany, I post at least 4 messages over the last two days to SXF but there is something wrong with my ID or something. Maybe others are having the same problem, which is why there is not much activity. Anyway, I posted a question about it to this site.

Not much up you guys--just NC I guess--I'm not calling. He hasn't which is a bit unusual--disappointing--but peace is great. That time of month so just emotional and I swear every where I look I see newborns and I want another child--a girl--but this isn't the time obviously--anywho just keeping busy.

I will try to get on sisters tonight but I only really use chat on it--don't post there much.

Hey just wanted to say HI and that I was thinking of you.

Hi,

I have been missing you girls. I don't know what happened to my computer at home, but it is on the fritz. I can not get my internet to connect properly so I've been on hiatus! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hey on another note: My H had his first away visit with the kids on yesterday. He got to take them away from my grandmothers house ( all according to court order so its okay) for five hours. Can you imagine him with a two and one year old that long. He has never had them alone without me for more than maybe an hour or so.
He had to be super daddy. You can not imagine the joy of the free time I had. i went shopping ( for the kids of course) out to dinner with a friend from school. It was GREAT!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hell I can't wait until he gets to get them for a weekend at a time!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


But anyway when I picked them up they were so happy they had a blast. He had bought them new toys and shoes. My son wet his underwear/shorts because daddy didn't take him to the potty in time, so daddy had to experience cleaning him up and changing his clothes ( thanks to mommy always keeping a bag packed in his trunk for the kids in case this ever happens)!! Boy did he have fun!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Well after that I picked the kids up and guess who called me an hour later, i answered the phone without looking at the caller ID and it was him - He begged me not to hang up, but to just listen - so I DID!

He told me that he just wanted to say that he was sorry for what he'd done to me and my life. He said that he was not saying it to get me back, but really wanted me to know that he kne what he'd done was wrong and that he was truly sorry. He stated that it was the worst thing he could have ever done by cheating and then having a baby on top of it. He was so apologetic about everything. I told him that I did not believe a word that he was saying and that i was sure he would never be able to do what it would take to keep me and the kids. I would want no contact and him to give up his parental rights and visitaion to OC. he said he was willing to do all that he could to get his family back, but I think he's just blowing smoke!!

What do you think?


JT

Sounding good JT but I think that he needs to prove it and you had better take it one day at a time and take each day slowly and cautiously.

I will say that it excites me and I hope all keeps going well--I so hope my power of prayer has helped you guys.

Everynight I take a moment of time and pray for each of us because I have realized it is in god's hands now and I must put my faith in him to allow my husband to see it all and come home.

BIG HUGS JT

Time will tell JT. Keep him at a distance until he proves to you that he will do those things. Keep praying, you never know.

You girls are so right only time will tell. I am going to keep my distance - I heard what he had to say and I then asked him not to keep calling me. I stated that i wanted time alone witout him to decide the fate of our M. I wanted to live stress free and happy. I did tell him that I could not promise anything that it was in God's hands now I am going to follow his lead.

I don't believe that he has really changed, yet. I just don't think so - I've heard it all before and it never made a difference, plus he is still living over there. he claims he is on the couch because he is angry that it got this far and that they destroyed his marriage.

Oh well that is his burden to bear as giovanna says not mine!

Happy to be me!

JT

Hi JT,

You are doing so much better than me right now. I wonder if he would really give up contact for you. It would be great if he could. I know it is hard where you are. The feelings are mixed. I am sorry I took mine back.

Just wondering how goes it JT2?