Luv, I agree w/ the others I think I would stay quiet. He is thinking and God is working on him. There are going to be stages of "I'm so sorry and then "I hate you, look what you've done. So hang tight. He is finding out he did nothing to reassure you that nothing was going on, just expected you to just live w/ him going over there. Turn those tables and see how fast he flies off the handle! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> He's living at the house right? Good, he needs to get up in the middle of the night and not have you laying there beside him and not having the kids to check in on. He is in this family home going over all the memories, you have new place, new memories. Oh and just think about the mess he has got! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It doesn't smell the same, its not the same! He is really at a place in his life that is really hard and he has to go though all of this to get to where he needs to be so if you work it our, you will NEVER go back there. And that day ole saying "I'm here w/ you that should mean something" Well think about it they came home after making these OC too? SO that doesn't count in my book anymore! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Show me, put me first, now that saids it all. I would be quiet, be calm, dont fuss over minor changes in each other. But you are doing great. Even if he hits the I hate you stage, listen, come here and vent. He is going to have to sort out his own feelings, you cant help him do that. And remember the more God works on him, the more the devil tries to work on him too. We are here for you, keep loving that baby and making yourself stronger.
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