Well hold onto your seats, I am not sure if you will believe this one.

I was emailing a firend and told her that the first three things I need from H were: 1. No more visitation with OC at OW's. 2. For me to meet OC. 3. DNA

H asked me to leave work a little early on Friday and meet him at the house for a surprise. I had no idea what he had up his sleeve. I imagined everything from the best to the worst but never imagined what it actually was.

Anyway, I ring the door bell and he comes to the door and says come on in, I have someone I want you to meet. At that point I saw the car seat on the kitchen table. I immediately got tears in my eyes and started to cry. I went over to OC and said Hi and I got the biggest smile. I asked to pick her up and he of course said yes. She was fine for awhile but then started to fuss, I moved her a little like he suggested so she could see better and she was fine. She started to fuss a little again so he told me to cradle her and she nestled her face into my chest and fell asleep. I held her till she woke and then gave her, her bottle. I really liked it. I actually can't wait to see her again.

H and I spent some family time together on Sunday. He just called me and asked if I would join him and the kids this Sunday for brunch and church.

H actually came over to my place yesterday for pizza with the kids. This is what her wrote to me this morning.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> It’s hard to explain, seeing your new place made me very happy for you and made me worry less that you would be OK. However, seeing how independent you were and how well you have done, also made me realize how fragile everything is and how much I never wanted to take you for granted ever again. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I know they are just words and actions are what is important but I am HOPING that this is the beginning.

I feel like God is answering my prayers.

OMG!!!! I have chills!! I am so happy for you Luv! I know everything is still very tentative right now, but this is major! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Luv - This is such awesome news, and you are right, a little unbelievable. I am so happy for you. It is so nice to see something positive happening for you. God can move mountains - I think he is breaking through those walls around your H's heart. I'm keeping you in my prayers. Be patient and take it one day at a time.

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!

LUV,

I am so happy for u!!! What great news, sounds like God is working on H, u moving was his wake up call hopefully. I never doubted that he didn't love u but for whatever reason it took u taking a stand & moving away to help open H's eyes.

Like Kris said take it one day at a time, keep praying asking God to give u words to say to H, & to tell u when to be quiet. Keep living your life showing him that u can be independent & live w/o him if necessary but also that this does not have to be the end of your M & family, that u can be a good step mom & your lives can go on w/ contact as long as he is united w/ u on everything using POJA.

So great to hear some good news! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

yeah--so happy for you--hope all of our prayers are helping.

One day at a time.

HUGS

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> LUV, You gave me chill bumps. I know you got them. H is listening to what God is telling his heart. Keep up the prayers! I'm glad your weekend so the best. One day at a time, thats all we can all do. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

LUVIE!!!!!!!

I am so nervous and excited for you.. keep your head up.. keep on doing what are doing.. it is working.. God is there with you every step and he is showing you this!

I started to cry when I read your post.. I imagined myself walking up to OC's car seat and I just can't imagine what you felt.....

I don't know what else to say but that YOU are a DOLL.. and H is being reminded of what CAN be.. what a precious gift you are if he will just unwrap his gift and cherish you....

I pray this little girl will melt you and become something that can help H re-connect with you instead of push you further apart. Seeing how loving you were with this little baby, well, I think it just may be the straw that makes H's heart burst....

so glad things are changing-- take this ever so slowly--

HUGE HUG LUV!!!!!!

Oh Luv,

I am so glad for you. Keep your head up girl and the blessings will come down. I am glad that God is touching your H's heart. I hope that he works through what you have set before him and comes to realize even more what a treasure you are and have been for him. I know it will take some time for you and him to get things together, but keep praying - never undersetimate the power of prayer.

Keep living your life and being happy and soon enough he'll know that he should join you 100%!

I am happy for you too! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love Ya,

JT

Hey Ladies, thanks for all the well wishes. I am cautiously happy.

You guys here and two other friends I email with that I met on MB are the ONLY ones who understand. I told my one good friend and all she said was Leopards don't change their spots.

I hope that God stays by our side.

Neither do skunks, they stick always will and so do the people that dont support you ! LOL Plus hes a man and they do change!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

Well Luv, I have learned the hard way to NEVER, EVER SAY NEVER..and that UNTIL I am in a situation that is comperable... which your friend and many of mine have not been in to be able to understand...

YOU JUST NEVER KNOW.

Good Luck! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

LUV & Gio~ I have lost many friends because of this--they will never understand until they are in our shoes--GIO--so right never say never.

LUV~still want you to know that I'm excited for you and know that you will proceed with caution--but your story gives me hope.

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Luv,
I actually got the "chills" reading your update!! Sounds so familiar with my H.
This is what I tell my H when he talks about the time we were separated.
"I have always known you needed me. It just took you awhile to figure I was right!!"
He says it is soooo true.
I am soooo happy for you....yes it's a baby step but a step nonetheless.
Rooting for ya,
ent

Hope all is still going in a favorable direction for you. Babysteps as ent says--thread the waters carefully and see what happens.

Hi Luv,

I read your thread earlier and thought I posted but aparently I did not. I hope it goes well. Be careful though. You need visitation legal before you even think of coming back. I am glad your husband is starting to see you as a strong woman who can walk away from his chaos.