Ditto Lyn,
this is so sad and AWFUL, being betrayed by your H's family. I'd want to run away too!! It has to be something about THEIR dynamics and not you!! They are really screwy and I would worry how much like them your H is.

Another woman who used to come here had in-laws just like yours... totally embraced xow/oc and rejected the wife. I could NOT understand that at all.

I hope your son is well and you experience many blessings... your life's been so unfair.

Hugs,
J

Thanks.

My son is o.k. It was a really bad glandular infection. Now my daughter has it, just a different part of her face. She is on antibiotics now.

I feel pretty much like you said. My kids dont see their grandmother very often now since she is recovering from the transplant.

I just try to take one day at a time.

Tylors...

Again, you are a true soldier for your family.

I cannot believe your MIL actually said not to call her... ugh.. yes, she is a person w/a heart of stone. I hope you h has learned from someone in life other than her.Does she have a history of mental illness or something?? I cannot believe that thru all you have gone through in your life and marriage that she continues to coldly disrespect you. It seems as if the ow poisoned her or something?

I cannot agree with the relationship you have w/OW and how open it is. I fear the worst, but thats me. I have been SHOCKED reading over at the other site about just how many of these SICK women and SICK MM continue their A right under the forgiving and kind wife's nose. I've read of OW who have actually stayed in the home of the MM/W and STILL were sleeping together. The W in these situations never, in a million years, would have believed it. I almost vomited reading some of these disgusting poor excuses for human beings. The A lasted for so many years- how ever can you believe they don't have feelings for one another? Please please protect you and your heart that is so full of past pains. You DESERVE a life now filled with only true love, true friends (not OW- she is NOT your friend you can be that)....

You again, are a hero in your own right. God will remember that.. he will bless you... you are so deserving of it.

I know that my MIL, SIL, and GrandmotherIL hurt me very, very badly also. They did not participate or help him, but they were not there for me when I was bleeding and dying all alone!! They did not call to check on me- they hurt me so bad by just not seeming to care. They were put into a few sticky situations where they had to lie to me cause they were in that rock & hard place due to H's lies. That hurts too of course, but what can they do- have H disown them for "betraying" him and his personal life....??? I used to host all the cook outs, help w/everything, etc.. I was very close to them, so I thought. I do get some satisfaction knowing that they do MISS my presence since I don't come around 1/4 as much as I used to. I even skip family get togethers if I'm busy or dont feel like going - and have no excuse for them. They KNOW I do not feel the same. I have expressed my feelings and they feel terribly guility. They had a real fun, helpful, sweet DIL in me, and they crushed my spirit to some degree. I have forgiven them, sure, but I will just never feel the same.


Anyway.. I know how you feel about H's family - and your MIL is so much worse. I commend you for your ablitiy to still keep it together.... in every way.

hugs lady, you are the tops

Hey TSM, Its nice to see you popping in! I hate that your family went though everything. And you never getting the opporunity to protect you and your children. If its been awhile since you have checked on the CS laws, it might be worth checking into. I know in my area they have changed and I think you may be close to me. Your MIL is a basket case! To say the least, makes me glad I dont really have one. Just a stepMIL? And most his family has supported us 100%. My SIL still has issues, but doesn't everyone. And things make us stronger, so you are one heck of a strong lady!
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