Genia:

Been thinking about you. How did the weekend go? How are you doing?

Genia,

I was wondering the same thing are you doing okay? Need to hear from you girl, you know I begin to worry when one of u s is gone a little too long!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

what's going on at home? Is everything okay? I haven't seen you on the SBF site either - where are you?

Talk to you later,

JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hey,

I talked to Genia yesterday, she is doing fine, has had some problems getting on her computer.

Hopefully she will be on line soon. She misses you all.

Hi inanutshell and JT,

I appreciate your thoughts. My husband is still home with me unfortunately. I feeling frustrated about him spending the night at OW's a couple weeks ago asked him why he didn't just call OW and ask her to move in with him when he gets his own place. He said he would do that. I feel hurt that we are ending but there is nothing I can do to change him. He is trying to get a job and to find a place to live. He says he loves me, but not in love. He kinda shocked me by saying that when he moved in with OW he was gonna still come have SF with me and that he knew I would not turn him down. Said he would use a condom with me. I told him that he was wrong and that he was a sick puppy. I realized that whoever he is with he will cheat on. If I let him have me while he was with OW, I would be stooping to her level because then I would be the OW. I don't think so, I would rather be alone. I talked to my counselor. She said that my husband was not mature in relationships and that he would always turn to another woman when a relationship was not going smoothly. I had already figured out that he was a conflict avoider. So I do not think there is any hope for him. I do not see Plan B as an option.

Good to hear from you.

Why is he still at home? He can look for job and live with OW at her home until they get a place together. Boot his behind out the door today. He's still manipulating you big time. He's a big boy, he can worry about where he's going to spend the night etc. He's using you for a place to flop and someone to whine too. Genia - boot him out. Make a list today, divide the paper in half and list the what's good about this "relationship" on one side and the not good things on the other. You know what the answer will be, more not so good things. I pray for you to have strength to stop this insanity today.

Hi Inanutshell,

I already know I don't want him living with me. That is not the problem. OW lives 3 hours away and he is going to school here so him moving in with her is not an option for him. I am trying to be nice so things can end peacefully. I think he is almost ready to leave and if it don't happen soon then I would have to be more forceful.

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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:52 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>

Genia,

You know my thoughts on the whole thing! Get his sorry [censored] out of your house!! If I was closer I would come and move his shyte myself ( sorry for the explosive talk, but I can not stand him for using you lie this)!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Please forgive me I do not mean to upset you in the process, I am however glad that you are okay and well. I don't want this fool to get you depressed or absorbed with his stupidity. If he can talk about the OW to you like that then he needs to be with her. I'd pack his clothes and sit it outside and pray for RAIN!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

He could no longer live under my roof. Genia, you know that as long as you allow him to live there he will! He will never leave on his own Girl! Oh well enough of my ranting, Love ya and missed ya!


JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

PS - If you need me to pack it up I will - just say the word! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ October 15, 2004, 12:37 PM: Message edited by: JT2 ]</small>

Hi JT,

You got me laughing. I love your posts. I just keep thinking he is gonna move out on his own any minute. I did talk to him and told him I was the man in my house since I pay the bills. I told him if he went and spent another night at OW's house that I would put him out. He replied, If you do that you will lose the friendship of my family. I do love his step-mom but she even said there would be no love lost. However, I do know I would have to cut myself off from her for a while when he does get out. I think if he is not out in a week, I will put him out. I am hoping to get one more thing out of him before he leaves. I want him to cut my grass one last time.