I miscarried the baby last week and had to have a dnc. the ow called prior to the surgery and I told her that H and I would not be picking up the child until after my recovery. She said ok but yesterday she called stating that she was tired of the bull sh*t and that if my H is not going to play an active role in her son's life then he should just sign over his rights. I know she didn't mean it she was just talking. This was just odd to me because we use to have the child a whold lot in our home, but now cs is kicking our butt and cant afford to keep him and pay child care for him as well, so we reverted to keeping him on the weekends. I guess she is not liking this too well and is very angry stating she is not trying to raise the child by herself. She stating it shouldn't have mattered that I had surgery on Friday that my H could have still picked up oc since it is his son. I told her to get a grip that you knew this man was married and what you see is what you get. I told her she has no control over what goes on in my home. She also states that she needs to know that when oc is in our home that H is spending quality time with just him. Go figure. My husband is now starting to suggest him giving up his rights to this other child does anybody know anything about this. I dont know if this is right or wrong, but we dont want to deal with her bitc**n either. We have already bonded with this oc and this situation is complicated. I just somehow wish that this never happened but I know everything happens for a reason. I dont know what makes her think she can make anymore demands besides cs.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your baby; and for having to deal w/xow trash too. She's very uncaring to your situation and asking for things she has no right to ask.

No advice, just a hug and a prayer.
J

I just wanted to say I am sorry for the loss of your baby. Please give yourself time to grieve and heal.

K

I am very sorry for your loss.
I just wanted to share something that happened a couple of weeks ago. My daughter was sick (she's 1 yr old). I told xH not to get OC (3 months old)since ours was sick. xOW said that I didn't want OC at our home and she sent him in. A couple of days later OC got sick and she blamed us anyway.
How would they understand that our lives don't revolve around them <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

NDIY,

I a very sorry to hear of your loss, right now u need to concentrate on your mental, physical & spiritual health. There is always time to deal w/ the STOW.

Hugs & prayers to u & your H.

NDIY,

I am so sorry for your loss. I would just liek to say I know how you feel and exactly what you are going through. My WH and I lost our first child by miscarriage and it is still with me today. I think you should focus on your own mental, physical, and emotional well being more so than anything. Let your H deal with her, really she should not even be a factor during this rime, unfortunately neither should OC!

This will be a trying time for you and it will hit you hard so please take your time and use this time to heal YOU!! Don't do what oyu think is expected of you because during this time NOTHING should be expected of YOU by anyone!

Love yourself and know that GOD loves you and is with you always even through the darkest of times - he is the light onto you path! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Love Ya,

JT

She can cry and whine until the cows come home, there isn't a damm thing she can do about visitation. Your husband has just as much right to that child as she does. If you are paying cs, and are seeing the oc according to legally drawn up agreements, she can kiss your butt.

As for her phone calls and her harrassment. Document, document, document. I would slap her with harrassment charges. This woman wants your money and wants you to have oc all the time. Document the amount of time you have oc and then request a hearing to lower cs.

She will learn fast that while she was granted cs, the law will look out for you too!! She can't take oc away from the father IF THE FATHER WANTS TO SEE OC. What is getting her is she realizes how insignificant she is. YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND are in control. Sure, she gets a check, but she has no say if you see or don't see oc. That is up to you. She is learing that she is living on a slippery slope. You and he can choose 50% time, and then cut into her CS. Or you can drop contact all together and she has absolutely not choice. She can't force either.

You will find that is the years pass, you will have been in the drivers seat all along!!!

Don't let her get you. Use the law to protect you, your privacy and your home. If she is harrassing, call it in. Get in noted, and if/when she keeps it up, time in a cell is what she will face!!

Just wanted to say that I am so very sorry for your loss.

Time will heal and I will say a prayer for you. Sometimes the OW's are so frustrating to deal with. Take time for you and heal from this.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss notdonein yet! Please..take extra care of yourself...


And on another note: That stupid twit...tell her to take a hike. Your husband has rights to have visitation...its none of her bloody business what kind of time "quality" time...he spend with this child. And since you guys opt for contact..why not 50%?

You guys have to get tough... tell her to screw off! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> These stupid twits... continue to amaze me with their bull****! Sheesh! Some nerve.

Anyways... I feel very bad for you... and I will be thinking about you...sending... postivie vibes your way!
Take care
wiz