Let's see, where do I start?
The OW is manic/depressive and NOT on medication. She has a hard time controlling impulses. I personally think that she uses this as a crutch....she can get away with doing certain things, without fear of any consequences. Case in point: Filing false charges against me for "making harassing phone calls to her", which I was innocent of.
If she were pregnant, would she want contact? Most definitely. She would want to constantly intrude into our lives. She would hold this child up as a trophy and constantly taunt my husband with it. That's what she does to her previous victim. He has no contact with either of them, he just pays his monthly CS and sends her money for half of the medical bills. She tends to make the child's illness worse than it is, by taking the child to the doctor for anything. A simple cold turns into pneumonia, for instance. She needs the attention, and the sympathy she gets from the doctor. After all, she's such a wonderful, concerned mother, isn't she?
I have visited her house before I discovered she was having an affair with my husband. It was quite dirty and cluttered. She keeps her children home from school often. It kind of makes me wonder if the children (she has 4, all by different fathers) actually get a chance to learn anything?
Wizard...to answer your question....
We did ask our lawyer if we should take this any further. I wanted to sue her for attempted extortion, and he told me that since she didn't threaten us physically, it wouldn't stand up in court. We really didn't have the money to pay for a long, drawn-out legal battle, so we settled on getting the restraining order and left it at that. So far, it's keeping her at bay, but she's the type of person that doesn't like to be controlled (who is, really?) and eventually she may snap and step over the line. She feels that my husband wronged her, even though she tried to manipulate him into believing that she was pregnant. It's what she does. My husband wasn't the first man she preyed upon, and probably won't be the last. The PI we used discovered that she has used numerous pregnancy scares in the past, with attempted extortion in each case. The only thing that saved us, is that my husband wanted proof that she even was pregnant, which she refused to give. Would you simply hand over money to someone without proof that you owed it? She threatened us constantly for a couple of months until we felt that the R.O. was the only way to put an end to it.
To answer your other question...yes, I went so far as to look at the newspaper for any birth announcements. I never saw any. She would be the type of person to have it published, so she could see my husband squirm. However, we find out new information daily, such as she wasn't just sleeping with my husband during their affair, but with other men too. So, if she ever was pregnant, it could have been another man's child. She was just going after the man who she thought had the money. Why work for a living, when you can separate a man from his money and then dump him? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> She knew my husband was married and would never leave me. She just got angry that she wasted 4 months of her time trying to get money from him, which didn't pan out. I guess that would be a good reason for revenge, huh?
And besides, alot of the women here told me that I was becoming obsessed with finding out what she was up to. I decided to take their advice and stop letting this woman keep me in fear. I may never really know if she was actually pregnant, but all the signs tell me that it was just a scam. Unfortunately, when this situation began, I was so hurt by it, that I couldn't look at it objectively. Now I can finally see it for what it was. It's amazing how a R.O. can bring you peace. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
She'll destroy herself eventually, or run across someone who will take matters into his own hands, rather than using the legal system. At least I can say that I had nothing to do with it.
