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I found myself doing someting today I have not done in a while which is check H cell phone bill. I checked to see when he calls OW. I know he has contact with her because of OC but I dont know what to do, I dont know why i did it and now all it has done was put me in a down mood. DO I even adress this with him, i almost feel like its not worth arguing about. HELP HELP HELP im going crazy and losing it again.
When does it get easier facing the fact that he will have some contact with OW due to OC HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!
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L315,
It doesn't necessarily get easier, u just have to pick your battles. Was it worth it to snoop thru the bill?
I have done this & more, & sometimes regretted it, how r the 2 of u working on your M? Do that now, worry about OW/OC later, none of this is easy but I am finding out since finding this site that taking on the OW/OC issue first instead of concentrating on your M first is NOT the way to go.
I wouldn't confront him about the bill, instead focus on repairing your M, talk to him about what u 2 plan 2 do together to work on the problems u had/have now within the M.
Hope this helps.
Hugs to u sweetie.
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Thank you..
Sometimes I think he thinks if i dont bring it up then he wont. He says he stressed out too, which now I understand he can be. He says he wants us to make it through this together, but I start my counseling we have not really talked about MC neither one of us really wanted that, but do you think my Couselor might have him sit in on sessions since he is the main reason for my depressin.
You are right I think more about OW/OC than i do fixing my marriage in the back of my mind i know he wants me cuz if not we would have been gone. I need to learn how to do that.
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oh i do the some thing since my H.. A 7yrs ago and of course if i see numbers i don't know i'll call them. Don't get me wrong the last years have been great but i still think his cheating on me it is a hard to get over ... i know the trust is there but i can't help myself..
<small>[ October 28, 2004, 04:42 PM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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<small>[ October 28, 2004, 04:41 PM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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