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<small>[ November 15, 2004, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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Good morning DS. Glad to see you come back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm thinking the key word in your post is "MOST" that means NOT ALL are like that. Did you get a chance to read some of the material on this board? If so, what are your feeling on what you read? How has it been going w/ you? How is contact going. I'm really interested in knowing. Nice to see you back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm thinking the key word in your post is "MOST" that means NOT ALL are like that. Did you get a chance to read some of the material on this board? If so, what are your feeling on what you read? How has it been going w/ you? How is contact going. I'm really interested in knowing. Nice to see you back. Sunny D </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes that is what I meant(sorry). "MOST" not all of them but I do know mine is a big mommas boy. Yes i have gotten to read some of the materials and i'm gettin a good understanding on somethings work here TY for asking......I just don't know what alot of these intials mean have the time though.I see this is a place to come and talk out your feelings and try to get some advice the best someone can give you. So far thing are good and some are not my H has been going out town to work here and there. so I don't see him as much but hey bills have to be paid. C is going goos so far the ow wants more money but i told we would try to help has much as we can. but things are a little tuff right now. while I been getting from other site adn doing som post there to. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:48 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>
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Most men/women are in a hurry to feel love to ever notice if it is really love. Most are looking for what THEY want. Instead of stopping and listening to what GOD has planned for them. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> "Stop and listen for I am!" That means his time, not ours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:48 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>
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And I know that I am the only one that can stand up and change MY life. I make it what I make it. No one tells me to stay, and sure and heck not going to let anyone tell me its time to go. Except the one that created me. With him all things are possible! I change me, and if the people around me, miss this great boat, then I tried. If they get on for the long ride, then great it's a party then! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> But I did have to stop and listen, and wait for some to catch the boat! And I'm sure glad and blessed he did ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:48 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>
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Thanks, people here have helped me get there. When I first got here, I blamed ME. ME for beleiving and trusting and wanting my M to work. But I dont anymore. I've dealt w/ my anger, only with the grace of God and the bible, and changed ME! I can now say that I am the best me I have EVER been and for that my H is lucky, and he sees it daily and I show it daily. I'm on this road because he chose it for me, and I am going down it singing NO MATTER WHAT! I thank these women here all the time! Reading and learning and trusting my heart. Thanks again to LynnG - my be strong, be great, be educated - KT for the inspiration to do what was in my heart! Kimmy you taught me to smile no matter what-so I'm telling you ! BBG! You know you are in my heart and my next door neighbor when we get to heaven! Pep and Star for showing me that now its my turn to help! And for some of the OW how are working on making them better - you showed me that not all ow are alike and some do want to do the right thing! Stacia, you give me strenght to know that C can be done if done in the "right frame of mind". All you "newbies, listen to these girls, they do care and thats why they still hang around to pick us up! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D
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Ok what is the point to this post? Was this a new revelation to you? Did you read this 'article' somewhere else & just feel the burning desire to post it? There is DEFINATELY nothing MB about it. And if you truly believe this-----I feel really bad for you. ************ ************ MOST of the men I know, my dear H included, are NOT this way. MOST men I know are absolutely human, mortal, men who aren't afraid to admit thier failures & own up to them, ready to face the consequences of their actions & repent for them. MOST of the men I know are not afraid to be humble. I expect MOST of the men I know to let me down @ some point & @ the same time----get right back up & make amends as well. MOST of the men I know, KNOW that I will let them down (since I have proven myself time & again) as well & they are gracious enough to accept my apologies. Actually any of the male population who fit YOUR description-I wouldn't consider REAL MEN to begin w/. </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by DRAWSTRING: <strong> As long as men keep looking to blame someone or something for their infidelity, women will be lost on how to change their cheating ways. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Women will FOREVER be lost on how to change their cheating ways because women CANNOT change ANYONE. HERE IS THE PROBLEM!!!!! Even if a man does NOT blame anyone----women could still not CHANGE THEM!!!! ********* ********* kt---still wondering what THIS was all about.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:49 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>
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but i'm not saying all men are like this but some are i wasn't trying to defend anyone in any way i think there are alot of good men out there but i am speaking a opinion i am in love with my old man and he is wonderful but you got to admit there are some of us women attrack the bad ones that are like this.. and some marriage don't last but they want a mother not a wife if they wanted awife they wouldn't cheat on them if this defends anyone sorry for posting it i think i'm just going to read for know on because i post some thing it get put down i guess i don't what i am doing <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
<small>[ November 03, 2004, 12:59 AM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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Are you kidding me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> This place used to be so pleasant to come to! What happend???
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M23B,
When r u going to be on Dr. Phil?
Was it helpful to your M?
Praying for u as always!
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M23B, Yeah when are you going to be on or have you been already? i love Dr. Phil and watch almost daily when work permits. I also agree with you I miss the pleasant talks and helpful sessions we use to have on this site. Where did the love go? What is going on? Missing it and wanting it! JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Hi, Neicy! Hope to talk to you soon!
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You are right Drawstring and Baba, about some men. But let me tell you about MINE and many others I know. They are men, yes, and we will not go into the Venus/Mars thing... and how we women are more wonderful creatures (LOL).. BUT I have a husband, 2 sons, 5 brothers and 2 fathers. I know they were not all perfect their entire lives.. I know each of them have or will all hurt deeply a woman or women they loved... But... God made them and they are as flawed as we are. My H loves me passionately although he has been a cheater in the past..a downright "icky" man for some time... we let our problems overcome us. But on a day to day basis during our "normal" lives.. he is so tender and kind and at my side loving me and touching me and running around for me, and cleaning.... and playing w/the kids, and the neighbors kids.. He rubs my back, my feet.. he loves me in a way that I don't think I have ever been able to match just the same. He smiles when we make love and he wants to hold me near him all the time. To the point of being leechy sometimes (lol).. He does love me so much- and I always knew it. He just needed something, possibly this mess, to be one of the final horrible mistakes he made before his life changed for the better. Please afford some of (our) men the right to not just be that "cheater" who will "keep doing this" and who are JERKS, PERIOD.. that is not always true. Afford my man and others the right to move on from their aweful ways of the past. I'll tell you what- I was PURELY rotten and selfish and aweful when I was younger and dating before I was married,and a cheater of a girlfriend.. actually feared for my own lack of guilt, etc.. and wondered what was wrong w/me...... and LOW AND BEHOLD..I changed my life 100% and then some !! And then there's God.. who can change anyone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Please understand that Drawstring or others who are seeiming bitter towards all men.. well.. they may have a darn reason. But, should also follow their own advise and find a loving man to change their opinion and see what could be in store for them. J2-- KT-- whats up? I don't feel like I'll ever have the time to log on to SBF even though I signed up and couldnt figure something out...... I miss talking to you.. I am so freaking SLAMMED at work and trying to POST THEN MINIMIZE constantly prohibits me. How are you?!!!! xoxoxoxox
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i wish i can take my own advice but most of my life i was conditions to do one thing and i live like that and i am in couseling for it to and support groups ... My couseling is twice a week and support once aweek and i also do this post on three different website so i'm trying to live life with my head held up high. my trust is not fully yet but it is getting there
And like i said before this is some thing i read and it reminded me of some men not all men and i thought i could post my feelings on here and try to get some feed back on it because there are a few women like this to
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Sure Drawstring!
My post was pointing out that I BET you've had a lot gone on in your life.. hope you will find either your H or someone who will be the opposite of what you listed in your post.
I just posted the other possibilities.
You'll be okay Drawstring- you are taking ACTION in your life to make it better... baby steps still get you there. Keep your head up and try to think positive! It is hard at times, but it works.
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Im sorry if i seem like i have an attitude but i painting my kicthen and reading
Old man do back tomarrow or friday. we're trying to finish the kitchen before he goes out again so i feel i'm tore in two i don't why i do this to myself trying to make him happy i guess hes trying to see if i can take care of thing well he's away working i know i can but he feels like he has to be here all the time and i know if we spend 24/7 all the time we get on each nerves
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