Hey girlz.... I am far too busy shooting my mouth off at the other site the last couple days.. LOL and never have time to post and email since its trial season. eeeeeeeek I have to actually WORK !! I wanted to know what all of you are up to? KT-STILL no word from OW re OC?
JT- how are you and your two little partners?
(the babies)... still being a soldier... ??? How is your situation- having any fun on daddy visit days yet?
LUV- where are you!! PHONE HOME lady! Miss you and hope all is well?????

<small>[ November 04, 2004, 02:10 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

[QUOTE]Originally posted by ktbunch:
[QB] right there w/ ya' on the 'other thread'
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Edit your post-JT might get confused.(you wrote Kt twice--lol)
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NO! No word EVER, @ all, nada, nothing, zilch.

Ow is a stubborn one. I suspect that she is purposefully doing this to hurt my little ones as well. I hate to think that but......why else would there be NO word from OC @ all?

I KNOW how OW thinks & is. I can predict her behavior & rationale for it pretty well so-I figure what is going on.

WE told OW NOT to C us--so she is also using NC w/ OC against us to hurt our kids as well becuase our kids keep asking OC to write to them.

Yes, we chose NC (in person) w/ OC BUT we made it clear ANY & ALL communication w/ OC would be accepted just NOT anything from OW.

But whatever-I can not change her, control her or anything else. We keep writng to OC & sending letters & it's on OW what happens to those letters. WE do our part.

Personally, I am praying that a MIRACLE occurs & the Lord changes OW heart so that OC can be a regular part of our lives again. It IS very sad.

It's reality. But I think Ow is happy in her own world/life becuase THIS IS what she always wanted. SHe wanted H relationsip w/ OC to include HER or nothing. She did NOT want to 'co-parent'. It was all about control.
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But besides THAT----things are well. The weather is great. Election came out great! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I am loving my life. Living it well & things are looking brighter. I have realized plenty enough about myself & keep learning about H & we make it work.

We understand each other & every day I am amazed @ how perfect we are for each other & how well we compliment each other.

Even if we get upset @ each other-we both know exactly what it takes to comfort/calm down the other one. WE always end up laughing @ each other, ourselves & our lives.

Oldest son is doing so well emotionally now too. NO more insomnia, & other crazy symptoms caused by the stress of all OW madness.

I can't complain. I feel bad for Oc but.....NOTHING I can do about it. So glad I did not make this mess.

And hopefully, my dream of MOVING away (& maybe then we can finally put ALL this madness behind us, once & for all) is still alive & I am still hoping & praying for it to happen. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

ooo
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kt

<small>[ November 04, 2004, 01:49 PM: Message edited by: ktbunch ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Even if we get upset @ each other-we both know exactly what it takes to comfort/calm down the other one. WE always end up laughing @ each other, ourselves & our lives </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh lady you are SO right.... sometimes do you think that you went thru all this FOR you marriage to last? I know I do.... God works in truly mysterious ways?? I mean we used to have NO CLUE how to handle raging emotions, etc.. as we are both very passionate and kind of high maintenance people in relationships.. we were floundering. NOW-- we absolutely KNOW what JUST AINT CUTTING it... I know how NOT to withdraw from him emotionally EVEN when I am mad as heck at him. I have learned how damaging certain words and actions are and so has he...

We really used this terrible tragedy in our marriage to learn how NOT to let the M fall under again.

KT its so amazing that we actually CAN laugh at ourselves now-- cause we know how crazy we both got to be.

I'm so glad things are good. With me too... I have finally entered life again. I socailize w/friends and family again.. I paint.. I do "normal" stuff that I never thought I'd have an interest in again. Life IS good.

I am suprised that OC's mother has not come around. I wonder if OC talks about you- I bet she does. It would kill me to keep my child from someone he or she loves. I don't understand it, never will.

Hugs honeybun...

Have you heard from J2 and Luv lately at all?

The other board has me fascinated once again LOL- I had not been there for a long time till recently.

Sorry so late I have been on the Divorcing site. It has been the same old thing in my life which is why I do not post much. H is still calling and swearing that he can be the faithful H that I need and want. He is still blaming this on me and swaers that this is his only mistake! Do you hear me - IS HE A FOOL OR WHAT?

I am so tired of this back and forth rollercoaster ride my heart is on until it is unbelieveable. I wish I could believe him and even still hope for it, but I am not stopping my DIVORCE. I have also come to realize that he can't change because he doesn't see anything wrong with what he does. He admits to the OW/OC being a mistake or his fault, but nothing else, and he still says that I forced him out there.

The BABIES = are doing great! They enjoy time with their daddy. They love him so until that still breaks my heart. The good thing is that he is spending time with them instead of working so they have benefitted from that. (so has he) He will continue to try and be in control of me and my life. He still continues to call and ask me about my whereabouts. If I say I'm busy then his reply is who are you with and where are you? Are you cheating on me? Can you believe that question? How does he feel he has the right to ask me anything. When I ask him that his response is "You are My Wife" I have a right to know - I then remind him that he lives with his WOMAN so why would he concern himself with my where abouts.

You tell me how do I keep my sanity? I am not sure, but you would be glad to know that the SOLDIER STILL EXISTS!!! I am stronger than ever and clearly know what I have to do for my family. I must move on I can not help him or get him to see the light. GOD can only do that. So I pray for him and I move On!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />


Hey! how's everything been going with you? Sorry for the vent but I needed to get it off my chest today.

Love ya gotta go now so I'll talk to you later.

JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

That is the best thing I've heard all day!

It made me feel good just reading it.

Divorce is not my hope for you two and your family, J2, but what a long way you've come in dealing with this emotionally, etc etc.

Your little ones are so lucky to have a such a great WOMAN as their mother, FER-REAL LADY.

You will not be SANE for a while.. BUT you are not still clinically insane, right??? You ARE GETTING closer.. and closer.. and closer! woo hoo.

G123,

Thanks for your vote of confindence. by the way my H is still calling and pleading his case? I have a question for you - When your H saw you moving on and he knew that he wanted you back, did he not do whatever it took/takes to make you feel secure about your marriage? Does he not continue to show you that he has NC with OW/OC? My H claims that he wants nothing to do with them and wants to return home, but he has not done one single thing to make that happen. Not one of my requests have been met regarding OW/OC.

He has not even done what he volunteered to do. This is why I know that I am doing what is best for me. Plus he only comes up with something to do when he feels like I am drifting further and further away from him or further from his control. That's what it is all about CONTROL! well I now have control of my life and I am starting to thank GOD for this experience because it has taught me to never SETTLE FOR ANYTHING LESS THAN I DESERVE OR EXPECT!!

Thanks for your support,

JT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />