</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by baba2:
<strong> OH, DING!

The OTHER WOMAN board moderator is saying my post is terrible because she is or was an OTHER WOMAN! I see. Now. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I was NOT the first person to say something about your post. To CHEER because someone had a miscarriage and then call it SPAWN is just hateful. And I'm saying this as a WOMAN and a MOTHER - not as a mod of another board.

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<small>[ November 28, 2004, 05:39 AM: Message edited by: baba2 ]</small>

mariposa,
Blessings on recovery with your H. Prayers for your healing with cancer.

You are soooo right that it may well be easier in the fact that oc/ow will be one less thing to deter your working on stabilizing your marriage.

Get some counseling together to see what problems you can amend now to help prevent future problems. You two can now focus only on you two and your little girl.

Oh! By the way baba, I completely understood what you meant in your post. When someone is new to this horror, we sometimes say things we can not believe came from our mouths.

I did.
My H did.
Now that the 4 yr mark is here, I regret things I said. It was only my pain and fear that were talking.

To all reading, as hard as it may be for you to hear the "hoorah" it is something many bs/ws wish for at first.

Then, if recovery is good, you lose the thoughts and replace them with other things that are not as harsh.

It is a way to show anger. We all have done/said things in anger that we wish we could take back.

This wound is long to heal. Lots of hard work. It is worth it if you choose marriage. Your marriage.

So mariposa, best wishes.

love
Debi

Mari I am happy for you. If everything goes well with your health then all will be good, Hope your husband learns from this fiasco.

baba2 I get were your coming from and I know the big relief you think that mari felt, per her other post.

We all feel what we feel good or bad in the heat of the moment/circumstances. Most people understand that. I do.

Hugs to you Mari and I am very happy for you, hope that you wont have too much more to deal with in this rough time.

Mariposa: I'm sorry to hear about your cancer. I'm praying and thinking of your healing. I'm glad to hear that the cure rate is very high. I know that is a relief but I'm sure your scared sh*tless. I would be. Just know you have a lot of support here and prayers going your way. Please keep us posted.

Mari, Keep up good thoughts and you will be fine!! Our thoughts are with you.

Baba, I totally understand what you were saying. This woman can now focus on her health and not have to waste precious energy fighting with an ow. I don' t understand what all the fuss was about.

Be honest, if your ow miscarried, would you have really felt bad? AT THAT TIME?

So I will say that I am glad for Mari that the pregnancy failed. It is one less stressor on her already full plate.

You're right Baba2, she deserves NONE of what has been thrust upon her. I for one am VERY glad she doesn't have to deal with a PG OW during such a difficult time. Cancer is not something to be taken lightly. Added stress is not a good thing.

My pregnancy is going great. Baby is kicking A LOT, he's a strong one. This is the first boy in my family in a long long time, so everyone is very excited. Oh, and I am well into my 3rd trimester.

Thank you for asking.


PS - I am not having an OC, he belongs to my H. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> (Just in case anyone was wondering.)

<small>[ November 05, 2004, 10:45 AM: Message edited by: findingmywayback ]</small>

Congrats Finding! Be prepared for lots of spoiling from all the relatives <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Glad to hear your pregnancy is going so well.

Well, I have a SIL that lives across the country that is due on almost the same day as me and she is having a boy also. She is my H's brothers wife. MY family is all girls, so my dad is very happy.

Another one of my SIL's just couldn't let us be getting all the attention so she's pregnant now. She's been trying to get pregnant, she would let us know every time we saw her she MIGHT be pregnant. She's 3 months along and going on and on about how this one HAS to be a boy because of the way she's feeling. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> She currently has D that is only 2 yrs old.

She seems to try to compete and it annoys the crap out of me!!

Yeah well I thought for sure I was having a boy cause my pregnancy was so different too.......only threw up once or twice a day instead of all day............and low and behold I was having another girl <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . A boy would have been nice seeing I have two girls, but under the circumstances I was so relieved when I found out I was having a girl...........plus no offensive but girls are so much fun to dress and do there hair and all. The twins had said from the beginning that they wanted a sister not a brother and they would make the boy cry if we had a one boy. They were thrilled it was another girl. boys are so cuddlily though, and less darma <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />