<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Just out of curiousity.....when a "milestone" occurs with OC do you tell OW? And how do you communicate it?

Such as turning over....crawling....walking....

Thanks,
ent

<small>[ November 08, 2004, 11:33 AM: Message edited by: entwifejmr ]</small>

I would tell her. When comes to p/u A I tell her, just like I would do any other child I was caring for. And I give her copies of pix we take at our home, of just him though. I would want her to do the same thing for me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I dont mind being an exception to the rule. God makes me stong, loving and caring and most of all able to overcome the anger. As far as the communications of the subject it is just as general conversation. If there are really big milestones I would hope you took pix so you could share this!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D

You should be sharing a log to have written communication in-especially for the newborns, that's where that kind of info would go.

I would write it in there.
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Since our OC was older, there weren't many milestone events happening but I would communicate mood, changes in appetites, specific problems or traits we were working on.

For example, OC used to enter rooms when the door was closed, w/o knocking. So I made OW aware of that fact so OW could work on training & reminding OC @ home w/ OW as well.

OW just got defensive over that stating that OC NEVER does that @ home & w/ her family. I didn't care, I was just being courteous to let OW know what we were working on, wasn't trying to accuse anyone of anything but it was more of a bigger deal in our home because we have boys & a daddy not just girls. lol

WRITE down EVERYTHING----accidents & mistakes happen so it's best if EVERYTHING is written down & that way-if there is ever any confusion....the care-giver @ that time can double check what is written in the log. Even to last feeding & diaper change. kwim?

In the beginning I wasn't allowed to speak to OW. I tried to get H to pass on the information about milestones and cute things Lil Bit did, but he really isn't good at communication.

In the past couple of years, I have been the contact point for OW. I have been the one to open the lines of communication by being open with OW about all the little things that Lil Bit is doing, things she has said, new achievements... etc.
OW has told me a few things that Lil Bit has done over there, but not much. Most of the time she only mirrors the things I have told her and embelishes them... with things that are totally out of character for Lil Bit.

Its a 2-way street... I try to keep it open.. but keep running into OW roadblocks.

Stacia

Thanks...

I will send her pics....I am just afraid she will think I am "rubbing" it in her face. H can send them but we will probably get the same response. Who knows? Maybe she will be happy.

Thanks again ladies,
ent

ent, I know as a mother even with my "babysitter" if my baby does something new it's not so much hurtful, or jealous, but kindof like man I wish I would have been there to see that......I'm her mother.....but life is life and it's the way it is. I'd much rather know what she has done than not know. Even now the twins are 6 and one lost her 2nd tooth with her dad and I was kindof sad that it was not with me even though she lost her 1st with me. But you know what...........it's life. We are all in this toghether. Even under the best circumstances we can not be around our kids 24/7 and they are going to do things not around us mom's. I feel really guilty because I DO have to work now and I stayed at home (worked strickly from home) with the twins until they were 2.5 years old. I was there to see most of there milestones and it was so cool. But it's different this time and even though I'm still able to work from home some of the week, I can't be here alot. I'm lucky that I have a good babysitter and she calls me with new things and takes pictures of the baby all day long with her camera. At least your willing to talk to her and tell her. It's normal to feel somewhat sad.....afterall that is her child, but again it's life. Hopefully she'll take good to your intentions and all.