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Ow wants to sign her rights over to me and h ?? what should i do? i have no clue if i can handle this??or why she is doing this? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
<small>[ November 19, 2004, 01:04 AM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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I think you need to look deep down inside yourself. Remember it is not the childs fault. Don't feel bad if you can't, not everyone can. But that would be the best situation, she would be out of the picture.
I know if H Xow would have signed off on her rights, I would have taken that boy in in a heartbeat. But she would never do that.
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Thank You! But don't get me wrong i love the oc and i would love to take care of the oc. But the h has a problem... he doesn't know why she is doing this all of sudden. He thinks she wants money or something. He just don't trust her. I don't know how other people handle this kind of thing. If she love her child why would she just give the child up... I know if I was the ow..I wouldn't give my child up.... I just couldn't do that... It's against all of my beleives.
But we will find out why on Monday. Xow wants to meet us to discuss the situation.
<small>[ November 19, 2004, 08:37 PM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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She can't demand money for the child- that is illegal so your husband doesn't have to worry about that aspect.
How old is the child?
It sounds strange.
I would have an attorney present for the meeting.
When I was pregnant, I had a friend tell me that I should tell MM & W that I'll give them the baby to raise, fully intending to keep the child- but just to put the knife in and twist it.
No, I didn't and would never do that to anyone.
BUT apparently there are women out there who think up crap like that so I would get an attorney involved and don't trust this until it's gone through the legal system.
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Draw, this is bizare. I'd have to be on my death bed and dieing unable to care for them before giving up my children. It is illeagal to sell your kids..........so I would at least talk to your attorney about this even if he's not present there and make no decisions without having your attorney draw up and be present for final talks/documents etc. I hope that it's a true thing with good reasons and not a game being played.
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Sorry Haven't been on for awhile. but i was trying to get the legal stuff out of the way. I and h have decided to take the oc in. We are going to adopt her While i am. And thing is the ow didn't want anything at all. she said the reason she wanted to do this is because she couldn't handle her anymore, She was having money problems and she wanted a good life for her daughter so she figured we can do that for her(give her a better life)so as of the 1st of the years it will be al legal. she will be adopted into our family for good and her mom will see her on the holidays. i guess thats the way she wants to do it.
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Congratulations!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
I'm sooo Happy for you!!
God has certainlly blessed you in this situation.
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
Congratulations Drawstring!!
On a side note, OW maybe have an illness also which she doesn't want to disclose.
Once again.....congratulations on your addition to your family.
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Lucky child!
If you are adopting the child, the OW would have no claim to child, why the holiday visitation?
If a OW had a child, and her husband adopted the child, it would null child support and visitation. I am wondering why this is going this way?
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It seems like the OW is willing to do an open adoption in which visitations can still be negotiated for the parent who is giving up their parental rights.
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Well I hope and pray that this all goes well for you and your family! What a lucky child to have a mother realize that the father and his wife can give her/him a better life.
Best of luck to you and your family!
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While i just found out last night that the ow has cancer and its not treatable. She was giving less then a year to live <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Thats why she doing the adoption. Before i found out i was the one to decide on holidays visits. Because she really did not want to give her up. i got the nerve to call her and ask why she was doing it for. then she told about her cancer <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
PS thank you for your support in this short of time i been here
<small>[ November 30, 2004, 09:41 AM: Message edited by: DRAWSTRING ]</small>
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Wow, that's soo sad <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> .
really don't know what to say.
thinking.....
Maybe she could make the baby a video about her and why she is giving her up, and you could show it when the child is old enough, sorta like a video journal, and maybe she could record something for the milestones of the childs life, birthdays,graduation, wedding etc.
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<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
Heartbreaking story... I don't even know what to say.
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DS, That is such a sad story. I like Angels suggestion, that way OC will always have a bit of mommy to remember. Reminds of the movie StepMom. I cry each time I watch the Christmas morning when Susan Sarrandon gives the kids their last xmas gift from her. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
What a lovely gift you are giving OW knowing that OC will be loved and cared for for life.
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How awful, how young is this woman?
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