When one is ordered to take a paternity test, how is it served? Registered mail, a process server, etc?

The reason why I'm asking this is because the OW kept trying to convince us that she was pregnant, yet didn't offer any proof. We've more or less put her out of our minds, but my husband thinks that she's going to try to surprise us with some sort of official looking papers in order to scare him.

Normally, he doesn't let her past threats bother him, but this morning I could tell that something was worrying him. He remembered that last year, about this time, she tried to convince him that her own husband was sent paternity papers in the mail. She never showed my husband the papers, of course. It was a big lie, we think, in order to set the stage for what she may be planning on doing to my husband. We never really found out if she had actually gotten pregnant, but all the evidence leads us to believe that this was an extortion scheme.

Personally, I couldn't care less about what she's planning. I finally convinced myself that she can't hurt me anymore and to let God handle it. She hasn't tried to get a response from us since early this month, but her last comment (Yahoo profile) was "Surprises are coming...if they only knew". I think she said that so that we're constantly looking over our shoulders in fear. I refuse to give her the satisfaction.

Any info you can give us will definitely help, so my husband is prepared. Thanks!!

My H filed for the paternity test, not xow, the date for the test came in the mail. I hope this helps.

I don't know about your state, but in TX the daddy can go to the AG and request a DNA test - free (only if DNA linkage is established would you have to pay).

Wouldn't you like to be a fly on the wall if she recieved papers to prove DNA linkage to a child she claims exists, but doesn't.

Call your AG. It's free, then you'd know your rights, too.

Might actually scare her off - specially since you'd be organized and therefore more secure in your position (tho it sounds like you guys are getting more and more secure).

- Kimmy

Kimmy....not to sound ignorant, but what does AG stand for? Attorney General?


Hmmm, you've given me an idea. I've been on defense for so long that I forgot about the offensive side to this.

So, she claims to have given birth in August, 2 months premature and the baby miraculously is now in Texas, adopted by somebody she never named.

Who would end up with the egg on their face...us for going to court (for peace of mind) with this ridiculous story, or her for failing to produce this so-called baby for the DNA test? I still have all the emails with her stating that she's pregnant, yada yada yada.

I'm not too worried about this, but I'll admit, it would be nice to get revenge, of sorts. She always seems to get away with her schemes and for once I'd like the legal system to see what kind of person she really is.

It's been quiet and peaceful for awhile now and I'm a bit afraid of stirring the pot again. I'll definitely be doing that when we renew the restraining order though. Too bad. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ November 29, 2004, 01:16 PM: Message edited by: Arabesque ]</small>

Go after her. Get a DNA test. She can't give up a child for adoption without notifing the father, and since you have PROOF she thought it was your husbands, call her on it.

If the child does NOT exist, harrassment charges can be filed against her!

If there was a child and your husband is NOT the father, she can be forced to pay for all legal fees.

If the child IS his, and she harrassed you, then gave up said child for adoption, you can sign off on the adoption, BUT you can run her through the legal mill too.

This woman is dangerous and needs to be dealt with legally. Get this on her permanent record so when she tries to play games with another, there will be some background info established against her.

I do not believe she even had a child. She is a game player. Slap her back with reality. Maybe some time behind bars around the holidays would do her some good.

Thanks for the advice, Lynn. However, we're going to wait to see if she crosses that line. She had sent a letter to her previous victim, trying to convince him that my husband and her were still seeing each other, and that I am in denial. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

(sarcasm) So, my husband is still talking to her, even after we spent close to $3000 on legal fees to get a restraining order and to defend me against her false accusations? Nothing says I love you better than a restraining order. I should have asked the process server to enclose it in a Hallmark card.

She can't get through our defenses, so she turned her attempts at manipulation back on the man she hurt before my husband got snagged by her.

In this letter, she actually quoted some of my husband's comments from this very forum. I guess she has nothing better to do than twist his words to make herself appear as the victim.

I hope she reads this.