We have an appointment to take some pictures on Saturday. I was wondering if they should include the oc or would I be wrong if I did not. We have never taken any family pictures together at a professional studio. I feel we have made the child part of our family but I also feel that me and my children have a right to pictures with just us. Im sort of confused because I try to include oc into most of our life but I think maybe we should get pictures done at two different settings. Anybody have any ideas?

NDIY,

Hi I think it is good of you to try to include OC, but that does not mean that you have to include them in every aspect of your life. Besides if you and your family have never taken any professionally I think it is a time to share that bonding and lasting memory with the core family. There will be plenty of time to incorporate OC into family settings at later dates. Remember that the core family still comes first. Will OW have your kids (OC's siblings) in her family portraits. Not to be harsh, but you will have some things that OC will no tbe a part of as they are not part of the core family.

The children are resilient they'll get use to it, because when they go and visit their grandparents will they all go? They do not all have the same family core or grandparents, so there will be some times some are excluded. So don't feel bad if you want to experience things with the core family alone it is only natural. It's natural because that is the way nature and God really intended it to be, but we know that we have been thrown curves along the way.

JT

I agree with JT. Since you've never had this done as a core family, it's reasonable to just be you guys this time.

We just did this last week! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Not our first time, but first time w/OC. We went to a cheap-y studio that gives a cheap deal on the first pose, then 5-6 more poses that will cost much extra if chosen. One of the poses could have been without OC, but I felt at 6yo she would be offended if we did that WHILE she was present. I do not think it's offensive when she's not with us, or if she were too young to care, or old enough to not mind. We wanted to do it w/her at this time.

We took some shots in the same clothes at home with just a disposable camera (with and without OC), and sometimes those turn out good too.

Best wishes,
J