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affair ends with child
#837957 12/03/04 10:56 PM
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Hi i posted in the other area. please help i don't know what to do with myself. i have a 4 year old and its hard to take care of her. i have started counseling but not helping yet. My H is in Iraq and pleads not to leave him. the paternity test cannot be performed until he returns. i want to start healing but i know when he gets back it will open up those wounds. I know he loves me and my daughter but i don't know if i can handle all this. please help me
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downandout,

Glad to see you made it over here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Please take the time to read everything you can on this website. There is sooo much VERY useful information that really CAN help you save your marriage.

Read the Welcome to the Pregnancy/Child Forum link. It will kind of help you understand a few of the basic thoughts and ideas from this forum. Realize that while the main problems (infidelity and an OC) are the same in each situation, the people involved and circumstances are not the same. Use what info applies to you.

How long before you H comes home? Do you have alot of contact with him now? Is it mainly by email or by phone? Where is the OW and the OC? Is he still in contact with her?

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H is in Iraq until March. he has tried to come home on emergency leave but can't unless it was life threatening. i believe this is life threatening. anyway, we have contact by email and he calls a couple of times a day. most of the phone calls are him saying i am so sorry and doesn't know waht is wrong with him. he says he has started seeing someone to talk to and that he will fight for me and his family. i just cry and cry on the phone, i want him to know the kind of pain i am in. at the same time i feel miserable. there has been a couple of times that i have said lets pretend for a few minutes that this isn't happening so we could just talk. Because all i want to my life back. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
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O the OW is in the same city as i am and is from here. this A started soon after he left. his unit got mobilized to another city for 3 months then they left to iraq and this happen during those 3 months. she is in the military as well but because she got pregnant, she wasn't sent to Iraq. she got sent back to home.

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