Why are you chasing mom from board to board?

I am not chasing anyone...I have been on GQII and this board BEFORE m23b was even a member of the site. Why would you presume that there is any chasing?

Why do you feel it your personal mission to give hostile feedback and in effect make ALL marriage builder boards unsafe?

MY feedback is hostile??? That's a riot.

You need to rethink the word ALL . There are ALOT of boards that I read and that I have not posted on. What makes them ALL unsafe?

I've got a thick enough skin, but someone very much like you chased me from the EN board a year ago, and thank heaven they didn't pursue me on the other boards like you have Mom.

I am sorry that you felt chased away from EN. I do remember that you stopped posting there, I just assumed that it had something to do with your H posting there. I remember that he mentioned it...but without a reason. Again, I am sorry that you felt that you had to leave.

You appear to be devoid of compassion and determined to drum something into Mom while she is hurting and grieving the loss of her father, as well as enduring a husband's childish addicted behavior.

By drumming...do you mean asking a question? I do not see asking a question as "drumming"? I certainly don't.

But your post here goes beyond NASTY.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Please grow some sensitivity, tact and timing. And go back to GQ.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Is this what you would call NASTY?

You are asking me to do the very same thing that I am asking her to do...what makes it different?

You can ask me...but I cannot ask her??

What is YOUR purpose for chasing me over here?

See where this is going...it could on forever.

I guess I should remember that not all people are EQUAL on this site and deserving of COMMON COURTESIES. People that wear a scarlet letter on their chest are lower than plant life...and should be spit upon in passing. I guess they aren't worthy of COMMON COURTESIES....my mistake. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Shame on me....

AND...shame on me for thinking that YOU...yes YOU Kayla, were different from the others that might be joining the "stone the adultress" mob.

I sure had you pegged wrong.

I will try and not make that mistake again with anyone on this forum.

This board has a tendency to attract some of the cruelest of OW and Pink appears to have that same bent.

There was NOTHING that Paige said that couldn't be used as helpful. It became UNHELPFUL because she is wearing that big red A on her chest. Had that knowledge not been there...it would have made a difference. That is sad.

committed

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by momto3boys:
<strong> Are you kidding me? Why are you chasing me around as KaylaAndy has said! My goodness gracious committed. I am not the ONLY poster who has said something to PP on these threads...You just so happen to see the ONE post from ME and jump on it...Did you not see anyone else's posts to her, or to the other OW's on this board...I have stayed away from MB for almost a month now, I feel secure enough to start posting here just a few days ago, and now you come looking for me...Geez. I dont know what else to say. *SIGH* Yes, I was blunt and I was rude to PP, but when someone flaunts their status as an OW, I dont particularly find that helpful. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">mto3boys.

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<small>[ December 12, 2004, 12:47 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

Committed,

I came here to this board as a child of an adultress, most likely an OC!

I take you to task because you are consistently "beating the drum" against Mom and if you can't see it, maybe there's some fog you need to clear away.

Kayla is NOT different, in that she will not hesitate to call an OW on inappropriate behavior here that mocks the pain of women betrayed in this incomprehensible way.

Committed - what is your relationship to an extramarital child? Are you married to someone who had a child with another woman while you were married to him? I don't see you exposing your own story much on the boards, so there's no way of knowing what your situation is, how recent your pain is, or if you really can relate with empathy to what people are going through.

I ask, because I had to really scratch my head when I saw you posting here too, because you'd pursued Mom from post to post on GQ, jumping her case EVERY time, EVERY post, for every slight inconsistency she might display, while other women with similar situations don't seem to get your dander up. This pursuit seems more personal than most of your posts.

And I was being blunt and forthright when I mentioned you could use sensitivity, and a greater sense of timing and tact, because you have some good things to say, but lack the appropriate measure of these three qualities to really be heard.

A wise man (my father-in-law) frequently told me "People don't care how much you know, until they know how much you care."

You have a lot to share - you've been here 15 months less than me, and have posted almost as much, but you will never get through to Mom until you understand the message in my father-in-law's words.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by The Pink Paige:
<strong> W (was OW)
PA began 11/23/00
MM left W 1/7/01
D final 12/30/01
we married 5/31/03
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">NUFF said! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by committedandlovingit:
[qb] ****EDITED by JustUss****]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry, seemed like a YEAR to me since I have been on here...I know an exaggeration on my part...but I am so sorry, committed, I've really been leading a hard life lately...And what is it that you would like me to clarify...anything you think I am exaggerating about? Ask away, i will be GLAD to set the record straight or have my WH set it straight or even my mom, friends, etc...Go ahead, ask away! You think I am exaggerating, ask me!

<small>[ December 12, 2004, 12:49 AM: Message edited by: Justuss ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by committedandlovingit:
<strong>People that wear a scarlet letter on their chest are lower than plant life...and should be spit upon in passing. I guess they aren't worthy of COMMON COURTESIES....my mistake. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If people who wear a scarlet letter are remorseful, and have learned a lesson from their error, of course they are entitled to courtesy.

If they are proud of that scarlet "A" and flaunt it like a merit badge, you bet your life they are low and deserve to be spit upon! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I truly cannot understand why an unremorseful OW would even come to this site. Or why they would put their info concerning A, MM's divorce, and their subsequent marriage to MM onto their posts. It's just plain hurtful, and inconsiderate to the people this site is meant for...BS and WS who are trying to rebuild their marriages!

OW who are not sorry for what they have done, should return to the garbage dump from which they came. Stay with your own kind...you don't fit in here. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by The Pink Paige:
<strong>In my situation- no children, no other children no broken family.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm not going to jump all over your PP, cuz I think you meant well in posting and your words have been said by many here on MB, in this forum and others, and they ring with truth.

But you still think like an OW and the quote above is my example.

Your husband and his ex-wife were a family. There are people who are married many years who cannot or choose not to have children... are they not a "family"? Of course they are. My husband and I became a family of two on the day we wed.

By any definition, you and your now husband together destroyed his former family. I hope and pray that this is one of those rare cases where everyone has learned their lessons and some other OM or OW does not come along to break up your new family. I am afraid you are still justifying that you did something right in establishing NC with a MM, when in fact it was all wrong, no matter how it ended up.

~ Snow