Well you can get a restraining order against the sister and I would if I were you.

I have to say one thing, I get the feeling that the OW aborted rather than had a miscarriage. Something just seems odd. Or is it possible she lied about the miscarriage, to throw off her husband just in case he can use it against her in court, depends on which state they are in.

If your husband is at the point were he is believing her over you then you have some problems. I have been there, its not nice and extrememly frustrating. Makes you feel sick to think that he would trust a stranger over his better half, someone he should know and trust with life his wife.

IN my situation currently : I am just oh SO happy to point out all her lies that she claimed i said or did to him now and he can only say I KNOW she is a nutcase and he is sorry.

Hopefully you will get there sooner than later, If will come she will show her true colors. Its more than obvious she is a liar, she lies to everone even her own beloved husband.

Good luck, and if you can get her hubby to prosecute the ow for tampering with the mail, that would be nice. See why I suggested registered/ certified letter.

Brandy, kudos to you for the letter you sent. Have you received a response from OS? Not sure if you've read up on my story under Any Advice?? but the OS and myself have had many conversations regarding the A that our spouses were having. Just want to let you know that we've all been where you are. I put up with my H's A for over a year and what finally got his attention was that i made him leave and told him i was going to see an atty, and had made the appt. He realized at that point that I was serious. You need to show your H that you are strong, and that you WILL NOT continue to live your life that way. Don't let the "i love you" that you heard on the phone get to you. I know it sucks, I've been there, I've heard it. It's all fantasy land to them. It's not reality. He'll eventually realize that. It may take awhile, but he'll eventually see it. I feel for you, girl, because I was there not so long ago. You just stay strong. You are better than that. Do you know where OW lives? You could always pack up H's s**t and drop it off on her front porch. I came close to doing that many times and now regret that I didnt' at least do it once!! But I did pack up my H's stuff at one point and left it in our front yard for him to pick up! And oh darn, it just happened to rain that day.

Well the last few day have been very quite around here. I am finally back to a normal work week. I had STD tests done on Tues. I got a new cell phone (that OW doesn't have the number to) and H and I have been getting a long. I have promised myself not to get upset (while he is around at least) about the stuff that's going on.
I have been talking to OS quite a bit. He wanted to know if my H was home monday night because he saw his W at walmart with another man. H was home with me all night, for that matter he was home all day (he was iced in). Maybe she has a nother man already. OW and her H have court Friday for cusyody of their daughter. He wants full custody. I hope he gets it. She does not seem fit to rais a child! She and her family had a run in with the cops Saturday.

I also believe that she was never PG. I think she knew what would get H hooked and she used it. It was all to convient for her. I know that they are still seeing each other and calling, but she is not calling the house thank god!

Right now I am just preparing myself for when he moves out, if he does at all. I am not kicking him out. The decision is his, but I told him I will not live like this much longer. We has a really good time monday joking with each other and for a little while we were both able to relax. Every time a see a father with a young child I feel terible for H. I know that even though he knew this child was a mistake and should have never happened he was still excited to be a father. I would love to be able to give that too him, but I will not put a child into this situation until I know where our marriage stands.

I will keep everyone posted. Thanks for the support!

B.~