A little of my story...WW left me 01/23/04 and moved into OM's house....He just started his sentence sor DUI.....weeks house arrest two years probation and not allowed to drive untill 02/05...We have a 10 yr old D and been together for 11 yrs...Her first love my second.... She filed for divorce in july 04 Which I have heard no more about it......WW is not allowed to have anything to do with me what so ever......I found out that OM has been hitting her on November 1st...She had call me about another matter and I told her that I could not believe she allows this...It has been going on since march 04....I did go down there 2 days later to confront OM and he would not come across the street.( The [censored] that he is) well 2 days later she tryed to get restaining order against...I got a warning from a different..law firm ...Her D lawyer found out about the beatings now she does not use him and she owes him money anyway...OM has not hit WW while DD is there......I have called CPS ,School, I take DD to IC every two weeks I even told state police about it....Three weeks ago some one cut up a trampoline out side there OM's house and they called Police and blamed it on me....When Police called 2 days later I told him about Beatings and That I don't go into peoples yards and cut up stuff......Then 2 weeks ago I find out That WW is Pregnent with OM's Baby.....about 3 month's....I was wondering why WW was calling to see if I still had insurance on her........I told her no but I do have it on the kids, and she was pissed......We talked last week on the phone for 20 minutes and I finnally told her how I feel about the whole mess. We both cryed and I asked her how she could have a baby with a man that beats on her and she denyed it and I told her in detail about each beatting that I was told about by the neighbors and people that were there......( he does it infront of people) She said well them people can't talk about anyone...( stop denying it)....I told her what I have been through in the past 11 months....How I feel about it all and that My family is there for her and so am I.......she has not even been to a doctor yet......I told her on the phone that she needs to see a doctor and that I would pay for the visit if I had too....She ended up going to social services and she has to pay $140.00 a month for it......Now what gets me is this [censored] has not even cared about her seeing a doctor.......and I know he is going to hit her again.....OM has three kids by two ther women He pays for one of them but not the other two...he has beatten on the other women....That is probly why that don't want nothing to do with Him...I even told WW back in March that I heard he beats on women and she did not even want to hear it.....I still love WW and I would probly take her and the baby back....She was a good women before this all went down.....Now the other day My mom got a birthday card fro WW telling Mom that she is the best mom in the world and that she misses her and loves her....with just her name on the card (WW) I did plan B her and now I kinda switched back to plan A again....I think my WW is really thinking that she has gotten herseft in a real pickel....but not ready for me yet.....I did tell her that if she needs anything at all....at all I will be there and so will the family...I told her that she does not ever have to feel that she is trapped there even if she does not want to come back home I will help her with her own place and a phone.....What do ya all think....am I nuts.........

I don't think you're nuts....I think this situation is nuts. frank, sometimes, you can't protect people from their own lack of self esteem. Do what you can to let your wife know that she is safe to come back to you....but you can't control if she chooses to do that.

(((((((((((((((frank)))))))))))))))

I guess I will let God handle it................It is in his hands...

frank,

What starfish says is absolutely true---you should let your wife know that she has a safe haven with you, should she need it. Be extra vigilent with your daughter---it would be best if you could get primary physical custody of her. I wouldn't trust this guy with her at all.

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<small>[ January 02, 2005, 10:39 PM: Message edited by: jamieb706 ]</small>

Frank,
I have followed your posts I think your a wonderful man a lesser man would have taken his DD and ran!!1.protect your DD as well as your self "no telling what this OM could do " if he thinks one of you are a therat to him haveing what he wants "compleat control of your WW. Find a safe way to tell WW you still love her and will be there for her in any way she needs.She is probly ashamed of her self and simple pride,fear ect,ect.... Might be keeping her in this bad situation you know her better than any one elece!
why do YOU think she is staying w/ this sorry shell of a man? or what ever you want to call him i could think some names @$%&$@%* .$&(&^$$@

She is in love......Pride,who knows, I will now step back and watch what happens.......