Hello ladies,

This is sooooo refreshing....a good side to things!! I was actually LOL to alot of you guys comments! I feel even stronger now since I read some of your experiences...especially since they were similiar to mine!

I have long since been called SUPERWOMAN!!!! But I going to try to find a new & improved nickname for myself...lol.

Thanks GIO for starting the inspiration!!!!

Take care.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> It angers her that I have broken her evil spell (b*tchcraft) over my marriage. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh boy... LOVE IT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Must use that in a sentence, soon!!!

Mily- I am SO HAPPY to hear that you are making a bit of a turn around... I think its time for you to put on that DIVA t-shirt, dont you????

KT has one on- and has the haircut to match. I love that KT - she is SO wordy just like me!

Oh p.s.... KT- how are you gona tell me to stop reading "over there"..... I guess you have a point... since SOME OF US are deleted for anything we say, simply cause we are "The Wives of Cheating Husbands"... hahahahhaa

Hey Lynn, I have a question that YOU may have a real good time answering.... do you think I'd be more of a doormat or an dummy to be holding on to my man if I was the WIFE of a "cheating husband".. or holding on to the man, as simply the girlfriend of a cheating husband, who is getting used for some side [censored] and ego stroking? (oh I mean soul mate) Okay, I had to throw that in there.. sooo "bitter" of me! hahahhaa <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

<small>[ January 06, 2005, 02:22 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

GIo you are so bad


Thats why i enjoying talking to you guys

LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I think doormat fits an ow perfectly don't you? Afterall, they are the ones who knowingly and willingly meet in parking lots across the land, and have sex in cars and trucks or at motels. They are the dirty secrets that people hide and don't want the world to know about.

I once read where an ow was like a Christmas Tree, all bright and new and different. But look at how guady and old a Christmas tree looks after the holidays. Worn a bit. The bright glass decorations now look obnoxious. So it goes. The wife is like the oak tree, strong, straight, beautiful. We don't hid oak trees in the attic!

So who is the door matt? I would say the ow. Afterall, I walk on doormats, unlike an ow who probably rolls one up for a pillow! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Lynn you are so right

Oh xmas tree oh xmas tree how ugly & dumb can you be. That will be a new song.

Its sad how they think that you will really leave H after the whole. what the eff do they really expect they are a bunuch of dumb arses!!!!

what is that saying live, love and learn.

thats what we have all done and we are STILL LIVING, LOVING and some are still LEARNING.

You girls are crackin' me up!

I LOVED that b**chcraft line too!!!! Way to break that evil SPELL!!!!!!

And we ALL know what happens after the evil spell is broken right?......

......WE go on to live happily ever after w/ the prince who becomes the KING!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

told ya'! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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And that whole thing about 'parking lots, cars & motels' is SO on target lynn!

It's one thing when you are married & go away for nice get away in a HOTEL but come on.....renting a 'room' for what? a skeezy hour/lunch break? (oh & OC mom paid for those herself! hahahahahahahaha) Can't you get more original? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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WoW! I think I really am in recovery becuase it doesn't make me want to vomit any more to think of those things. LOL It's just so pathetic.

We don't need to get into all of that w/ so many newbies around. I remember how much it made me physically wrech when I thought of 'those things'.

But see newbies.....you get over it. You fill your head w/ WONDERFUL NEW memories w/ H & your family. Really you do! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You fill your life w/ things YOU love, things that make YOU happy & you fill your home w/ YOU & your LOVE. YOU LIVE fully & you LIVE WELL....like lynng always says!

I remember last year, OW was in her usual game playing stow-ic phase (which never ended) but we were headed in the right direction-H & I, WE were CHOOSING to be together in this & make OUR family a priority.

WE planned a weekend get away to a cabin in the snow-----the whole ktbunch, OC included. (we didn't tell OW till' the very last minute) but anyway....we were creating NEW family memories.

Oh....it was the BEST weekend! THE kids had so much fun sledding in the snow, as did I! It was typical CA mountain weather, WARM! LOL WE had hot cocoa, homemade breakfasts w/ eggs, bacon, toast, pancake, which H made! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> We watched movies in the evening.

Then after the kids went to bed, dead tired & very willingly, we had some WE time, cozy & romantic by the fireplace w/ wine (and new lingerie of course! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )

See.........it was a start of a whole new phase...the WE phase. WE spent the summer camping @ the beach, many times, take regular family trips to the drive-in (sometimes w/o the ktbunch! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> )

We're already making plans to go back this year too!!!!!(we've had snow since halloween this year? Can you believe that....in CA?)

And now..........w/ valentine's right around the corner? watch out....

It takes time...sure, but as lynng has promised........it is just an 'event', a 'moment' in the big scheme of things.........and eventually it is just a DISTANT memory.


xoxoxoxoxoxo
kt

{the queen of everything, who's dd is the princess of quite alot!} <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You guys DO ROCK!!! As a newbie, I must say you all have helped me so much. I really wish my H would get thru his issues so that we could stay together because I really think I could handle the OW/OC thing if I knew that my H was 100% but until he realizes he needs medication - I swear to you guys the man is bi-polar in fact he is the poster child for it but he won't take meds. When he is up, things are great, he is SO sweet and romantic and GREAT in bed <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> but when he is down he is hateful and agressive and so not in touch with reality <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> We still are talking cuz of our son and that leads to "Can I take you out to dinner?" and it's just so hard for me to say no...Girls I just love him so much, but as bad as he is right now w/o meds I just see a big D in our future...but you girls REALLY help me keep my sanity!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Have a great weekend!!!

KT
you are so right. esopecially about the part of Hotel Rooms and OW paying for it How stupid can they be, hey but taht is and was their fault/problem. Like you I use to wrench at the thought and would get anxiety attacks thinking about it, but now as time is going on, I really dont get sick or have anxiety atacks anymore. Tryin to move on with my life, my marriage it DOES get easier and BETTER with time.

All we can do is stick together and keep each other moving forward. I swear you guys are like my best friends.

I usually laugh at half of what I read on SluttyB.
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It comes down to this, the OW is a new toy and nothing more. Has there been one woman HERE who has let her H continue to sleep with the OW and still remain M?? I haven't read that anywhere!! But the OW is the one allowing and willing accepting a MM who is screwing them and then returning to make love to his W too!!??!! And WE'RE the dumb ones???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
Most OW are comic relief in themselves! They whine and <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> over their loss and the OC's they CHOOSE to bring into this world. Get over it!

And I love to hear what a stink they make the moment someone says something about CS being paid for by the Mom (OW) too. I read that on another board that a couple has custody of OC and think the OW should pay CS. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> OMG! What a concept!
And the way OW want CS but then don't want MM or his W involved in the OC's life!

I'm shocked at what of these so called "great" Mothers do to their children. Packing them up and moving them across the country because of a new man they met through the internet and have only known for a few months!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Or moving a man into their house immediately after the last one moved out. They need a revolving door to keep up! And don't even get me started when one of them gets married! OH they're going to be the perfect W and he will NEVER cheat on her because she so special etc etc! I can't wait for the Karma hand to smack them upside the head! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Sorry I'm *****y today, bad day at work and have a funeral to go to on top of it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Lynn, KT and all you ladies are Goddesses! and I'm grateful I find this place to vent and talk with other awesome women!

Gwenie

WAnt to hear about Karma, how about the OW in my life was married as well, and her H left her (we Me And H are assuming its because of A) now not only does she have a C by My H but she has a (i think 2 1/2 or 3year) by her H. That is KArma, kicking her in the [censored].

I say what people like OW WILL NEVER TRULY EVER BE happy, after they trouble they have caused. Now all i can do is sit back and laugh about how stupid she looks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Dont feel one bit sorry for her.

hey what goes around comes around. And thank god i have you guys to vent to.

My OW ... ugh! that does not sound right ...
OW could not believe that WxH was lying to her too! It was ok for him to lie to me but not to her ... She said 'he does not lie to me, never has" ... what!?!?!? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

you guys are just too funny!

Then ow says well I didnt know he was married. In the same tongue say you didnt see me sitting at his friends house when you came to pick up the Lincoln Navigator? So who did you think I was his friend borrowing his truck? lol!

Then If I knew he was married I would not have had oc. Then, what's even funnier the statement that I would have had an abortion if he would have just paid the bread. (money) Then forgets she even said that and says why get an abortion when I didn't do anything wrong he was the one married. lol!

Then the most famous H doesn't do anything for my son! Oh so where does the cs go? Maybe in the trash. lol. Oh and she lived off the government which H is now paying back. So who is the one not doing anything?

Oh the things that come out of our mouths......

Oh please My OW knew H was Married OW was married, I swear to God she got Pregnant on purpose, because I will be the first one to tell you My H DOES NOT BELIEVE IN ABORTION but he gave her money and asked to get one and she said NO. But she also would make comments to him (when my H would tell her were both married **** like that) she would tell him bu My H not you. SHe had it out for my H and the [censored] didnot, would not or could not see it and WE I specify WE have to now to deal with the results for the rest of our lives

But Mily, notdoneinyet, Lonely---

the WIVES OF CHEATING hubands ( you, me ) SHOULD just LEAVE him ... hand him over along with our family's money, our home, etc. etc.. because UNLIKE US, THE OW(sex friend of cheating H) REEEALY LOVES HIM.. and REEEALLY KNOWS THIS MAN (ha ha ha ha what a joke).. and he doesn't lie to *HER*.....

They don't care who was married and who was not-- they are the SHINING OW who is killing herself to be SO PERFECT and WONDERFUL-- and compete with the unknowing W-- without our KNOWLEDGE! They get OFF on the fact that they married at first- and are the "wonderful relief" for our H.... I mean if you are gona compete and be so shady--let us, the W know about this fierce woo-ing competition !!!

So my point is... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> I dunno- but it was something.. LOL!!!

<small>[ January 07, 2005, 04:34 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>

GIo

Good Poinit, Idont know (hahaha)

Well, I am out of here for the weekend you guys have a great weekend.

Gio do you go to SBF?
if so Im Whitegirl, posted Pics

I want to but I could not get on there- man I want to this weekend!!!

KT or Sunny I KNOW you tried to help w/this before.. but could you help me again somehow??? I'll try to email KT again to get instructions.

Whitegirl??? ha! Thats funny! I guess in my marriage, that would refer to "my half" too... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />